Termed For Behavior In Previous DC?

[gracepatiencelove]

IF a parent in an interview says that, and then says, "but since we did x it is better" do you try to get more information? if so, how?

It seems like the story is dcg3 was termed from a center for behavior issues that mom says were corrected with glasses. I told her if we ended up working together I would do a 2 week trial with the kids.

[Josiegirl]

I think you could ask her to elaborate on the child's issues, just so you can be made aware of what to look for and help dck with. And yes, definitely do the 2 week trial and if there are still questions, I'd add on another 2 weeks.

[coolconfidentme]

Call the other DC. I have..., & have others call me when behavior is the issue.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Call the other DC. I have..., & have others call me when behavior is the issue.

I would do this.

[Heidi]

If you call, it should WITH parent written permission!

Confidentiality!

[gracepatiencelove]

If you call, it should WITH parent written permission!

Confidentiality!

Yes, I don't think she will give it and I don't know that they would tell me anything (they are a pretty large center). But I think I am going to try. I would actually be the third daycare in the past couple months, it seems (the one for behavior, the other for being too far and having no car).

[Blackcat31]

When a child is termed from another provider it doesn't always mean they will be that way in your program.

Since the mom brought it up, she apparently believes the situation has been corrected and she doesn't appear to be trying to hide it or she wouldn't have said it....kwim?

Personally, I would not worry about what did or didn't happen with the previous provider and only worry about YOUR ability to work with this family.

Do a two week trial period and then make your decision.

The environment plays such a HUGE role in a child's behavior that you can't hang a past behavior on a child permanently when they are now in a different environment.

I'd give them a chance.

Terming is always an option AFTER you have saw/seen for yourself whether or not this child is going to have issues.

[Heidi]

When a child is termed from another provider it doesn't always mean they will be that way in your program.

Since the mom brought it up, she apparently believes the situation has been corrected and she doesn't appear to be trying to hide it or she wouldn't have said it....kwim?

Personally, I would not worry about what did or didn't happen with the previous provider and only worry about YOUR ability to work with this family.

Do a two week trial period and then make your decision.

The environment plays such a HUGE role in a child's behavior that you can't hang a past behavior on a child permanently when they are now in a different environment.

I'd give them a chance.

Terming is always an option AFTER you have saw/seen for yourself whether or not this child is going to have issues.

Yes, and terming is so much easier when the parent knows it's a realistic possibility. Most think it'll never happen to their child. Plus, if you don't have to term because it works out, you look like the hero!

[jenboo]

When a child is termed from another provider it doesn't always mean they will be that way in your program.

Since the mom brought it up, she apparently believes the situation has been corrected and she doesn't appear to be trying to hide it or she wouldn't have said it....kwim?

Personally, I would not worry about what did or didn't happen with the previous provider and only worry about YOUR ability to work with this family.

Do a two week trial period and then make your decision.

The environment plays such a HUGE role in a child's behavior that you can't hang a past behavior on a child permanently when they are now in a different environment.

I'd give them a chance.

Terming is always an option AFTER you have saw/seen for yourself whether or not this child is going to have issues.

I have a DCB who was horrible at his last daycare. Taking toys from everyone, going crazy inside, being mean to other kids....This was all said from the previous provider, not the parent. I decided to give it a try and guess what?? He is an angel for me!!! No problems AT ALL.
Enviorment plays a huge roll. Come to find out, the previous provider lived in a small apartment, no schedule, kids watched tv all day and no outside time! My daycare is the complete opposite.

[daycare]

I dont care so much what has happened in the past. There are two sides to every story and I only need one to make a decision for myself.

what works for others may not work for me and vs.

I would go ahead and enroll. Knowing that behavior is an issue, I would sit down before starting and go over the rules and expectations this way there are no surprises or confusions.

I have had many kids who come from the private academy near my house for reasons like this. ALl of them have worked out so far.

[Unregistered]

I dont care so much what has happened in the past. There are two sides to every story and I only need one to make a decision for myself.

what works for others may not work for me and vs.

I would go ahead and enroll. Knowing that behavior is an issue, I would sit down before starting and go over the rules and expectations this way there are no surprises or confusions.

I have had many kids who come from the private academy near my house for reasons like this. ALl of them have worked out so far.

Op here

She seemed fine but I wanted to make sure I wasn't making a huge mistake! I can tell they are an active sibling set and will need outdoor time a lot - which works perfectly with us!

[Annalee]

Enviorment plays a huge roll. .

I have also taken kids from daycares that labeled the kids as a problem....but the kids were totally different in my program. I find it amazing what a simple routine with clearly outlined expectations will do. Many times kids are begging for boundaries and acceptance for who they are.

[josie2014]

I have kid like this before,he have been all family daycare in my city,include center.He was 2 almost 3 year old.He bitting all the other kids and screaming for anything.I tryout for 2 month hard 2 months.Dcms told if I keep taking care of him they will pull out their childrem,because his behavior was affecting the other dck.I kind you can tryout 2 week best thing you can do....

[Unregistered]

I was DC # 6. This one 4yo was just bad as heck for everyone else. I agreed to a 2 week trial. The 3rd day in, he started throwing chairs, kicking, spitting, hitting, biting. I bear hugged him, and let him know I wasn't going to leave. The problem was, he never had ANYONE ever give him a real chance. He thought I'd leave him too. That was our ONE and only real incident. He turned out to be one of my favorites over the years.

[gracepatiencelove]

We did a trial. It's over on Monday. First few days good. This week has been BAD. I feel like I am CONSTANTLY correcting, stopping bad behavior. My two 18 mos got shoved today and this is a big girl. I don't know that I will ever take on someone who has been termed for behaviour before. That said, I am extending the trial and consulting some behavior specialists. I think she just really needs help.