Where Do You Suppose They End Up?

[GKJNIGMN]

I unfortunately know where mine ended up.

First family I termed - 3 year old DCB called me a stupid b**** anytime I tried to correct something and spit at me. He also threatened to kill himself when I asked him to nap. They couldn't find a daycare to take him. DCM was on a back to work welfare program and the state decided to keep paying out cash assistance until the child starts school.

7 year old dcb who would try to force kids to play with him, picked on my dd who is in kindergarten and told me his stepmother made him eat wood - Father found a new gf and moved her and her 3 kids in within the 2 week notice period so she would watch him

My most recent - DCM started out normal and then asked for a schedule change wanting me to watch DCB from 6AM to 10PM for $20 per day because she didn't want to pay more than her copay for childcare assistance. I refused. She found a friend to do it for $10 a day but was recently posting on facebook because the friend quit. Go figure.

[Unregistered]

watch DCB from 6AM to 10PM for $20 per day because she didn't want to pay more than her copay for childcare assistance. I refused. She found a friend to do it for $10 a day but was recently posting on facebook because the friend quit. Go figure.

Because we all want to watch your kids for minimum wage FROM 1970!

[KidGrind]

Because we all want to watch your kids for minimum wage FROM 1970!

I love this site. Always good for a and hearty chuckle.

[Shell]

My "trouble" family at the time, and they really weren't all that bad, wound up going to 3 different home daycare providers before settling at a center. Funny, but the next few providers had the same problems I did, they just were a lot more forthcoming than I was (I was always trying to keep them happy since our kids were so close in age). They wound up paying a fortune, but each step along the way taught them a new lesson about sick policies, late policies, and keeping to a set schedule!
I am so curious what is going to happen to my super organic, helicopter dcm that is moving and has to bring dcg to a center. The cost is over $100 more per week/per child than what I charge! And, they were trying to negotiate with me on a lower price. To be a fly on the wall...

[childcaremom]

My one that I termed for aggressiveness I think ended up at a centre. I actually suggested it so that there could be more eyes on him. They also needed a more lax sick policy so they could bring their child sick so I suggested they make sure to ask about that.

The only other one that I termed after 2 days... who knows. This kid had too many issues and mom was less than honest. "oh btw" "oh I meant to mention that to you"

I would consider taking someone on with known issues ONLY if parents were forthcoming b/c I do agree that the environment and group make up can make all the difference. Sometimes we just aren't good fits for each other and that's ok. I am pretty comfortable with laying down the law and sometimes that is all that kids need, some really clear boundaries.

But I do agree that new providers are like magnets for the rotten tomatoes. I know I was

[countrymom]

the ones that I termed tried other providers, but no one could deal with the kids and right now most are with gma's or other relatives. But when I tell them how it is and the parents want to smother their kids, well this is what is going to happen.

[BumbleBee]

1. Dcb10: was bullying the other kids here. Gma is watching him now

2. Dcb3.75 & Dcg5.5: Parents from hell. Dcg is in school. Neighbor is watching dcb during the day. After school, neighbors 15 yo son takes over the care of dcb & dcg. Sometimes gma takes dcb & dcg when neighbor can't. Dcb is basically just "there" during the day. Doesn't go outside, doesn't play w/other kids. Just watches tv & plays w/the toys he brings in his backpack. His speech has declined, he's back in pull ups. He sees me at school picking up my school ager & asks if he can come home w/me. He looks so sad when I tell him no (nicely of course).

[permanentvacation]

New providers until they wise up and kick them out, flop from daycare to daycare for years, and they seem to spend the longest time frames in centers. I have worked in 3 centers in my area. The kids there are the most ill-behaved and ill-mannered, they are sent to daycare sick constantly, and the parents don't pay for months. Oh, and if at all possible, relatives wind up watching them.

[SunshineMama]

I have only termed twice, and both kids ended up going to grandmas house. One child came from a center, the other came from a previous dcp.

[craftymissbeth]

Both families I termed are now with newbie providers. I'm technically still a newbie, but this forum has helped me so much I feel like I've been doing this awhile

Both families say they just LIVE their new providers, but I have a feeling it's because they're just putting up with the craziness and not saying anything because they're new.

