DCG~4 Throws Heavy Rock at My Dad

[TaylorTots]

Alright, why do we think she will get a DHS visit? I missed something nannyde :confused:

And though I don't believe it, I am on your side and hope she brings the money!

[Play Care]

Alright, why do we think she will get a DHS visit? I missed something nannyde :confused:

And though I don't believe it, I am on your side and hope she brings the money!

I imagine because mom will be upset. So she will call and claim the provider was horrible or abusive or whatever nonsense. And they *have* to investigate. OP if you are licensed your first call today should be to your licensor to let her know what has happened, sticking to the facts - aggressive child (biting, hitting, throwing rocks, etc.) and you termed. It won't mean you won't get a visit, but it usually is helpful giving them the full picture.

[coolconfidentme]

She won't bring the money but you will get a dhs visit so get ready.

TRUTH!!
Make sure you tell licensing of DCG's behavior. It happened to me, but I kept licensing informed of the behavior along the way.

[childcaremom]

I guess I just feel like I am a horrible provider now.

No. You aren't. You tried and gave this girl a chance to thrive in your environment. :hug:

[gracepatiencelove]

TRUTH!!
Make sure you tell licensing of DCG's behavior. It happened to me, but I kept licensing informed of the behavior along the way.

I have a written log of incidents after extended trial, but that's literally just 3 days worth of info. I also have texts between me and mom re the behavior.

What should my email to my licensor say?

[Blackcat31]

I have a written log of incidents after extended trial, but that's literally just 3 days worth of info. I also have texts between me and mom re the behavior.

What should my email to my licensor say?

Just give her a run down of what happened. A quick e-mail summarizing the events and letting her know you have incident logs and texts to confirm.

Just so your licensor has the provider "report" before the parent calls and makes accusations.

NOT saying she will but being proactive helps.

[NightOwl]

Im wondering if she showed up to pay?

[Unregistered]

Assessment

In order to be constructive, I'd add to the letter or conversation that the child will be more successful in an environment with multiple adults and I would suggest that she consider having the child evaluated. This could be Aspergers or some other disorder. They tend to manifest differently in girls than boys.

[DaisyMamma]

say goodbye and move on.

[drseuss]

In order to be constructive, I'd add to the letter or conversation that the child will be more successful in an environment with multiple adults and I would suggest that she consider having the child evaluated. This could be Aspergers or some other disorder. They tend to manifest differently in girls than boys.

OT, but can't let this one go...Violence is NOT A SYMPTOM OR SIGN OF AS. You need to stop saying that, as it perpetuates fear and negativity toward those with the disorder.

[gracepatiencelove]

OT, but can't let this one go...Violence is NOT A SYMPTOM OR SIGN OF AS. You need to stop saying that, as it perpetuates fear and negativity toward those with the disorder.

I fully know this but I would like to add that she did have a lot of behaviors that were very similar to my other DCG with ASD (who has never intentionally hurt anyone).

This girl (rock thrower) was spanked and I believe her mom probably smacked her (in the face) but I have no proof. I think violence begets violence.

[gracepatiencelove]

Im wondering if she showed up to pay?

Nope.

She owes me $4.

I think I am just going to leave it and drop their stuff in a bag on her porch and text to let her know that. Or just keep it ready to go for a few a while then toss. I'm not eating the cost of certified mailing or anything, no way, but it's $4, and I would have paid her $4 for her to leave anyway .

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

OT, but can't let this one go...Violence is NOT A SYMPTOM OR SIGN OF AS. You need to stop saying that, as it perpetuates fear and negativity toward those with the disorder.

Yes. I am not nor have I ever been violent.