It's so weird here...and wonderful!

[Heidi]

Last week, I terminated "Jaws". A little man I'd had for almost 2 years, who's behavior has gotten steadily worse and worse, culminating in a return of biting behavior and biting my 10mo dcb.

He's been gone 2 days, and it's SO.DANG.PEACEFUL! No one hitting, fighting, tantruming. They just play, play, play! happyface

Got word from former dcm that he's already on probation at the new center. Not for fighting, though. Because he "can't handle the transitions well" and has meltdowns. Wow, really? On the first day, they're going to expect a 2 1/2 year old to just go-with-the-flow in a totally new situation? Seems a little harsh. Still, I've filled his spot and there is no way in heck I'm taking him back here, even though I feel terrible for him and his mom.

[daycare]

as hard as it is, I bet you and the rest of the kids feel like the weight of the world has just been lifted off your shoulders.

I have one of my hyper kids out on vacation and it has been rather quiet here. I am not excited for his return.....

[TwinKristi]

I've had that happen twice! Once was a 12 month baby, mom was a classic helicopter "I want to do everything right" kinda moms and it was so stressful. I didn't realize until he was gone that it was really stressing me out.
Then I was going to term a DCB, then his mom gave me notice and I was sad! Then he was gone and I was like wow!! This is amazing! I will have him for drop in care occasionally and I always think "ahhhhh thank God he's gone!!"

[Meyou]

The only day happier than the last day with my biter was my last day with two siblings forever known as Screamer and Screamer Jr. 7 years and I still can't say their names. Worst.12.weeks.ever.

Enjoy the peace!! For me the biggest "you did the right thing" incentive is seeing all the other kids play happily again.

[taylorw1210]

I had this happen when a dcg3 left. I didn't realize how negatively her behavior effected my entire group until after she left! She was more than a handful, and the first to arrive/last to leave, and when I ran into her at church last weekend I had to fight the urge to just keep walking!

[daycarediva]

YAY!!!


I bet there is more to it than what the center is telling Mom. (or Mom is telling you). I have never heard of that after one day.

[Play Care]

YAY!!!


I bet there is more to it than what the center is telling Mom. (or Mom is telling you). I have never heard of that after one day.

When I did my term a couple of years ago, the very next week was AMAZING.

[josie2014]

I'm hoping that,but the dcm is saying she's can't find place for her her daughter,at first she's asked week now after first week she's saying I need couple more weeks.But I don't know sometimes they really lay...I can't really belive on than anymore.DCD told I going to pick up by 4 every day,I waited 4:30 nothing 5 nothing 5:30 I texted who going to pick her up...nobody knows anything...He show up 6:30...
He didn't text telling going to be late nothing...

[Heidi]

I'm hoping that,but the dcm is saying she's can't find place for her her daughter,at first she's asked week now after first week she's saying I need couple more weeks.But I don't know sometimes they really lay...I can't really belive on than anymore.DCD told I going to pick up by 4 every day,I waited 4:30 nothing 5 nothing 5:30 I texted who going to pick her up...nobody knows anything...He show up 6:30...
He didn't text telling going to be late nothing...

That dad would have been met at the door with a baby and a bag full of baby's things, and a termination letter.

Honey, you sound like such a nice lady. You don't have to be nice all the time, though! They are taking advantage of you because you are too nice. Please, just say "Friday is dcg's last day. You will need to figure out something else for next week". Make eye contact, stand tall, and be firm!

Their child=their problem. They are making it yours, and they are being incredibly rude too! Stand up for yourself! :hug: Then, come tell US you did it! We will give you a cheer.


Here is a letter you can copy:

Dear DCM,

This letter serves as of termination of our daycare arrangement. (Insert child's name) last day of care will be Friday, May 9, 2014."

Sincerely,

Josie

[josie2014]

Thank soo much...you guy's are so nice and helpful,I have been learning so much from the forum...I loved.Yes I know I am too nice sometimes,my husband says the same thing.Josie they taking advantage from you,stop doing that.I learning girls...Heidi you have a lot experience I love your answerslovethis

[Heidi]

Thank soo much...you guy's are so nice and helpful,I have been learning so much from the forum...I loved.Yes I know I am too nice sometimes,my husband says the same thing.Josie they taking advantage from you,stop doing that.I learning girls...Heidi you have a lot experience I love your answerslovethis

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