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So I have a DCB here who has some issues, I've written about him before. He's had a lot of GI issues until we recently switched to a GF diet and it's improved a lot along with his speech. But two weeks in a row now, on Friday he has had bad poops again. I suspect Nana isn't on board with the GF diet and gives him things thinking it's no big deal. I guess the great grandpa who lives there as well has been feeding him non-GF things as well. DCM just got a new job, odd hours (11-7 an hour away) and Nana picks up on W-Th-F and watches him til DCM gets home. DCM and her boyfriend have been trying to get a place together and avoid this interference and reliance on Nana.
Well last weeks diarrhea incident was 10 min before she got here so I just dealt with it but had it been earlier I would have sent him home. Massive liquidy poops that got all over and I needed help from my teen to avoid major disaster. Today mom says he probably won't poop today because he had bad gas and not "diarrhea" but not solid poop twice within an hour. So she brings him and within 20 min he squats and has a small amount of diarrhea. Within an hour he had 2 more gradually getting worse.
TMI ahead... but just undigested food and mucous. It was nasty. So then I told her I wish they could all get on board here because I have to send him home when this happens. I'm sure now he's gotten it out of his system and won't poop again but it's said and done and I know mom is upset. Dh gave me a hard time about sending him home saying kids poop and I need to just deal with it but he's not the one who has to change him (and freaked out the one time he did when I had to go to an appt and he stayed here) and deal with other parents if they came in amidst the catastrophe of a blow out.
Last week I literally had to hurry a new DCM out the door when I heard him go. So I want to text or call DCM and explain. I feel it's sort of my fault for not being firm and sending him home the first 50 times this happened in he last year but now that it's not a regular occurrence it's more distinguishable when it's diarrhea. 4 times in less than 2 hours, plus the twice in an hour at home, is not normal. And I feel like I'm allowing them to be lazy with his diet and not have him seen by a dr and tested for allergies and whatever else is wrong.
I just feel torn. I feel bad sending him home once a week with this problem, plus I can't imagine mom will keep her job at this rate, but I also don't want to deal with this mess every week and enable this. I don't think she would term but I do sense that she's frustrated as am I. She's recently asked about me watching him later hours to avoid Nana and Grandpa having him and sabotaging his diet and such. So 3 long days instead of 5 normal ones and she's willing to pay more but this is the kinda stuff that makes me want to say heck to the no!! She needs someone who can pick him up it she can't. Kids get sick, get hurt, etc and if you don't have a job that has this flexibility then that can really hurt your career.
I guess part of my guilt comes from allowing my first DCF to stay here if DCB was sick because I didn't have any other kids here and I knew he'd just have to go to work with mom and be sick there. So it was better for him to get a good nap here and rest. After awhile it was expected and got more and more dramatic. I sent him to the dr with a red & white sore on his mouth and low grade fever to get a drs note that it wasn't contagious before returning. She gave me 2 months notice that she was putting him in "Jr Preschool" at 22 mos because it was easier to have him at the same site as his sister. I know it was because I sent him home that day. She was pissed about it and didn't text me for days unlike her usual 20+ texts a day. But the same thing applies, I allowed it until it got out of hand and when I put my foot down they get upset. I am being more firm with my new families to avoid this in the future but I think I need to mend this issue with DCM.
Well last weeks diarrhea incident was 10 min before she got here so I just dealt with it but had it been earlier I would have sent him home. Massive liquidy poops that got all over and I needed help from my teen to avoid major disaster. Today mom says he probably won't poop today because he had bad gas and not "diarrhea" but not solid poop twice within an hour. So she brings him and within 20 min he squats and has a small amount of diarrhea. Within an hour he had 2 more gradually getting worse.
TMI ahead... but just undigested food and mucous. It was nasty. So then I told her I wish they could all get on board here because I have to send him home when this happens. I'm sure now he's gotten it out of his system and won't poop again but it's said and done and I know mom is upset. Dh gave me a hard time about sending him home saying kids poop and I need to just deal with it but he's not the one who has to change him (and freaked out the one time he did when I had to go to an appt and he stayed here) and deal with other parents if they came in amidst the catastrophe of a blow out.
Last week I literally had to hurry a new DCM out the door when I heard him go. So I want to text or call DCM and explain. I feel it's sort of my fault for not being firm and sending him home the first 50 times this happened in he last year but now that it's not a regular occurrence it's more distinguishable when it's diarrhea. 4 times in less than 2 hours, plus the twice in an hour at home, is not normal. And I feel like I'm allowing them to be lazy with his diet and not have him seen by a dr and tested for allergies and whatever else is wrong.
I just feel torn. I feel bad sending him home once a week with this problem, plus I can't imagine mom will keep her job at this rate, but I also don't want to deal with this mess every week and enable this. I don't think she would term but I do sense that she's frustrated as am I. She's recently asked about me watching him later hours to avoid Nana and Grandpa having him and sabotaging his diet and such. So 3 long days instead of 5 normal ones and she's willing to pay more but this is the kinda stuff that makes me want to say heck to the no!! She needs someone who can pick him up it she can't. Kids get sick, get hurt, etc and if you don't have a job that has this flexibility then that can really hurt your career.
I guess part of my guilt comes from allowing my first DCF to stay here if DCB was sick because I didn't have any other kids here and I knew he'd just have to go to work with mom and be sick there. So it was better for him to get a good nap here and rest. After awhile it was expected and got more and more dramatic. I sent him to the dr with a red & white sore on his mouth and low grade fever to get a drs note that it wasn't contagious before returning. She gave me 2 months notice that she was putting him in "Jr Preschool" at 22 mos because it was easier to have him at the same site as his sister. I know it was because I sent him home that day. She was pissed about it and didn't text me for days unlike her usual 20+ texts a day. But the same thing applies, I allowed it until it got out of hand and when I put my foot down they get upset. I am being more firm with my new families to avoid this in the future but I think I need to mend this issue with DCM.
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