When Is Enough, Enough?

[coolconfidentme]

What is your criteria for terming a new child? When a parent is quick to violate policy, I have no problem. What about when it’s the child? What makes you say “I’m done” with a child? Do you go by policy? Do you go by if they gel with the group? Do you go by they are hard to handle? All of the above? What do you do?

[llpa]

I know it should be about the child only but it's about me too 1. When I start dreading every day that a child is here. 2. When a child disrupts the learning, play and happiness of all of the other children in care 4.when the child is truly sad or unhappy here and weeks have gone by that way. 5. When I have a plan of action and have tried everything to help a child be able to learn and be happy and grow and nothing works. 6. When I can't keep children safe from another child. Any and all of the above. I can take a lot and I don't like to give up on a dck but sometimes goodbye is the only thing left to say.

[Second Home]

I agree with all of the above .
I have had kids who liked to scream whenever they did not get their way . I could handle that , screaming kids do not bother me as much as other things. A child being rude and very disrespectful when they are old enough to know better would be termed . I have had agressive kids , I tired my best but after a year I just could not do it anymore , so I termed .

I think each scenario is different . What I might term one child for would be different for another child depending on all the circumstances.

[Blackcat31]

I agree with llpa. It IS about me first for all the reasons she listed and because kids gauge their behavior and their emotions off of the main caregiver present and if I am disliking a child, having a tough time managing them or dealing with their behaviors, they feel all my frustrations and my negativity so it has to be a about the provider just as much as the child.

If a child disrupts the flow of the day, spends more time being redirected or disciplined than not or when the others just don't mesh well with them, then it's probably not a good fit.

Parents are an important part of the relationship but I can "deal" with parents that are "off track" or break a policy long before I can deal with a child that spends every day disrupting the flow or causing strife in the classroom.