Where Do You Suppose They End Up?

[KiddieCahoots]

This may be a stupid question, but.......
We've all have had those rotten clients, that put us through hell. We talk about the fit not being right. The child that is a terror. The dcp's that don't follow child care rules. Where do you suppose they go after we terminate, or they withdraw? Do they clean up their act? Do they continue on like nomads traveling from child care to child care? Or do they find a child care that accepts their trouble?

[grandmom]

I hear from other providers about troubles they are having, and sure enough, that's where they went. I think they just make the rounds.

When I was brand new I got a ton of calls for odd hours, kids who had been kicked out, parents who wanted to pay after service or not pay for vacation. I think they prey on new providers.

[NoMoreJuice!]

I was just about to say the new providers! Like I was when I was new, most are ****ers who are willing to take ANYONE. You don't get picky until you have loads of experience!

[Second Home]

2 ended up with me :: .

I had a set that were kicked out of 3 daycares in a year . The provider before me did not last even a week before she termed them.

I had them for about 2 years until they went off to K .

[Blackcat31]

I don't think they all necessarily end up with newbies...some find seasoned vets who put their foot down and require rule following from the get go.

Some of the best families I have had came with bad reports from other providers. After running through a string of care arrangements a lot of parents realize the error of their ways and shape up.

Others keep going until they do find that right fit.

Sometimes that (the fit) is the problem and the solution.

[crazydaycarelady]

I think a lot end up at centers.

[drseuss]

I used to have a problem family and they ended up with a friend of mine who does daycare (has for years) but is too nice for her own good. Just like I used to be. Now my friend has the same exact issues that I had with dcm. Always late by a good half hour, Fridays up to an hour and a half late. Entitled parent raising entitled children.

[Mom o Col]

This may be a stupid question, but.......
We've all have had those rotten clients, that put us through hell. We talk about the fit not being right. The child that is a terror. The dcp's that don't follow child care rules. Where do you suppose they go after we terminate, or they withdraw? Do they clean up their act? Do they continue on like nomads traveling from child care to child care? Or do they find a child care that accepts their trouble?

All of the above. Or, in the case of one I just termed they find a provider who is just as nuts as their own family.

[coolconfidentme]

Hopefully they end up with the budget rate provider, who advertise for $10 a day care on CL & let a TV babysit the kiddos! KARMA!! jk ::

[daycarediva]

2 ended up with me :: .

I had a set that were kicked out of 3 daycares in a year . The provider before me did not last even a week before she termed them.

I had them for about 2 years when the went off to K .

I have taken several kids like this. Turned around a LOT, too. Environment helps, right fit and all.

I think a lot end up at centers.

This is where bad apple parents go. I hate getting people who have only been to centers, I get a lot of interviews for price shopping from them. I offer more, charge less but they are usually put off by my sick policy, vacation, closings, 10 hour cap, etc....


and I bet some end up with unlicensed "worst of craigslist" providers.

[KiddieCahoots]

I think a lot end up at centers.

I was wondering about centers too. For some reason, some dcp's believe they are teaching bigger and better things at centers But the cost is so much more, and are they as tolerable with the troubles of some children and parents as we are?

[Bookworm]

They come to my center. The worst experience I've ever had in DC was with one these families. DCB, (4 at the time) was kicked out of home daycare for stabbing the owners pets and other kids with whatever he could get his hands on. The final straw was when he attempted to pit the point of an umbrella down a baby's throat. When he came to us, mom gave us the old DC lady didn't like him and made up stories. It took about a week for his true colors to show. Mom was no help at all. Dad was in another relationship with his own new baby ( 2 at the time) and tried to help us. Even stepmom was on board. Nothing we did worked for long. We went to former Owner/Director constantly for help but eventually we ran out of ideas. Finally, my former Owner/Director shadowed in my class to observe. While standing next the him in the hand washing line, he quick as a flash put soap on another child's eye and started laughing. That did it. He was gone in less than an hour.

[Leigh]

This may be a stupid question, but.......
We've all have had those rotten clients, that put us through hell. We talk about the fit not being right. The child that is a terror. The dcp's that don't follow child care rules. Where do you suppose they go after we terminate, or they withdraw? Do they clean up their act? Do they continue on like nomads traveling from child care to child care? Or do they find a child care that accepts their trouble?

I have termed twice in the last year...one was a screamer who has been bouncing from daycare to daycare (now 18 months and still screaming ALL DAY, NONSTOP)-they were recently driving 26 miles to a neighboring town for daycare, but she recently got termed from there, too.

Another was brothers, 3 & 4 years old-hitting, pushing, biting, swearing, destruction...just all around terrors. Their next daycare lasted 2 weeks. They are on their 3rd since they left here about 3 months ago. They are now having OTHER people post ads searching for daycare, because most of the providers around here have heard about them by now. These kids will never clean up their act, because their home life hasn't changed (it's terrible), their caregivers refuse to continue with therapy (and always refused to participate-it happened only at my house), and refuse medication (needed) for the kids' issues (recommended by therapist and psychiatrist, so they just quit attending).

[NightOwl]

I ALWAYS wonder this, even for the ones that have me hell. Lol. I can't just say "it's your problem now" after terminating. Idk why. I just can't turn off the worry switch. I wonder where they ended up, how they're coping, if things are better/worse, if the parents finally came around, etc. I wish I could just wash my hands of them, but I still find myself wondering about them here and there.

[Unregistered]

I know where mind ended up. At a "starter" center where immigrant women are taught to do child care so that they can become dcps. A center where one of my former kids grandpa started the program. And where the dcf likely used my name basically like a reference. (My program has a good reputation among families, dcps and the school systems.)
This dcf was at a center previous to coming here. If I hadn't tried to "reform" them and had just given up, they would probably have changed places at least once a year.