Banning Play-Date Talk?

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I have never had a group like this one before. EVERY day there is discussion about who is invited to so-and-so's house (and they do actually have playdates). There have been tantrum meltdowns from 4 and 5-year-olds in the entryway when they beg their parents and they say no. It is a group of 4 of them that are doing and discussing this often (all ages 4.5-5). The ones that do go on playdates together clearly don't have the same rules at the others houses and end up coming back here and being rambunctious and crazy together. I am constantly reminding them that school rules are different than home rules and we DO NOT TOUCH the other child.

Other children are feeling excluded due to all the discussion going on over and over and over throughout the day and I feel I need to end this now...

Or, do I? Do I just DEAL until the fall when 3 of them go to Kinder?

[Blackcat31]

I don't let my kids talk about birthday parties, play dates or anything they did outside of daycare BECAUSE it hurts the other kids' feelings.

They are allowed to share during circle time but NO mentioning it again after circle time. They all know it warrants them to paying solo if they choose to continue discussing it.

[jenboo]

Ban it!
I don't let my niece talk about our weekend together and how I painted her nails or days that she is doing something with me after daycare hours.
Kids get their feelings hurt and it's not necessary.

[originalkat]

I do not allow play-date/birthday party talk. Kids this age do not know how to appropriately handle these topics and they end up hurting others' feelings.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

What do I do when they are begging parent for so and so to come over or are asking their parent if its the day so and so does come?
Do i tell parents we are no longer allowing those discussions?

How do you word it to kids? I hear, "Blahblah, do you want to come to my house today?" All day long.

[cheerfuldom]

What do I do when they are begging parent for so and so to come over or are asking their parent if its the day so and so does come?
Do i tell parents we are no longer allowing those discussions?

How do you word it to kids? I hear, "Blahblah, do you want to come to my house today?" All day long.

Ask that each parent communicate playdate plans via phone, etc. only. Playdate plans in front of the children are causing disruptions, upset kids, and prolonged dropoffs and pickups. If a child was freaking out in the doorway, I would just remind mom "Pam, playdate discussions need to happen outside of the daycare. You will have to leave and call Stephanie later about that". BC had a great idea about adding what-I-did-over-the-weekend type discussions to circle time only. If the kids ask each other, you are just going to have to remind them that "they can talk to mommy tonight about it but we aren't going to talk about that right now"

[Soccermom]

I have this same issue here!! It drives me nuts!

I haven't sent out a memo about it yet because if I sent out a memo everytime my DCPs did something that annoyed me, they would get notes daily but it has been so tempting at times.

I have two DCFs who are friends and the kids go play at each other's houses constantly. They are 4 and they do sleepovers!! The will sit in my steps or in my entrance and discuss plans for sleepovers, having the other one over for supper, play dates, parties, etc...you name it - Right in front of the other DCKS and my DS who is friends with them but has never been invited.

It pisses me off! Where are these people's manners!!?

[Second Home]

Unless everyone is invited I do not let the kids go on and on about playdates or parties . It just causes too much conflict which turns into the whole you are not my friend argument.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I have this same issue here!! It drives me nuts!

I haven't sent out a memo about it yet because if I sent out a memo everytime my DCPs did something that annoyed me, they would get notes daily but it has been so tempting at times.

I have two DCFs who are friends and the kids go play at each other's houses constantly. They are 4 and they do sleepovers!! The will sit in my steps or in my entrance and discuss plans for sleepovers, having the other one over for supper, play dates, parties, etc...you name it - Right in front of the other DCKS and my DS who is friends with them but has never been invited.

It pisses me off! Where are these people's manners!!?

I would ask them to please take it outside because they are hurting other kids feelings.

Memo going out today!!!