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I'd be pretty hurt and angry. And if it were my DH, it just wouldn't have occurred to him and he wouldn't have thought it through completely. That's the way he is. He'd be surprised I was hurt and probably bend over backwards to fix it :P
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I'd be hurt a bit, but only because he didn't ask for my input in the first place because it was/is an activity you did together.
Maybe he figured you haven't talked about it or mentioned it for a while so you weren't interested... Still a little "Hey, guess what I was thinking of buying...." might have gone a long way.
My DH and I used to rise snowmobiles together. ONE snowmobile.
Then he got this great deal on a racing type snowmobile that only had room for one. :confused:
...but then bought me my own.
Now we can ride together...just a different type of together.
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Since your finances are separate, I wouldn't be mad that he bought it. I could care less what my dh buys (he always asks though) and our finances are together.
I would however maybe be a little hurt that he didn't think of you since he knows that you enjoy riding.
I know a little how you feel. My dh was all excited to buy this sport quad. We go to Silver Lake Sand Dunes quite a bit so I thought it would be neat to have. Well come to find out, the sport quad is a 1 seater! I was a little upset, I thought my dd or I could ride with him since I'm too chicken to ride by myself. We also have a Jeep that can go on the dunes and he said I could drive that while he rides the quad. Pfst..I'm to chicken to even drive that up the big hills. So we go to the dunes, I have to watch the kids-which I don't mind, but it's not east watching a 1 yo at Lake Michigan. He also goes on all these quad adventures. I'm glad he has fun, but it would be nice if I could go too and ride with him. I'm more of a ridee than a driver...
That's great that your daughter has a job and is paying for her car! I had a used Escort Pony and it was a stick..for my first car..! I remember my mom bought it, but I had to pay her back. It really teaches you how to save and be responsible for something financially! 
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"I think that bike is perfect for me! ....what kind are you thinking of for you?"Comment
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I woukd be hurt. We have a 97 Sportster and DH just bought a plusher seat so I would be comfy. He NEVER, and I mean NEVER, rides without me. Its our "thing".
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I would be hurt. We do the same as you with finances but we always consult with each other before making any purchases over a few hundred dollars. BUT sometimes I think men are just derpy, no offence guys ... sometimes you just don't think about stuff.
Before DH and I had any of our ow kids together he told me he wanted to go out and car shop. He wanted a sporty new 2 seater. I was a little hurt because that would mean that unless my DD was visiting her bio dad or we got a sitter that would mean that I would not be able to ride in it. I didn't say anything at first because he said he only wanted to look. We get to the dealership (DH, DD and I) and suddenly "looking" turned into wanting to buy it. He wanted to test drive it and was all excited and he got in the driver seat just as the salesperson got into the passenger seat and I was just standing quiet next to the car. I think that was the first time he even thought about how I wouldn't be able to go on the same test drive as him. He had this "Oh, uh.." face. He said that he would test drive it first then I could test drive it next and I just declined and offered to sit in the truck with DD until he was done. I think that was the first time that the thought of my DD would not be able to ride in the car with us crossed his mind.
My experience had a good ending though because he did go on the test drive but then after asked me to check out another car, same car but a sedan. He ended up getting the sedan (Infinity G35).
As our family grown I feel your pain because I LOVE riding quads and DH and I owned 2. As our family grows it's difficult to find someone to watch 3 kids so that we can go riding. DH would go with MY friend from highschool and I would stay behind and watch the kids. I never said anything until recently when I told him that I didn't want to go camping in the dunes because there was nothing for me to do except stay at the campsite and watch the kids while he went riding with our friends. I told him I would rather stay home and be comfortable with the kids. After I told him that he sold the quads and bought a Rhino so that we as a family could go riding in the dunes together, even the baby.
SO the point is maybe he didn't think about you, so tell him "Hey OUR special together thing is now just YOUR special alone thing and that hurt. I'd love to go riding with you again and it hurt that I never crossed your mind".Comment
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I would be hurt. We do the same as you with finances but we always consult with each other before making any purchases over a few hundred dollars. BUT sometimes I think men are just derpy, no offence guys ... sometimes you just don't think about stuff.
Before DH and I had any of our ow kids together he told me he wanted to go out and car shop. He wanted a sporty new 2 seater. I was a little hurt because that would mean that unless my DD was visiting her bio dad or we got a sitter that would mean that I would not be able to ride in it. I didn't say anything at first because he said he only wanted to look. We get to the dealership (DH, DD and I) and suddenly "looking" turned into wanting to buy it. He wanted to test drive it and was all excited and he got in the driver seat just as the salesperson got into the passenger seat and I was just standing quiet next to the car. I think that was the first time he even thought about how I wouldn't be able to go on the same test drive as him. He had this "Oh, uh.." face. He said that he would test drive it first then I could test drive it next and I just declined and offered to sit in the truck with DD until he was done. I think that was the first time that the thought of my DD would not be able to ride in the car with us crossed his mind.
My experience had a good ending though because he did go on the test drive but then after asked me to check out another car, same car but a sedan. He ended up getting the sedan (Infinity G35).
As our family grown I feel your pain because I LOVE riding quads and DH and I owned 2. As our family grows it's difficult to find someone to watch 3 kids so that we can go riding. DH would go with MY friend from highschool and I would stay behind and watch the kids. I never said anything until recently when I told him that I didn't want to go camping in the dunes because there was nothing for me to do except stay at the campsite and watch the kids while he went riding with our friends. I told him I would rather stay home and be comfortable with the kids. After I told him that he sold the quads and bought a Rhino so that we as a family could go riding in the dunes together, even the baby.
SO the point is maybe he didn't think about you, so tell him "Hey OUR special together thing is now just YOUR special alone thing and that hurt. I'd love to go riding with you again and it hurt that I never crossed your mind".
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