I Thought You Would Enjoy This (Or Be Annoyed Like Me lol)

[CraftyMom]

I was sitting in the waiting room at my daughter's dance class last night. I over hear a conversation between two moms. One is talking about how she brings her kids to the before and after school program while she is working. She says how they offer care from 6am until school time, then after school until 6pm.

She goes on to say that she wakes her kids up at 5am to get them out the door to be there for 6am but she has to be at work for 8. Then she says she gets out at 4 and laughs about how she waits until 5:59 to pick them up so she can just feed them supper and send them to bed! And laughs how she doesn't have to help with homework since they do it there!

The other mom answers back that she doesn't work. Her and her daughter live with her mom and the mom works and pays for everything (this woman was at least 30). This one brags about how she does nothing all day and when her daughter is home she plays games on her phone all night...laughing that she does not even like to play games, she ONLY does it so her daughter will think she is busy and leave her alone!!! And when the daughter asks her for something she sends her away saying I'm busy with my game, leave me alone!

Oh and the kids they are talking about are 5 and 7 years old!

Gotta love it!

[Shell]

Horrible! This is the type of behavior I am always telling dh about , and he never believes me. Will be reading this to him later!

[Second Home]

That is so sad .

[Magic]

it is really sad
I had same thing happen not too long ago
I had DC children with me at the libary and bumped into 2 moms I kind of knew
both moms I actualy know threw other people and had heard stories
both moms children have been to my house
I watched moms interact with thier children ( well kind of interacted )
and well not wamen that should have children
one of the children figured out who I was she is just over 3 and followed me around the whole time I was there talking and interacting with me while mom on phone ....
the other child has huge behavoural issues ...go figure not even 4 years old ..one of the mothers has an older girl early teen and is often in trouble and is not welcome here any more as result ( school friend of my girl ) , she stirs up things between friends and now into stuff that she shouldnt be ...she did tell me once she feel her mothier does not love her ...go figure
in our business this is a hard issue to hear and deal with ...

[melilley]

So sad. I couldn't imagine not spending time with my kids or sending them somewhere if I didn't have too.
I have one who is here every day his mom or dad have a day off. Dcm gets out of work at 3:15 and leaves dcb here until dad picks up between 5:30 and 6:00. I suspect it's because she can't deal with her own kids. Some things she has told me just make me cringe.

Well its their loss. They will never get those extra minutes/hours back.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

That is actually tragic. I will never understand that. I love any
Mom time I get and wish I could be a SAHM without other peoples.

[Annalee]

I was sitting in the waiting room at my daughter's dance class last night. I over hear a conversation between two moms. One is talking about how she brings her kids to the before and after school program while she is working. She says how they offer care from 6am until school time, then after school until 6pm.

She goes on to say that she wakes her kids up at 5am to get them out the door to be there for 6am but she has to be at work for 8. Then she says she gets out at 4 and laughs about how she waits until 5:59 to pick them up so she can just feed them supper and send them to bed! And laughs how she doesn't have to help with homework since they do it there!

The other mom answers back that she doesn't work. Her and her daughter live with her mom and the mom works and pays for everything (this woman was at least 30). This one brags about how she does nothing all day and when her daughter is home she plays games on her phone all night...laughing that she does not even like to play games, she ONLY does it so her daughter will think she is busy and leave her alone!!! And when the daughter asks her for something she sends her away saying I'm busy with my game, leave me alone!

Oh and the kids they are talking about are 5 and 7 years old!

Gotta love it!

I have a parent like this right now. I have an hour limit which keeps them in line but if there were no boundaries, they would NEVER pick up their kid. SAD!!!!

[SignMeUp]

Families who do this are the reason that my intake form asks for actual work hours as well as drop-off and pick-up times.

[TwinKristi]

I had two new DCKs this week and an extra that's usually only here Thur-Fri so Tues was super busy! At the end of the day I realized I was so busy and he was so busy that DS & I hardly spent any quality time together all day! I relished in my snuggles while we watched a movie in my bed. My older kids are in school most of the day and I'm sure I'll be a little more sympathetic during summer, but I am so thankful to be home and to help them with homework after school. It's really sad that some parents really don't want to be parents, they're just along for the ride and status. :confused:

[KiddieCahoots]

I can't believe they can even sit there an brag about it!
Like they are getting away with something so brilliantly planned!?
Shame on them!
Some day they will grow up (themselves) and realize it's too late to get any of what their missing back.

[SignMeUp]

I can't believe they can even sit there an brag about it!
Like they are getting away with something so brilliantly planned!?
Shame on them!
Some day they will grow up (themselves) and realize it's too late to get any of what their missing back.

It can have a life-long effect on their children. I had a family with one boy, one girl. Girl was in my care from 3 wks on (not legal to do that here any more) until they moved away when she was 5. Kids were here every second dc was open. Mom was proud because she had them fed, bathed and in bed by 6:45 pm. They left here at 5:30!
Fast-forward eleven years. Girl calls me on the phone and says, "Hi, this is Cxxxxx. You used to take care of me, but I don't know if you remember me."
Of course I remember(ed) her. I told her I was just thinking about her because I knew she had just had her golden birthday that past week.

Point being - do you see the lack of a feeling of self-worth there? No matter what I could do for her/with her, she needed and sought her parents approval and love. It can't be done in an hour and fifteen minutes a day.

[cheerfuldom]

This kind of parenting is disgusting! and most definitely abusive in its own way.....maybe worse than neglect due to poverty. It is so damaging to know your parents could do something for you but choose not to

[midaycare]

That makes me so sad, I don't even know where to begin.

[BumbleBee]

The family that left me for cheaper care was like this. Dad had to be in the 'right mood' to deal with his kids and mom couldn't be bothered with them unless they were bringing compliments to her (oh look how cute they are. Oh she's so pretty. Oh he's so precious. Etc)

I hate people like this

[SignMeUp]

The family that left me for cheaper care was like this. Dad had to be in the 'right mood' to deal with his kids and mom couldn't be bothered with them unless they were bringing compliments to her (oh look how cute they are. Oh she's so pretty. Oh he's so precious. Etc)

I hate people like this

Me too. Kids as posessions.