DCG~4 Throws Heavy Rock at My Dad

[daycarediva]

Adios! I would call and have them picked up immediately. I handled a very aggressive dck for over a year (past abuse) and it was a daily struggle. I won't do that again, ever.

[gracepatiencelove]

I feel sick to my stomach with this stress

[MissAnn]

I once kept a boy too long after showing some violent tendencies. He knocked a boy down and that boy had to get stitches very close to his eye. I still kept him....until 2 days later he threw a big rock at another boy. That was his last day. I kept thinking I could just warch him closer. You cannot afford that type of liability. I'd let her go......and I know it's hard.

[Play Care]

I feel sick to my stomach with this stress

:hug::hug::hug:

As soon as she leaves it will be OVER. You will be all DONE! You will feel the weight of the world off your shoulders.
Hang in there!!!

[Blackcat31]

I feel sick to my stomach with this stress

Hey, dont be so hard on yourself... You already went above and beyond.

You cant walk away feeling like you didnt try hard enough because you tried harder than most so hold you head up high and let her go knowing you are doing everyone a favor.

The kids in your care by keeping them safe and the DCG and her mom by forcing mom to realize her child really does need help.

(((Hugs))).

[Rockgirl]

I feel sick to my stomach with this stress

It will feel so much better after she's gone!

[snbauser]

It sounds like the more comfortable she gets in an environment, the more her true colors are coming out.

[Unregistered]

Op here

Told mom. She's resigned but didn't argue.

Dcg is now claiming she was trying to throw it on the ground. When she tells mom that, how do I reply?

[Blackcat31]

Op here

Told mom. She's resigned but didn't argue.

Dcg is now claiming she was trying to throw it on the ground. When she tells mom that, how do I reply?

I wouldn't.

I would tell mom what you originally told her.

If her child has had previous issues with behavior, she is probably pretty good at changing up the story too..kwim?

Kids that have continual behavioral issues become VERY skilled at knowing what to say, how to say it and when.

Tell mom that is simply not true and besides, throwing a rock period is NOT ok. Whether she was aiming at the ground or a person.

She should not have thrown it anywhere unless you gave permission and there was a point to the throwing...watching ripples in the water as you toss rocks in etc...

[Jack Sprat]

I feel sick to my stomach with this stress

This will go away once you term! I had a very similar situation. I hung on till two weeks ago. I feel SO much better now. It's hard to term, it ****s all around. But, in the long run its worth it!

[gracepatiencelove]

I wouldn't.

I would tell mom what you originally told her.

If her child has had previous issues with behavior, she is probably pretty good at changing up the story too..kwim?

Kids that have continual behavioral issues become VERY skilled at knowing what to say, how to say it and when.

Tell mom that is simply not true and besides, throwing a rock period is NOT ok. Whether she was aiming at the ground or a person.

She should not have thrown it anywhere unless you gave permission and there was a point to the throwing...watching ripples in the water as you toss rocks in etc...

You're right. I guess I just feel like I am a horrible provider now. This DCG coupled with my own 3.5yo going through a horrible defiant stage. Ugh.

Thanks guys. I am going on vacation this weekend so I'm glad it's over. As someone oft quoted in my home said, "the past is in the past" and soon this will be in the past!

[e.j.]

You're right. I guess I just feel like I am a horrible provider now.

You're not a horrible provider for terming a child who has behavior issues that put others at risk. You're safeguarding the other kids in your care and you're protecting your business and good name. Besides, you don't want to have her playing role model for your son if he is going through his own defiant stage right now.

You also may be helping her more than you know right now. There are only so many day cares she can be kicked out of before her mother has to face the fact that her dd needs something she isn't getting right now. It could be more effective discipline at home, it could be professional help.... This could be the termination that wakes dcm up and forces her into action.
Enjoy your vacation. Sounds like you deserve one!

[Unregistered]

OP here

She didn't even pick up her kids. Had her mom do it. Said she'd swing by tomorrow and pick up their stuff and give me the rest of the $ she owes. That was easier than I thought!

[Laurel]

OP here

She didn't even pick up her kids. Had her mom do it. Said she'd swing by tomorrow and pick up their stuff and give me the rest of the $ she owes. That was easier than I thought!

I bet she won't bring the money. I collect on the Monday before care is provided. Hope she does though.

Laurel

[nannyde]

She won't bring the money but you will get a dhs visit so get ready.