when you dont click with a parent

[DaisyMamma]

How do you deal with this?
I wish I didn't feel this way. She just makes me uncomfortable.

I don't think she feels the same. After all she enrolled her kids in my daycare.

[melilley]

I have one dcm who I don't click with at all! She's not mean or anything, but she is really obnoxious and well you just have to know her.

She has no clue that I don't care for her. I just talk to her like I would any other parent and don't let her see my annoyance for her. I know it's fake, but I feel that sometimes you have to be, especially since it's not a huge reason I don't click with her, but I should still be nice. I try to please the parents and make them feel comfortable even if I don't like them. (She's the only one I don't care for).

[Jack Sprat]

I have two. One is just a flake and annoys me. I usually keep things short and sweet with her. The second is a gossip monger and she works where I bank. Makes me feel a little weird her knowing our finances etc. I keep it short and sweet with her as well and have my guard up waiting for to start digging for info.

[Annalee]

How do you deal with this?
I wish I didn't feel this way. She just makes me uncomfortable.

I don't think she feels the same. After all she enrolled her kids in my daycare.

I have one parent that I feel the same way about. While I think she feels we take good care of her children, I still feel we do not satisfy what she wants for her sweet little xxxx and xxxx (that is what she refers to her kids as). If she calls or texts she wants to know about her sweet little xxxx and xxxx. I play her game and tell her what she wants to hear. One time I accidentally text a sad face instead of a smiley face and I thought she was going to hyperventilate whens she immediately called me. She is very high-maintenance!!!!!!

[Blackcat31]

I did not click with my child care provider at all.

However, my kids loved her. To me that was all that mattered.

I paid on time, followed her rules and was a good client. I didn't have to like her and she didn't have to like me to make it work I guess.

As a provider, I have found that enrolling parents that I DO click with makes this job super easy and very manageable. But that is MY personal preference and how I run my business.

I don't think you HAVE to click to make things work but I do think it helps.

As far as advice, if the parts about her that don't click with you are small or insignificant I would just smile and make do.

If it is something you literally cannot deal with on a daily basis, term. It's the fairest thing for everyone.

[DaisyMamma]

I have one parent that I feel the same way about. While I think she feels we take good care of her children, I still feel we do not satisfy what she wants for her sweet little xxxx and xxxx (that is what she refers to her kids as). If she calls or texts she wants to know about her sweet little xxxx and xxxx. I play her game and tell her what she wants to hear. One time I accidentally text a sad face instead of a smiley face and I thought she was going to hyperventilate whens she immediately called me. She is very high-maintenance!!!!!!

I think we have the same parent.

I was surprised when she said she wanted to enroll them. And still I feel like I'm waiting for her to say shes taking them out.

[DaisyMamma]

I did not click with my child care provider at all.

However, my kids loved her. To me that was all that mattered.

I paid on time, followed her rules and was a good client. I didn't have to like her and she didn't have to like me to make it work I guess.

As a provider, I have found that enrolling parents that I DO click with makes this job super easy and very manageable. But that is MY personal preference and how I run my business.

I don't think you HAVE to click to make things work but I do think it helps.

As far as advice, if the parts about her that don't click with you are small or insignificant I would just smile and make do.
Ft is something you literally cannot deal with on a daily basis, term. It's the fairest thing for everyone.

Thats such a good point. And I do like her kids.

[Annalee]

I think we have the same parent.

I was surprised when she said she wanted to enroll them. And still I feel like I'm waiting for her to say shes taking them out.

Same here, nothing would surprise me about my parent, but she has been here almost 3 years now....who knows????? ::

[Crazy8]

Have had a few over the years… just keep it short and sweet with a fake smile. That's all you can really do!

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

For sure! Actually, many of my parents but especially one or two. I fake it and apparently I do a great job (I have had to learn how to fake it...) because she tells everyone about us and has for a year now. ::

That being said it REALLY drains me. It is incredibly difficult for me to fake it and i try to avoid interactions if I can by "being busy" with another child. I would prefer it if everyone picked up at the same time so I had to fake it less instead of 2 early pick-ups, 7 regular pick-ups, and 2 (sometimes 1 more from reg pick ups) late pick ups. Only the reg pick ups herd in around the same time. Ahhhhh. If it did not look bad I would hire someone just to take care of pick-up interactions each day!

