Update on the Sister/Nephew Saga

[NightOwl]

Michael, can you tell me if the person's ip is from my area in alabama? I kinda need to know if this is personal. Thank you SO MUCH!

[NightOwl]

Ummmmmm? Michael?

[Former Teacher]

It's open again. Thanks to those who let me know via PM and text message. I will stay on it. I can find a lot more about this person since I own the system and have access to trace IP if need be.

Thank you Michael. They seem to be at work again.

[NightOwl]

Just to be clear, my name is Trixie Coley. I have nothing to hide, including my name.

[Former Teacher]

Wednesday-

I will be sending you a PM

[Unregistered]

Oh. Wrong person. SORRY.

[NightOwl]

You however, should reconsider your words since you can be tracked down. How's the weather over there in Wichita, btw?

[Blackcat31]

Ummmmmm? Michael?

I will be home shortly and will Pm you...

[craftymissbeth]

In Wichita? Woah, that's a little too close to home.

[NightOwl]

I think we scared them off with that.

[NightOwl]

Wednesday I hope you don’t take this negatively. One of my pet peeves is when an enabler complains.

Stop being part of it. It is really that simple. And if you can’t then just deal with it because you’ve allowed yourself to participate in her foolishness.

I write this from the stand point of dealing with a couple relatives who leech, use and depend on others to facilitate their lifestyles. I refuse to be a part of it. It’s my life and I have a responsibility in the quality of it. Yes, I have gone months without talking to others in the family over it. They thought I was being selfish & mean for not helping. I have no issue with helping. I have an issue with knowingly helping users, slackers & deadbeats. Blood doesn’t make it alright to use you or abuse your business. Blood doesn’t mean you should be a doormat. Blood doesn’t mean other children in your care should be subjective you your nephew’s poor behavior. I GET HE IS PROBABLY A GREAT LITTLE GUY who needs his mother to get it together. I also understand you love him.

Create clear boundaries for her as you would a non related client. Failure to do so is a disservice to your sister, yourself and more importantly your nephew.

Now that the drama is over....

You are absolutely right. I accuse my mom of enabling, but I also do it by allowing this to go on. We have huge fights that get us nowhere and only create more hard feelings. And I continue to take him. I contribute to this problem very reluctantly. I'm just so afraid of where he'll end up if I don't take him. And she uses that against me.