ugh! Enrolling older infants is NOT for me...

[Heidi]

This little girl, 9 months, is an absolute doll. Very cute, but I am being reminded every day why I don't like enrolling this age.
(this is only the start of week 2).

-Screams BLOODY FRIGGIN' murder every nap. It took almost an hour to get her down for nap this morning, then I woke her after 30 minutes because it was time to go outside. I was already stretching it, too, because there is a window there for outside time before the next round of meal/diapers/nap

-Wakes up screamin BLOODY FRIGGIN' murder

-This afternoon, slept an hour. That's all...then...you guessed it, BFM!::

Of course, I also can't walk away, can't put her in a playpen, etc.

Hey cry is like the loudest newborn cry ever. High pitched and really, really loud...wah wah wah....

She's also such a well....baby....:: I mean, she's 2 months younger than my next older one, but seems much younger. Can't drink from a cup, barely wants to hold her bottle, can't feed herself (well, she's learning), throws everything off the table onto the floor, etc. I don't blame her and I'm not mad. It's just noticeable that she hasn't grown up here.

No real problem, just kind of venting...

[craftymissbeth]

Hey cry is like the loudest newborn cry ever. High pitched and really, really loud...wah wah wah....

The 6 mo dcb I have cries like that too. Well, screams. Like a fresh little newborn. My guess is because he's rarely allowed to cry at home so his real cry never developed Actually, the more I let him cry the more it's just turning into an I'm dying scream.


:hug: It's tough listening to the crying.

[Luvnmykidz]

I have one here too

:: my dcg is 8 months, doesn't crawl, hold a bottle, or attempt to feed herself. She screams when you are out of her sight. We've played peek a boo a lot today. I'm thinking it will get better once she realizes shes fine. I don't believe they let her cry or ever put her down.

[KiddieCahoots]

I so feel your pain!
Leaving the room to go to the bathroom shouldn't bring on this much noise ::.........

[Chellieleanne]

I had an infant. Once. He was 6months and unable to do anything himself not to mention refused to be on his own for any length of time and mom was so over bearing and had to come every day to see him which added to the problem. She pulled after a week though because she couldn't handle being back at work::

I will never take under 18 months again. Maybe 2 years. I will stick to preschool age that can feed them selves and entertain themselves for a minute so I can go to the restroom

[Sugar Magnolia]

I FEEL YOUR PAIN!
And thanks to your good advice, I was able to get my Lil guy adjusted, finally.
:hug::hug:

[Heidi]

I FEEL YOUR PAIN!
And thanks to your good advice, I was able to get my Lil guy adjusted, finally.
:hug::hug:

:hug:

Apparently, I need to take my own advice. But when she's in there crying her little tuckis off, I actually feel BAD for her...

Like I said, she's pretty darn sweet. Petite little copper top and so cute.

[midaycare]

This is why I prefer the older ones .... but you have them for longer than I do!

[Heidi]

This is why I prefer the older ones .... but you have them for longer than I do!

If I could, I'd enroll them all at 4 weeks...no, 2 weeks...no 2 days!::

Or...a sweet 3 year old like I just got as a temp. She'll be 4 next week, has been here a total of 8 days, and I'd adopt her in a heartbeat. She is the best! Of course, most of the reason she is so sweet is because she has a mom and a GMA who LOVE her to pieces, spend time with her, and have expectations of behavior.

[cheerfuldom]

This is why I only take one child under 12 months. Because a lot of babies are going to cry from like 6 months till whenever they start walking. Sure some of them are better than others as far as personality and independence but the vast majority of the age, especially if you don't have them as newborns, are going to cry a lot during this time frame. By 12 months, I have most of them on a great routine and cooperative with group care but before that, depending on how sensitive or stubborn they are, expect a lot of crying. I do one baby at a time so I have the room to nap them separately so we all dont have to hear screaming all day. It is my personal belief that children should be home with mom till toddler age which is I know is weird since I offer daycare services but it is just more rare than not that a baby is going to happily transition from home to home, caregiver to caregiver.

[Heidi]

This is why I only take one child under 12 months. Because a lot of babies are going to cry from like 6 months till whenever they start walking. Sure some of them are better than others as far as personality and independence but the vast majority of the age, especially if you don't have them as newborns, are going to cry a lot during this time frame. By 12 months, I have most of them on a great routine and cooperative with group care but before that, depending on how sensitive or stubborn they are, expect a lot of crying. I do one baby at a time so I have the room to nap them separately so we all dont have to hear screaming all day. It is my personal belief that children should be home with mom till toddler age which is I know is weird since I offer daycare services but it is just more rare than not that a baby is going to happily transition from home to home, caregiver to caregiver.

If I stuck to that, I wouldn't have any kiddos. Over 2's way more profitable here, so they all go to the convenient, easy-to-get-to centers in town.

[TaylorTots]

I had a 9m old (now 13m) that I got that exact way. She is now a complete gem. lovethis It took a LOT of work on my part.

I got a 12m old (now 16m) that way too - and he hasn't improved. I may not re-enroll him for the fall as it looks now. 4 months is too much and now we are hitting/kicking/biting on top of the screaming/crying/whining.

[cheerfuldom]

If I stuck to that, I wouldn't have any kiddos. Over 2's way more profitable here, so they all go to the convenient, easy-to-get-to centers in town.

yeah that is tough, when the demand is only there for infant care. It just means that you are stuck with babies and toddlers all the time and that takes a toll on any person.

[coolconfidentme]

I think they scream cause it works at home. You just have to teach them it doesn't work in DC. I had one DCB 7 mths & a DCG 11 mth scream the same way. I would walk in once to lay him/her back down with no eye contact, tell them they were fine & leave the room. Day 2 I took a littler longer to lay them down before I did it as well as day 3, but I said nothing. Always with no eye contact. I never went in on day 4, 5 or anymore. It only took about week for him/her to learn it doesn't work here.

As a side note, DCG parents used the same technique at home & she doesn't scream anymore there. As for the DCB, he still does at home, cuz it works for him. He will be 2 in July & doesn't scream in DC though.

[playground1]

I think they scream cause it works at home.

They scream because the can't communicate any other way. This thread makes me angry and sad. I absolutely understand not wanting to work with babies and the needs of a carer being different from a parent, but some of you are using "self-soothing" as a way to ignore the infants needs.

I don't feel like arguing with anyone here, because I know that your minds won't be changed, but I still feel like it needs to be said.