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So last week Wednesday I had a biting incident between two toddlers (imagine that!
) I texted both moms right away as usual and everything was cool. When dcd came to p/u he came barging right over to his son (the vic!) looked at the bite mark (which was barely visible by the end of the day.) walked around to the child that bit, looked down at him, pointed his finger down toward him and in a very scary ( to a child) way grumbled "no biting, no biting". So of course dcb breaks down in tears and dcd starts smirking and laughing saying "he live, he will be ok. He walks over to pick up his boy and I told him that it was not necessary to say anything because the situation was handled when it occurred and that neither boy really remembers what happened in the middle of that morning. He said "well my boy does and he knows I will smack his ____ if he does it. I said to him again that it was totally uncalled for. he said again that the kid crying will live. (by this time I was livid!!) He gave one more very out the left side of his mouth apology and finally left.
I was so mad about the whole thing,: mad:
The next day I called mom and said that I could not longer provide care for them because I cold not get past the dads display the day before. Right after the call with mom he called me asking why this is such a big deal and that all he did was telling both boys not to bite in a normal voice. I said to him that it was not a normal voice and that no further action was needed b/c the situation was already handled and that he had to call to discipline someone else's child and furthermore that it is a big deal b/c the other mom is so upset. Then after that call ended he called me back and asked why can't he just be banned and the wife could just d/o and p/u everyday. I aid to him "you cant tell me she would feel ok about that, having you banned from dc. He did nt have a response to that.
That evening the mom came to pick up she was all teary saying what is she going to do with the child and why didn't I tell her at drop offs about my decision. I told her that I needed to think it over and that there is never a great time to drop bad news. I also said that I would of thought he would of talked to her about what happened. She seemed totally puzzled about what had happened and didn't see what the big deal is. I told her his behaviors was
wrong. Well, later that night she text me that they found a place for him. (after the whole teary scene t pick ups).
The thing that really bothers me is that he didn't see that he did anything wrong. Making another child cry is way wrong in my book. Some parents!!!
The kicker is that the child was sweet as pie.
Thoughts? Would you of dismised? Have any of you had that kind of thing happen?
Note: The child that was bit last week,( bit the other child that was involved) some months back on the face and drew blood. (funny how dad forgot that little factoid!!!!!!)
) I texted both moms right away as usual and everything was cool. When dcd came to p/u he came barging right over to his son (the vic!) looked at the bite mark (which was barely visible by the end of the day.) walked around to the child that bit, looked down at him, pointed his finger down toward him and in a very scary ( to a child) way grumbled "no biting, no biting". So of course dcb breaks down in tears and dcd starts smirking and laughing saying "he live, he will be ok. He walks over to pick up his boy and I told him that it was not necessary to say anything because the situation was handled when it occurred and that neither boy really remembers what happened in the middle of that morning. He said "well my boy does and he knows I will smack his ____ if he does it. I said to him again that it was totally uncalled for. he said again that the kid crying will live. (by this time I was livid!!) He gave one more very out the left side of his mouth apology and finally left.I was so mad about the whole thing,: mad:
The next day I called mom and said that I could not longer provide care for them because I cold not get past the dads display the day before. Right after the call with mom he called me asking why this is such a big deal and that all he did was telling both boys not to bite in a normal voice. I said to him that it was not a normal voice and that no further action was needed b/c the situation was already handled and that he had to call to discipline someone else's child and furthermore that it is a big deal b/c the other mom is so upset. Then after that call ended he called me back and asked why can't he just be banned and the wife could just d/o and p/u everyday. I aid to him "you cant tell me she would feel ok about that, having you banned from dc. He did nt have a response to that.
That evening the mom came to pick up she was all teary saying what is she going to do with the child and why didn't I tell her at drop offs about my decision. I told her that I needed to think it over and that there is never a great time to drop bad news. I also said that I would of thought he would of talked to her about what happened. She seemed totally puzzled about what had happened and didn't see what the big deal is. I told her his behaviors was
wrong. Well, later that night she text me that they found a place for him. (after the whole teary scene t pick ups).
The thing that really bothers me is that he didn't see that he did anything wrong. Making another child cry is way wrong in my book. Some parents!!!
The kicker is that the child was sweet as pie.
Thoughts? Would you of dismised? Have any of you had that kind of thing happen?
Note: The child that was bit last week,( bit the other child that was involved) some months back on the face and drew blood. (funny how dad forgot that little factoid!!!!!!)
. Hitting and biting harbors a lot of resentment and anger in parents.
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