Dear Parents, Learn to Discipline!

[countrymom]

dcg is 2, the other day I caught her climbing my 3 foot doll house onto my wiring shelving unit.

hauled her off and sent her to time out where she cried and screamed and carried on for 20 min.

then, I couldn't figure out who was breaking the crayons and hiding the toys in odd spots.

I caught her and again she was sent to time out.

so I'm telling mom about the first incident, and mom tells me that dcg loves to climb the kitchen cabinests and walks the countertops along with the kitchen table all the time. I asked mom what does she do and mom says they laugh at her because its funny how she gets up there.

and then the second incident, apparently she is hoarding in her room and is doing other things. Apparently mom isn't watching her and laughs about what she is doing it.

so every time I discipline her I'm now expecting a crying fit to last a while, because she is never disciplined because she "is so cute" whatever.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

It will be really adorable when she is 5 and climbing on restaurant tables to walk.
It will also be equally as precious when she is hoarding her mom's necessary items (cell phone, car keys, etc.) and breaking them when she is 5.

You'll just have to remember it and when she starts getting irritated over it and vents to you say, "How cuuuuute is that?! " in a cooing voice.

[spud912]

I was at a restaurant with my family last night. In comes a couple of grandparents, a mom and her 2-ish year old son. The boy will not sit down whatsoever.....takes his mom's wallet, proceeds to empty the contents out all over the place. Then he throws a royal fit, screaming at the top of his lungs. His mom picks him up and he starts hitting her like crazy. In the meantime, everyone is staring at them. The grandma asks "do you want me to take him outside?" The mom says "no, he'll be ok" and continues to rub his back and say "it's ok......it's ok." Then she orders him a huge brownie sundae to "make him happy." The entire time we were there, he never sat down (either ran around the table or was sequestered to his mom's lap....obviously he has never had to sit at a table a day in his life). Furthermore, he continued to throw fits throughout the "meal" (even while eating his sundae :confused.

I can't imagine making an entire restaurant hear your child shrieking at the top of his lungs .... all while you fail to administer any form of discipline whatsoever!

[Bookworm]

It's cute because mom hasn't been properly embarrassed. There was a 2yr old DCB a few years ago whose family thought everything he said/did was adorable. That is until he called mom a B in church, out loud, because she took her cell phone from him.

[Josiegirl]

I have so much respect and admiration for parents who actually discipline their children!! I should include my thanks to them in my next newsletter. You can tell when children have their limits set for them, they still test but nowhere near as much.
I had a dcg many years ago, along with another family that were friends of theirs. The other family told me how lucky that dcg was to have me because her mom did not discipline at all. In fact, the 2 couples went to dinner once with this dcg, she was jumping on top of the table, running all thru the restaurant, and finally tripped up the waiter coming thru the swinging door with trays of food. I hope dcm was embarrassed all the way up to her 'can't let my baby cry or not get her way' mindset of thinking.

[NoMoreJuice!]

My favorite set of parents here let their kids, age 4 and 6, run their entire lives! I hear every single day "Well, she wouldn't let me do her hair this morning" or "The only way he'll take his medicine is in ice cream." They always ASK their kids if they're ready to go, or if they'd like to put their jacket on, or if they would pretty please stop running (they won't). One morning, the mom came in her PJs because the little girl wouldn't let her get dressed!! Yes, the mother was wearing PJs because her daughter refused to allow her to dress. I just stared at her all weird (I hadn't had my coffee, so I guess I thought I was imagining things?) and she explained that she'll just run home and get dressed before going to work.

[Chellieleanne]

Yikes

My own kids are fairly well behaved for being 1.5 and 3yo. I have gotten wonderful comments from employees in stores that we visit and how they hardly see kids so calm. I made it to 3 stores plus the bank today with one minor outburst in the last store from my older son who wanted a monster truck (he picked a hot wheels car already) and all it took was "do you want to put the car back and get nothing? Then stop screaming." And he was done. Other times with bigger fits I have walked out of stores and restaurants with them, so they have learned. The dcb I have on the other hand,he doesn't behave much here, has gotten better over the past few months though, and I know it is similar for mom since she always brings him with treats if she has to make a stop before dropping him off since h wasn't behaving in the store. My kids only get treats if they behave. End of story.

Parents that cannot(or will not) discipline their kids make me cringe and worry for when said child is older.

[SignMeUp]

My favorite set of parents here let their kids, age 4 and 6, run their entire lives! I hear every single day "Well, she wouldn't let me do her hair this morning" or "The only way he'll take his medicine is in ice cream." They always ASK their kids if they're ready to go, or if they'd like to put their jacket on, or if they would pretty please stop running (they won't). One morning, the mom came in her PJs because the little girl wouldn't let her get dressed!! Yes, the mother was wearing PJs because her daughter refused to allow her to dress. I just stared at her all weird (I hadn't had my coffee, so I guess I thought I was imagining things?) and she explained that she'll just run home and get dressed before going to work.

:::::: That's awful ::::::

And "do you want to go potty?" or "do you want to go to bed?" I tell my childcare parents that they should not ask questions if they aren't willing to hear the answer