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You may have remembered I had been discussing a 16m old that was hitting, pushing, excessively whiny/crying lately and recently bit a child lightly.
He bit again, hard, on Friday. I told mom if it happens again then they need to find alternative care. She was upset, asked if she should daycare hop between 6-8 daycares while he was biting. I said No, most home daycares won't enroll or keep biting children. She asked about a center. I said most of the local centers are more tolerable of biting. But keep in mind, he will be enrolled with other biting children (this mom is VERY protective). She was super worried as she is expecting in December and I would have had a spot for the baby - it's near impossible to get care under 6m in a center or in home here - its just too full, honest to God. You can expect to pay high $$ if you want to hold a spot - if you can even find one as few to no providers have 2 openings. I get calls from people 1 month pregnant wanting to pay and hold a spot for the next 10-12 months for their infant, no joke.
Anyway, she leaves upset and near tears. She texts me to call her to clarify the situation (which I explained in detail to her upon pickup). So I call her.
She immediately starts disrespecting me and my policies, insinuating I was a liar and many other things. VERY vindictive and MAD at me - because her child was close to being removed from my program. Said I never communicated, that we should make a plan instead of terminate. I told her, no. I am not making a biting plan - I have been shadowing him for a month now and he has been able to bite 2 children while I was shadowing, its not working. This is my decision. She started arguing. I said Since you don't respect my decision or this policy on biting, you are being terminated immediately. I said I didn't deserve her disrespect or attitude and I would hold her son's items for 2 weeks for pickup. She snarkily told me she didn't need anything he had here (epi-pen, lovey, diapers, $30 of lotions, sippys.....) I told her fine, 2 weeks - June 14th and it will be disguarded (really just gets absorbed into DC). I wished her luck finding care for her 16m DS that would be able to better meet his needs.
Honestly. I was fuming and shaking and near tears when I hung up the phone (which basically I had to hang up on her as she kept turning the end of the conversation back around so she could re-bash my "inability to watch her son".) Her previous provider was a family friend that they had a "falling out with" - she had said mom was controlling, but we seemed to be a good fit at the time. Good luck finding an in home childcare that will take you with 2 black marks from previous providers. Good riddance....and check out this new backbone I grew!
He bit again, hard, on Friday. I told mom if it happens again then they need to find alternative care. She was upset, asked if she should daycare hop between 6-8 daycares while he was biting. I said No, most home daycares won't enroll or keep biting children. She asked about a center. I said most of the local centers are more tolerable of biting. But keep in mind, he will be enrolled with other biting children (this mom is VERY protective). She was super worried as she is expecting in December and I would have had a spot for the baby - it's near impossible to get care under 6m in a center or in home here - its just too full, honest to God. You can expect to pay high $$ if you want to hold a spot - if you can even find one as few to no providers have 2 openings. I get calls from people 1 month pregnant wanting to pay and hold a spot for the next 10-12 months for their infant, no joke.
Anyway, she leaves upset and near tears. She texts me to call her to clarify the situation (which I explained in detail to her upon pickup). So I call her.
She immediately starts disrespecting me and my policies, insinuating I was a liar and many other things. VERY vindictive and MAD at me - because her child was close to being removed from my program. Said I never communicated, that we should make a plan instead of terminate. I told her, no. I am not making a biting plan - I have been shadowing him for a month now and he has been able to bite 2 children while I was shadowing, its not working. This is my decision. She started arguing. I said Since you don't respect my decision or this policy on biting, you are being terminated immediately. I said I didn't deserve her disrespect or attitude and I would hold her son's items for 2 weeks for pickup. She snarkily told me she didn't need anything he had here (epi-pen, lovey, diapers, $30 of lotions, sippys.....) I told her fine, 2 weeks - June 14th and it will be disguarded (really just gets absorbed into DC). I wished her luck finding care for her 16m DS that would be able to better meet his needs.
Honestly. I was fuming and shaking and near tears when I hung up the phone (which basically I had to hang up on her as she kept turning the end of the conversation back around so she could re-bash my "inability to watch her son".) Her previous provider was a family friend that they had a "falling out with" - she had said mom was controlling, but we seemed to be a good fit at the time. Good luck finding an in home childcare that will take you with 2 black marks from previous providers. Good riddance....and check out this new backbone I grew!
Good riddance!
: She could teach the other termed DCM a thing or two.
Way to go TaylorTots!
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