How do you deal?

[CraftyMom]

When you have a child who you feel should be potty trained but isn't? Child is fully capable but parents aren't doing their part.

The opposite of the usual parents wanting child to be trained before he/she is ready ::

[Play Care]

Honestly? I potty train them for my house. I've had more than once where someone is using the potty here but in diapers at home. I find if they are ready and I am consistent it takes one week - and it's so worth it to me to have one less diaper to change.

[Shell]

That is rough! I had a dcb that would go pee here, but parents were putting zero effort in at home. I wound up terming for other reasons, but found out it was a full year after the fact that he was fully trained. I had a dcg that also was going potty regularly here, but I don't think the parents wanted to give up their "baby". I had her trained here and who knows what went on at home. Months later, dcm announces she's potty training dcg . Guess what? It only took about a day ( big surprise since I did all the work!). Anyway, some parents have to train when they feel it's time- I thought it was a little silly to wait, so I do like Playcare- train them at daycare

[Blackcat31]

When you have a child who you feel should be potty trained but isn't? Child is fully capable but parents aren't doing their part.

The opposite of the usual parents wanting child to be trained before he/she is ready ::

Sounds like they are waiting for you to do it...

Potty training is a parental responsibility. I will assist, support and advise if asked but I won't do the ground work.

I only keep kids until they are Kindergarten age so if they want to wear a diaper here the whole time, that's on them/parents.

I will allow them to use the bathroom if they ask....(then I talk with the parent about their child asking and tell them it's time to start.... )

But if the child doesn't ask, then they get changed during regular diaper changes with everyone else wearing diapers.

[daycare]

hey you must be talking about all of my parents.

I have PT every single one of my DCKs in the last 6 years. If I see that they are ready and the parents are not doing it, then I will get them going.

I always start no matter what with take your pants off and on, I do this as soon as they hit 2. Then once they master that they go to the bathroom at my house all the time. They change their own pulls ups unless they went #2. I love doing it this way. One less diaper for me to have to change and check. We have a potty chart on the wall with clips and they just get rotated every other hour. It's not as much work as it seems.

Right now all of my kids but one 3 year old who has delays and the new 18 months are all PT or they can change their pull up on their own. For some reason most of my kids don't do #2 here, they wait until they get home.

I think that if you feel they are ready and you have the kids enough days of the week to start a new routine with them, then just see how it goes. I have had kids who have taken 3 days, parents still telling me oh they are not ready yet and then kids who are taking 4-7 months......

[GKJNIGMN]

After reading things on the forum reminding me that it is a parental responsibility, I don't touch it. I suggest to the parent that they may be ready and leave it to them to make the choice.

I have one DCG who is 3 years 7 months. Last month I reminded DCM that she won't be able to attend prek unless she is potty trained and she blew it off. A couple weeks back she tried training her or maybe 4 days and then just fell off. DCG goes anytime you ask her but doesn't often tell you she has to go. She could be fully potty trained though if her mother gave it an effort. Another part of the reason that I don't touch it is her mother didn't bother to teach her about wiping so she was often being brought here with "leftovers" Apparently nobody at her house has a sense of smell.