[melilley]

I have one parent that I feel the same way about. While I think she feels we take good care of her children, I still feel we do not satisfy what she wants for her sweet little xxxx and xxxx (that is what she refers to her kids as). If she calls or texts she wants to know about her sweet little xxxx and xxxx. I play her game and tell her what she wants to hear. One time I accidentally text a sad face instead of a smiley face and I thought she was going to hyperventilate whens she immediately called me. She is very high-maintenance!!!!!!

Mine will do that too! Once I sent a pic. of her ds doing something fun and she immediately called to see if something was wrong! I have also texted insignificant things to her before and she has called an is in a tizzy about it-things that require no answer or a quick reply. She also is over dramatic about anything her child does so I just don't tell her anything unless it's really something concerning..and I never send pics anymore.

[NightOwl]

Yes. She's my sister. Lol. Word of advice, never have friends or family as clients.

[DaisyMamma]

For sure! Actually, many of my parents but especially one or two. I fake it and apparently I do a great job (I have had to learn how to fake it...) because she tells everyone about us and has for a year now. ::

That being said it REALLY drains me. It is incredibly difficult for me to fake it and i try to avoid interactions if I can by "being busy" with another child. I would prefer it if everyone picked up at the same time so I had to fake it less instead of 2 early pick-ups, 7 regular pick-ups, and 2 (sometimes 1 more from reg pick ups) late pick ups. Only the reg pick ups herd in around the same time. Ahhhhh. If it did not look bad I would hire someone just to take care of pick-up interactions each day!

Reading this made me realize that's what it is. I have to be fake and it is actually exhausting.

I can't put my finger on what I don't like, so I will go with it for now. Maybe its me, and having someone new. I felt this way about a parent last year. Now I like her. It took a long time.

[daycare]

I have one that I can not stand and one that just bugs me from time to time. As others have said do the fake it until you make it. We only have to deal with parents a few mintues of the day.

I say that as long as your dislike does not carry over into the care of her child then just carry on and bite your tongue.

The one that I can't stand refers tons of clients to me, always brings me gifts, talks about me like I am the best thing since sliced bread. (btw I have no clue what that means, I just like saying it) I can't get american humor...

The other mom I have just tries to push my policies and I think she knows I am not a fan of hers, but she does see how much I love her child and vs.

I guess it depends on why you don't like her. If it's just her personality, then grin and bare it. If it's because she can't follow your rules, then kick her out the door.

[daycarediva]

For sure! Actually, many of my parents but especially one or two. I fake it and apparently I do a great job (I have had to learn how to fake it...) because she tells everyone about us and has for a year now. ::

That being said it REALLY drains me. It is incredibly difficult for me to fake it and i try to avoid interactions if I can by "being busy" with another child. I would prefer it if everyone picked up at the same time so I had to fake it less instead of 2 early pick-ups, 7 regular pick-ups, and 2 (sometimes 1 more from reg pick ups) late pick ups. Only the reg pick ups herd in around the same time. Ahhhhh. If it did not look bad I would hire someone just to take care of pick-up interactions each day!

I could have written this. I have seriously contemplated hiring an assistant from 3:30-5:30, and part of the reason is so that I can NOT deal with parent pickups.

I dislike/don't click with 90% of them. The few I DO really like, I did not expect to like AT ALL.

One is what I call Harvard Mom, she is an attorney, and can afford a nanny or a high end center preschool but wants dcb to be 'grounded', and make friends with kids in the area....so I felt like she was slumming it and was going to be uppity or difficult. Been here two years, BEST CLIENT EVER. She is honest, not a helicopter parent, genuinely respects my opinion and asks my advice, and took it to heart when I told her that dcb will learn the alphabet without flash cards (he has :P) also thoughtful, follows every policy to the letter, even gave me pointers on wording of my contract and handbook to fix some loopholes when I was redoing them. She can stand there in her Jimmy Choos, with her benz in my driveway, and talk to me all day for all I care.

The Mom I do NOT like has NO money and is the biggest SNOB, laziest parent...but her kid is awesome and I only see her for 5 minutes a day. I deal.