Question for Mods...

[Leanna]

That's my big hang up! I feel like I've gotten to know so many of you and I know you don't all make your way over to those members only areas!

If BC thinks it would detach me from my story, then I would be willing to create a whole new account. I would just message my friends privately and let them know it's me. On the other hand, that's MY story dammit. I shouldn't have to detach myself from it.

I'm so torn.

It must have taken a lot of courage and emotional strength to post your story here to begin with. I'd hate for you to have to detach from something that I am sure changed your life and impacts you everyday. However, I still think your emotional health is the most important factor. I am sure you feel torn because what happened is a part of you, but remember that baby and his family will always be in your heart and thoughts no matter what your "user name" or whatnot.

[Blackcat31]

OR!! Brainstorm! Change my user name?? Would that remove the trace back to my story about Sal?

Changing your user name makes ALL your old posts reflect your new user name.

You would have to create a whole new account and close the old one. Just PM me and I can help you out.

Also, yes ANY posts in the off topic and private thread areas are visible/accessible by registered users ONLY.

Unregistered users can not see or read any of the threads or posts in those areas.

[Blackcat31]

So if i post strictly in the members only areas, unregistered users can't respond to my posts?

Correct.

I agree that there are far more valuable unregistered users than there are trolls, but I don't want to open myself up to such attacks. And I can't see any registered member saying things like the troll did, because hey, they're registered! No one would want to put there name on such horrible comments.

Unfortunately that is not necessarily true.

We've had our share of registered crazies too.

I really love this forum and have come to depend on all of you as my online "friends" to share advice with, stories with, etc, but at the same time, I can't come here and be called a baby killer. My mental/emotional health can't take it.

So I'm thinking it may be best for me to either post only where members can respond, or just lay off the forum for a while, as much as I would HATE that. I don't want to be "run off", but this whole situation has made me afraid of what may happen if I post here.

I hope you understand where I'm coming from. I'm not advocating for you guys to change the entire format of this forum. I'm just trying to protect myself. So would you suggest I stick to members only areas?

Totally understandable that you would feel the way you do and I am sorry it happened but you have to understand that there really isn't anything the forum can change.

As posters we have to remember that we are chosing whether or not to put information out there. We can't control how readers (BOTH registered and unregistered) are going to react.

You've been an active poster and been a very enjoyable member of many discussions.
You've shared tips and tricks as well as support and friendship to others but you have also chosen on two different occasions to share some rather personal things about yourself

I most definitely respect your right to do that and while I sympathize with you in regards to what happened, you have to bear some responsibility in this and recognize that you posted personal (and controversial according to some) information about yourself openly.

Like Leanna, I commend you and think you were brave to share what you experienced but as I said before, this is a public forum and you (general you) can't control how the public is going to react.

We had a regular member here not too long ago that shared something very personal about herself. Someone took that information and used it against her. She was reported to licensing and went through all sorts of hell. She ended up quitting daycare because the stress of the fallout was too much.

Everything we post becomes "public" as soon as it's posted on the internet.
Others have a right to react to it.
We try to keep the nasty stuff out but we can't completely stop it.

That's something we all have to remember.

[NightOwl]

Can those original threads be deleted?

[Blackcat31]

Can those original threads be deleted?

PM me, I am not sure which ones...

Some... Maybe... but under normal circumstances threads can't be deleted as it messes with the content of the forum but in your case some of the ones containing personal info could absolutely be deleted/altered.

You'd have to point me in the right direction as to which ones though.

PM me the links to which posts/threads.