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  • cheerfuldom
    Advanced Daycare.com Member
    • Dec 2010
    • 7413

    #16
    You do what YOU think is best. You are the caregiver and the adult and you cannot base a decision on what he wants to do or even what he is doing if that is not what is best for him. Also, be careful about attributing adult perspective to a child. We might think "oh he wants his friends" or "oh he just wants to see what is going on" and then feel inclined to base decisions off of that but of course, that might not be the case at all. It is pretty rare that a toddler WANTS to go lay down. He may be showing signs of sleep deprivation which the adults around him are viewing as excitement or enthusiasm just for the fact that is he is jumpy and running around and not focusing on particular activities. Just because he seemingly has energy does not mean that he needs to be up or that he even wants to be up. And also, yes we need to consider the parents input but just be careful about putting too much stock in that. He may be showing grumpiness in the evening which may be due to sleep deprivation or not....you dont really know what is going on at home, you know? He could be grumpy for a variety of reasons or maybe he is just fine at home but the parents are the ones that are tired and any small inconvenience from him is seen as grumpiness.

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    • jenboo
      Daycare.com Member
      • Aug 2013
      • 3180

      #17
      Originally posted by cheerfuldom
      You do what YOU think is best. You are the caregiver and the adult and you cannot base a decision on what he wants to do or even what he is doing if that is not what is best for him. Also, be careful about attributing adult perspective to a child. We might think "oh he wants his friends" or "oh he just wants to see what is going on" and then feel inclined to base decisions off of that but of course, that might not be the case at all. It is pretty rare that a toddler WANTS to go lay down. He may be showing signs of sleep deprivation which the adults around him are viewing as excitement or enthusiasm just for the fact that is he is jumpy and running around and not focusing on particular activities. Just because he seemingly has energy does not mean that he needs to be up or that he even wants to be up. And also, yes we need to consider the parents input but just be careful about putting too much stock in that. He may be showing grumpiness in the evening which may be due to sleep deprivation or not....you dont really know what is going on at home, you know? He could be grumpy for a variety of reasons or maybe he is just fine at home but the parents are the ones that are tired and any small inconvenience from him is seen as grumpiness.
      I do what I think is best. I lay him down for his morning nap for an hour. He doesn't sleep. I lay him down in the afternoons and he sleeps for an hour, maybe hour and a half, then lays there until nap time is over.
      This was just a vent. Honestly, there is nothing that can be done. I can't force him to sleep even though I know he is tired. I can lay him in a dark room with music and do everything I can to get him relaxed but I cannot force him to a actually sleep. I'm hoping it's just a phase that passes. It's sad to see him so tired but there is only so much I can do.

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