[wdmmom]

I've termed twice and was about to term but dcm beat me to it which worked out great.

1.) Parents were split apart. DCD dropped off, DCM picked up. There was a major breakdown in communication, they were changing the schedule the day of without confirming with me first and the DCD made a couple attempts to get my staff assistant to quit and work solely for him. That was the last straw. I gave family notice that due to DCD's rudeness (he had gotten into my fridge and shorted my check as well), they were on probation. I said he needed to conduct himself as he would anywhere in public and I would no longer tolerate such behavior. The next day, he extended another invitation to my assistant. I packed their belongings up and gave them no notice. Oh...and DCD showed up the next day to drop off the kids too! I have no idea where this family went and I couldn't care less. They were horrible.

2.) Had DCB since he was 7 weeks old. Kept him until he was 14 months. He was what I call a "failure to thrive" baby. He wouldn't hold his own bottle, wouldn't eat anything but baby food, didn't start walking until he was 14 months and didn't develop as he should have. He was very under weight and by 9 months old, he wouldn't drink milk/formula/breastmilk whatsoever. His neck muscles were so underdeveloped he looked like a bobblehead until he was 8 months. He was the latest kid in daycare on Fridays (1.5 hours longer than anyone else.) and I resumed college classes last fall so I told the family I couldn't work for them anymore. I know he went to another local home daycare and I recently seen pics of him (he'll turn 2 this month) and he doesn't look any bigger or has any more muscle mass than he did at 14 months when I termed.

3.) DCM that beat me to termination termed for scheduling conflict. I was going to term because he was another "failure to thrive" baby. He was fed goat's milk, puked more than any baby I have ever had (I wonder why...) and he wasn't content unless he was being held or you let him climb all over everyone and everything. He screamed himself to sleep and DCM wanted conferencing at the door every single day. It was just too much. They were on their 4th daycare provider when they left here and the boy was only 14 months old.

[Meeko]

We sometimes wonder "Where are they now?" about some of our horror daycare kids and/or parents.

There are a few that my husband answers "Point of the Mountain" probably.

Utah providers will know what that means......::

[Unregistered]

I had a CRAZY woman in my daycare.

Didn't pay me $600 and made up a doozy of a story...that ended up on the news. All found to be A LIE.

She feigned a kidnapping and assault and stated my money was stolen from a glovebox. She handed me $100 of what she owed that day. Said the abductor got her from a Taco Bell here, jumped in her unlocked van, and took her to the mountains, had his way and left her there and left ON FOOT, whilst leaving her the keys, her phone, the entire car, and everything else! Yeah, right.

It was on the news, found out she was a liar, and I never did get that payment. I could go into entire details of what exactly she said to me happened (other than the summary above) but it'd take DAYS!

I also had terminated a non-paying abusive client (he abused the wife, and possibly even the kid) and reported them to CPS. They tried to have my license, but I had called them first before reporting.

I had terminated a DCB that his parents neglected him, after my son's dr reported the neglect (she didn't wait for me to get home to do it!) after the mother failed to bring him in a jacket/shoes/socks/etc in -5 degree weather. He also smelled so bad, like dog pee, every day he was there, so I would have to bathe him so I wouldn't vomit. Awful. Mom seemed nice enough, but she never wanted kids. He clutched a blanket all day long and never spoke ONCE. He was almost 2.

I had a few others but those were the top 3. IDK whatever happened to any of the kids, although, the last one I think about him from time to time.

[lynne]

The Twin boys that I termed after a day and a half are at the center where I used to work....Good riddance they can have them!

[cheerfuldom]

they do to centers, keep daycare hopping or mom/relative stays with them. Parents figure it out. And around here, established home providers do not put up with these people so they end up with new providers or centers. I do know one home provider exception though but she runs a large group (constantly over licensing limits) and according to her assistant, never terms anyone. as long as she is paid, she will keep anyone. my sister was using her and i felt really uncomfortable knowing my niece was with a large group of rowdy 4 to 8 year old boys (probably the group that is constantly termed from other daycares.....)