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So my 23 month old granddaughter has been scratching the older daycare boys here at daycare, she'll be fine playing then they will take something from her and she will scratch! I'll take her out of playroom bring her some toys to play by herself then the boys will come up and mess with her again she gets mad then scratches again , not light scratches either they are pretty bad so when parents pick up I have to explain and of course they think it's all her fault like the boys don't do anything to her , I've told the boys over and over again just to let her be and she won't do anything. She scratched a 4 year old db yesterday and the mom had a horrible attitude about saying if I cut her nails and watch them right, well u can't keep my eye on her every second of the day! We are doing time outs with her when she does it ? Any suggestions ?
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It is your responsibility to protect ALL the children. Her from the boys "messing with her" and them from being scratched. You do need to keep an eye on them all the time. Keep her with you at all times. -
She needs to be separated.. both to keep the boys from bothering her and from her ripping them to shreds.Comment
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As Grandma, I would cut her fingernails. Short.
If it were any other DCK, I would not allow them to return without their nails being trimmed.
I also agree about separating. Her from the boys and the boys from her.Comment
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We are dealing with this here and it is something that started with one child and now two more are copy cating the behavior. I"ve figured out its mostly a fight over whos going to be the lead boy.
Then today one of the girls was actually scratching herself to mimic the behaviior. We care both day and evening shift and other than 4-6 days a month we usually have five day shift plus my grandson, 2-3 night shift plus my grandson. There are two of us providing care at almost all times. We also only have about an hour play time n the playroom with many checks, but we have even stopped that to try and fix this issue. So we constantly have eyes on them. These three will still jump on each other like a spider monkey and get in scratches as your flying across the room after them. But Im convinced a switch up in activites and less down time will keep them to busy.
The more fun they are having or learning they are doing the less focused they will be on going at each other, hopefully. And my grandson is here and I will tell you my two biggest agressers are him and the 18 month old dcb who is the youngest other than a baby we watch a couple days a week. The 18 month olds mom is young her son is short, stalky and bossy and all boy. He wants to be lead dude and not afraid to take on any Ge or size a.d often provokes like to the point will shove my grandson off couch, jump on another kids back while watching tv , has even scratched and hit at me once and tries to tell me no, but I dont play.
However other than scratching most of his antics are annoying and provoking to the kids and none are afraid of him because hes so little. And sometimes you chuckle to yourself thinking boy hes a brave one. His main fights are with his cousin. But his mom seems to find his way humorus and doesnt seem to like cousin much. But now that her boy is coming up with the most scratches, suddenly its an issue.Uncle even says hes caught her boy on top his punching him in the face at home.
So sister tells me at pickup tonight that the 18 month olds mom was griping to her a out it, so im going to have to talk to her in the am, ugh. But I dont want to be blamy and do want her to feel heard and know we are working on it. Sister says shes young (18) and makes a big deal about every little thing. BIL says shes just unreasonable (but he used other words.IDKLast edited by Blackcat31; 05-09-2014, 07:28 AM.Comment
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