Your Kids Picking Up On DCK Behavior...

[MyKzooFamily]

How do you stop or limit your children from picking up on DCK bad behavior? I have a 5 year old and 2 year old, and they pick up on everything the daycare kids do. Within 2 days of playdates (haven't even restarted up daycare since I had my newest baby), my son is already picking up tons of stuff I'm against.

I also had to deal with the 4 and 8 year old boys throwing toys at walls, throwing sand out of sandbox, climbing swingset, throwing things at moving ceiling fan, sneaking video games, fighing, more fighting. I have had great kids before, so I'm wondering if it's the older age that is more troublesome. My 1-3 year old's NEVER did stuff like this. But I can only take 3+ for daycare (have 2 spots to fill besides my own kids), so I'm hoping for some WELL behaved 3-5 year old's here. My son is homeschooled, so he will be interacting with the kids here and there throughout the day.

Hubby says no daycare after seeing what the kids did, and how our son picked up on it.

[Michael]

We have a tag for Contagious Behavior: https://www.daycare.com/forum/tags.p...gious+behavior

[Kabob]

My 2 yo ds also picked up some bad habits from the older boys I had here (3-5 yo boys). He lost all those habits as soon as those boys were gone.

I never plan to take kids going to school now as I find that the older they get the rougher they play and the more disruptive they are in daycare as I am geared more towards the 1-3 yo crowd. Maybe you could avoid those kids that are currently causing a problem since it's just play dates and stick with a younger age group for daycare?

Of course you still are going to run the risk of having kids teach other kids bad habits but that's what interviews and contracts are for...you can always wait for the right family or term if it's not a good fit.

[Blackcat31]

How do you stop or limit your children from picking up on DCK bad behavior? I have a 5 year old and 2 year old, and they pick up on everything the daycare kids do. Within 2 days of playdates (haven't even restarted up daycare since I had my newest baby), my son is already picking up tons of stuff I'm against.

I also had to deal with the 4 and 8 year old boys throwing toys at walls, throwing sand out of sandbox, climbing swingset, throwing things at moving ceiling fan, sneaking video games, fighing, more fighting. I have had great kids before, so I'm wondering if it's the older age that is more troublesome. My 1-3 year old's NEVER did stuff like this. But I can only take 3+ for daycare (have 2 spots to fill besides my own kids), so I'm hoping for some WELL behaved 3-5 year old's here. My son is homeschooled, so he will be interacting with the kids here and there throughout the day.

Hubby says no daycare after seeing what the kids did, and how our son picked up on it.

As a parent, it's hard.

If you work outside of your home, your kids pick up behavior from others and if you work in your home, your kids pick up the behaviors from those kids...

AHHH!

What I did was make sure I had multiple discussions with my own kids about my expectations for them. I made sure they understood (or at least were told a thousand times) that I expected them to listen to me not the other kids.

I was also really consistent and firm with the consequences if they did do something I didn't like.

It was hard but I think if they hear it enough and the consequences are the same each time, they WILL understand before too long.

As a provider, I tried REALLY hard to enroll kids that came from families that shared my parenting philosophies and that I knew would reinforce the same at home. If a child was allowed to do things I wouldn't allow my own to do and/or the parent didn't care or thought I was too strict, then I knew they were the wrong fit for my program.

It makes enrolling hard sometimes but honestly it makes a HUGE difference and when it comes down to it, I choose to do this so I could be with my child and ANYTHING I bring into my environment HAS to match my thoughts and beliefs and parenting philosophies or it just won't work.

HTH

[cheerfuldom]

As a parent, it's hard.

If you work outside of your home, your kids pick up behavior from others and if you work in your home, your kids pick up the behaviors from those kids...

AHHH!

What I did was make sure I had multiple discussions with my own kids about my expectations for them. I made sure they understood (or at least were told a thousand times) that I expected them to listen to me not the other kids.

I was also really consistent and firm with the consequences if they did do something I didn't like.

It was hard but I think if they hear it enough and the consequences are the same each time, they WILL understand before too long.

As a provider, I tried REALLY hard to enroll kids that came from families that shared my parenting philosophies and that I knew would reinforce the same at home. If a child was allowed to do things I wouldn't allow my own to do and/or the parent didn't care or thought I was too strict, then I knew they were the wrong fit for my program.

It makes enrolling hard sometimes but honestly it makes a HUGE difference and when it comes down to it, I choose to do this so I could be with my child and ANYTHING I bring into my environment HAS to match my thoughts and beliefs and parenting philosophies or it just won't work.

HTH

good advice.

no matter what way you slice it, the two kids you took already are not a good fit. It can be hard to find a good fit with the older crowd too, especially school agers.

[melilley]

I'm going through this with my 1.5 yo ds. I have a challenging 2.5 yo and my ds (and other dck's) picks up and does everything that this child does. It drives me crazy!
On one hand I kind of want to term the 2.5 yo, but like I told my dh, I can't always guarantee that I will have angels in my dc and if ds did go somewhere else, there's usually one in the bunch. My 2.5 yo dcb won't be here tomorrow or next week, I'm curious as to how everyone else is going to act.