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What do you do when you have a child that is determined to play with himself? I have a boy that I just can't get him to keep his hands out of his pants!
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I just keep repeating "hands out of the pants " , make them go wash their hands and tell them they can not touch toys if they put their hands in their pants .
Eventually they spend too much time hand washing and less time playing it slowly stops . At least for the 1 dcb I had this issue with . -
Good advice. You have to be able to manage this behavior and the above is something that a lot of providers do. I would absolutely curb the behavior just I would with other inappropriate actions like hitting, biting and pushing. Shadow this kid, stop him immediately and if you cant put a stop to it, be frank with his parents that you cannot care for a child that is continuing with unsanitary behavior (which it is, especially in group care) and modeling inappropriate social behavior (which you dont want the other kids mimicing!). you could put something over this clothing so he cant get into his pants. Backwards footed sleepers with the feet cut off or something like the Halo Big Kids Sleepsack.Comment
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Oh, I like the hand washing idea. I would put him in (or ask the parents to put him in) some clothing that will make it difficult/impossible to get his hands in there.
If he was still trying, I might try saying something like "Gee, DCB, you sure have busy hands today! Remember, we don't touch ourselves that way/use our hands that way/[whatever] at Miss Suzy's house. Let's find you something to do with those busy hands!" and give him something like playdoh, or pom poms with tweezers (like this). No idea if that would work, but I guess after the restrictive clothing this would be my next step.Comment
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Require onesies with pants or shorts over them.Comment
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I do make the child wash his hands when I catch him with his hands down his pants. I guess I'll just have to keep working on it.
Thank you for your advise.Comment
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I know that is considered normal behavior.
But just wondering....how old is this child? And how often does he play with himself?
My parents were specialized foster care parents....a lot of children and adolescents with issues. It can also be considered a "red flag" when a child is insistently playing with themselves.Comment
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I don't think anything has happened to him. He's 4 yrs old and yes, I know it's normal for them to do this. But we also have to get them to not do it - especially around other people. I've been doing daycare for years and have had plenty of kids that do this. This particular child is simply determined to continue doing this and I can't get him to understand that he can't do that here.Comment
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I have a dcb who is 2 and seems to have his hands in his pants all day. I simply tell him that he needs to go wash, and he may play with his wiener at home but, not at my house. I am very calm about it. Its normal and natural.
Our DD was the same age when she started doing this. We told her she could go to her room and do it but, not anywhere else and she had to wash her hands. It lasted maybe 3 months.Comment
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Sort of OT, but I have a one year old DCB that is proud of his. At diaper change, he points to it and says, "This,this!". I want to say,"One of these days you will figure out that you are the only one proud of that thing." Cracked mom up when I told her. :
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also I put them in one piece shirts with pants over it. It curbs it also.
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