Well, This Is A New One (Annoyance) For Me!

[crazydaycarelady]

I started a new 4mo a couple of weeks ago. Dcm comes at lunchtime to breastfeed. I have been sending her upstairs into the dining room for this. Well, guess who is meeting her here now??? Dcd! They are having a little lunchtime family rendezvous here at my house!!

Yeah.......this isn't McDonalds!

[spinnymarie]

who would've thought?!

[craftymissbeth]

Yeah that wouldn't work for me ::

[crazydaycarelady]

What do I say? I mean I have to have this "open door policy" where they can come and see their kids whenever, so why not both parents, and why not at lunchtime?

It's just that I didn't even know who was here in my house. I heard a man voice so I look up there and here is dcd!

I just don't like it. It's not even for very long - 20 minutes at most, but still.

[playground1]

Honestly, that wouldn't bother me at all. What would bother me is that he couldn't even say hello and let you know he was there.

[Blackcat31]

What do I say? I mean I have to have this "open door policy" where they can come and see their kids whenever, so why not both parents, and why not at lunchtime?

It's just that I didn't even know who was here in my house. I heard a man voice so I look up there and here is dcd!

I just don't like it. It's not even for very long - 20 minutes at most, but still.

Open door policy means access to their child NOT visiting with them.

I explain clearly to parents that "open door" policy means you can come and pick up your child ANY time you want.

I would have issues with a daily luncheon. Why not just tell the parents it is getting to be too confusing for the other kids and that you would prefer they either take the baby to the car (they can go to a park or McDonalds or wherever) and bring baby back after they had their lunch visit.

[rebekki78]

Honestly, that wouldn't bother me at all. What would bother me is that he couldn't even say hello and let you know he was there.

This. I think I wouldn't mind either, but I'm not sure if I would want it to happen every day. But I would not be comfortable not knowing ahead of time!

[NeedaVaca]

I would have a problem with this. I'm working, my house is not a hangout. Mom can feed the baby and leave or they can go to a park or something if they want family time. My open door policy does not mean parents get to hang out and play etc, but they are welcome to come pick up their child anytime and leave.

[Childminder]

The family reunion wouldn't bother me but I would have appreciated their asking or communicating with me first about it. Common courtesy.

This is all about QRIS, btw. Access and parental involvement. ::

[DaisyMamma]

Not much you can do. You agreed to it initially, right?

The baby will outgrow it, eventually. Hopefully they don't keep doing it after the fact, like when baby is eating regular meals and they all want to eat lunch together, not that I blame them...

I'm not sure I would have agreed initially. I tell moms they can leave breast milk. I've never had anyone ask if they could come to breastfeed at an interview, but if they did I would probably suddenly have other people interested in the space and would "let them know".... And I know that's not right in some people's eyes, but it makes me uncomfortable and this is my home.

[DaisyMamma]

The family reunion wouldn't bother me but I would have appreciated their asking or communicating with me first about it. [about the dad coming as well] Common courtesy.

That is true.

This is all about QRIS, btw. Access and parental involvement. ::

What is QRIS?

[Blackcat31]

What is QRIS?

Quality Rating and Improvement System.

It is the federal governments name for what we (child care providers) all know as the star rating systems... each state seems to call theirs something different.

[midaycare]

I agree with PP who said to ask them to go to their car.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Open door policy means access to their child NOT visiting with them.

I explain clearly to parents that "open door" policy means you can come and pick up your child ANY time you want.

I would have issues with a daily luncheon. Why not just tell the parents it is getting to be too confusing for the other kids and that you would prefer they either take the baby to the car (they can go to a park or McDonalds or wherever) and bring baby back after they had their lunch visit.

This sounds like a good compromise!

[crazydaycarelady]

I don't think I ever really agreed to this. Dcm never mentioned it until the first day at drop-off that she would come at lunch. No mention of dcd coming ever!

I never really thought about open-door being pick your kids up instead of you can see your kids whenever you want! I am going to be more specific in my contract about that!

It's just weird having another family up at my table enjoying lunch while I am working and wishing I could take a lunch break like that.