Parent Communication

[cheerfuldom]

I was allowing the two DCM's that are friends and on each others lists to pick up without prior notiication becouse the two families are very close. The problem started when DCM 1 wanted to add her after hours nanny to DCM 2's list and I said sorry... only parents can have access to childs file. DCM 1 turned into an issue and DCD 2 shows up with a long detailed list of who has permission to pick up his child and how I am to verify said individuals and full of legalese as he is a police officer, signed by both parents. I replied with "thank you for the detailed letter, but you do need to add the nanny to the required state form".
That's all that was needed in the first place, I feel resentful toward DCM 1 for making such a big deal about this. I think she was mad becouse she asked if she could pay on Thursday rather than Monday and I said ok... then she said well it will probably be Friday or Monday and I said no, you need to pay this week. I have been hoping DCF 2 will age out soon anyway, I have had them for 7 years I am tired of there late pick ups and excuses. I really don't want to deal with either of these families on Monday. So, do I enforce the policies that all families are required to call before anybody else picks up their child including these two families since officer rightous wrote the letter? Or do I just allow them to pick up each others kids to keep the peace?

Okay, now I see the update. If the parents have provided written permission or whatever it is you need in order to release kids, then yes, let them do whatever arrangement they want as long as it follows your rules and is not disruptive in some other way. I can see how this situation is made worse by the fact that these parents are sort of teaming up on you and also by past situations. When are these families going to age out?

[NightOwl]

If they are on the list, then yes. That's why the list is there. But I still text dcps to say "hey, such and such just picked up dck, FYI". And I'll usually get an "oh I forgot to tell you!"

[Janiam]

Okay, now I see the update. If the parents have provided written permission or whatever it is you need in order to release kids, then yes, let them do whatever arrangement they want as long as it follows your rules and is not disruptive in some other way. I can see how this situation is made worse by the fact that these parents are sort of teaming up on you and also by past situations. When are these families going to age out?

DCF 2 has done the required paperwork. The problem initially was that DCM 1 wanted to do it for them since they were "too busy" and might not have time before they all went out of town, for confidentiality purposes and per state regs I said no. I really don't have a problem with them picking up each others kids...my policies state I need communication from parents before anyone other than parent can pick up a child. This is a CMA policy that is in my PHB. I think it would be best to have both sets of parents sign a letter, as Blackcat said, to give each other permission to pick up without prior notification and have both sets of parents sign.
One child is the oldest in my DC and has shown up twice this month, they have to pay for their slot no matter if he is here or not but lately they don't seem to have the time to let me know when he won't be here. The other family will be going to kindy in the fall. DCM 1 is very passive agressive and I tend to be very direct , so I would like to have a reasonable plan and move forward without the drama.