to stay with it or not.

[Unregistered]

Hello ladies I need some help.

I really want to finish my degree but I am running an in home daycare. My husband wants me to close but I feel so obligated to my parents.

I have the worst time putting myself before others and it is killing me to do this.

[NoMoreJuice!]

Is there any way you can complete your degree online? I took classes and wrote papers during nap time and in the evenings. What degree are you going for?

[Unregistered]

I am going for social work. They have a hybrid option but I still have to be on campus with tgat option. And I know I will soon have a field work class.

My husband doesn't want me to quit because of school he is just tired of sharing the house with the daycare.

[Play Care]

For me, providing in home day care is something I could only do if my spouse were on board. Because it is a HUGE imposition to the family.
That said, what does he propose you do otherwise? Would you have to pay for child care? Will he be able to take days off when your kids are sick or need to go to the doctors? What will the new housework/dinner arrangement be (assuming you will be working FT outside the house then it's only reasonable to more equally split the chores) or is this a situation where he thinks it will be all sunshine and roses with no more day care and you working full time and still attending to the things you did while working at home?

The only way I would quit would be to go to school FT to get the program completed more quickly and start working in my chosen field. I wouldn't be quitting to go back to lower level employment and trying to hash that out, plus school, plus home, plus family etc.

Good luck!

[Annalee]

For me, providing in home day care is something I could only do if my spouse were on board. Because it is a HUGE imposition to the family.
T!

I am one of the ones whose husband is NOT on board at all. Luckily, I have an attached room with kitchen/bath included so I can just shut the door after hours. There is NO WAY it would work in my living space. Good luck to you!

[Unregistered]

He suggests I go work a "real job". But I did that last summer and worked two jobs which werent giving me enough hours and looking at having a third.

Here are my options as I see it:

I can stop doing daycare and just go to school living off the federal work study and whatever I get in financial aid.

Or work for one of my familes as a nanny (I did this before at their home). Their youngest will be in half day pre-k next year so I can take a class a day while he is in school and at night. And do it in their home.

[Annalee]

He suggests I go work a "real job". But I did that last summer and worked two jobs which werent giving me enough hours and looking at having a third.

Been there, heard that! It was very hard for me in the beginning 20 plus years ago. I am from a home where mom and dad were as one, thought as one, did as one, etc. My husband thought I would be like that and he could "dictate" what I did. BUT I let him know from the beginning that I worked very hard to get to where I am now with my business/education/etc. and my mind was made up so to just accept it or there would be problems. Issues do arise occasionally but not near as often. In a way, I used the same non-negotiable persona I use with my parents. :: Ironically, my daycare mentor helped me deal with this personal issue as well and I am very THANKFUL for her support through the years! I wish you the best!

[josie2014]

Can you finish online?It's hard to manage your own kids if you have,husband,home,daycare and school.
If your husband has good income go forward because when the parents don't need your service anymore they will not care about you.

[Unregistered]

I have to bring in some income from some where financial aid, work, something.

For my bacholers degree the best I can hope for is half online half at the school. And even if I do it online he doesnt want me doing this anymore so then I am pleasing the parents but not my husband. He should come first and I know this but I just feel obligated to my parents.

I refuse going to work two jobs again because there is no way I can make a school schedule work around it.