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How about a cruise? Went on my first one last December and no one from land can even contact you unless it is an emergency!
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Besides the excellent suggestions above consider mixing up your day or simplfying your day.
The last two days I have just not felt like doing our normal things like taking trips almost daily to the park. I didn't even feel like going outside. Soooo, we didn't. Now some of this might get me flamed but who cares. This is just an occasional thing and it helps me get my mojo back.
I keep the same lunch/nap schedule, etc. but other than that we just go with the flow. Yesterday I left the t.v. on all morning in the playroom (flames yet?). Actually they barely watched it but would catch some on the fly while playing. So when something caught their interest it was some mini 'quiet time' for me. We didn't go out at all.
Today so far we were ready to resume our regular schedule but I just followed their lead. After they had their shoes on to go out in the yard, they started (I only have 2 today) doing other things. So instead of saying "Let's go out" I started playing Candy Crush Saga (flame thrower anyone?). These two are two and three year olds and they play with me. On level 16 we can almost always win and they can touch it at random. If you make the wrong move, you don't lose any turns in this game. Then we got bored with that (and the tablet needed to be recharged) so I took them into the spare bedroom so I could change out books. I keep them and various other things we aren't using in there. A new room with the sunshine coming through the window was very relaxing. I organized all the books while they dumped out a rubbermaid box of infant toys which they are way too old for. They had a good time sorting through them. They also got out the doll things which I keep in there and we found some real Pampers left from another baby and we put them on the dolls, etc. Just a new room, new things to do mixed up our day.
No telling what we will do tomorrow. It has been really fun for them and a break for me. Plus we found a lot of things that we could bring out to the playroom. Since that room is basically storage, I found things in the wrong bin that I forgot I had. Found treasure!
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Cruise ships running aground.....
Rampant norovirus......
Crazy tales of food related illnesses from the buffets....
People falling overboard/disappearing......
No. No thank you to a cruise.
A road trip though would fun! Or just a convention somewhere.
Anything, anywhere that does not involve periodic diaper checks, continuous positive reinforcement and snot wiping sounds great to me!!!
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My friend cruises regularly. She's never had a problem on Royal Carribean. I wouldn't go on Carnival though. We took Royal Carribean. People don't 'fall' overboard most probably. They get stinking drunk and sit on the rails!! They must be dumber than doormats. We loved every minute of our cruise. Before we went on ours a lot of people told me about them as I wanted info. I didn't hear one bad thing. Of course, I did that when I went to Las Vegas too and everyone loves that place. I must be weird cause I have no desire to go back there again.Cruise ships running aground.....
Rampant norovirus......
Crazy tales of food related illnesses from the buffets....
People falling overboard/disappearing......
No. No thank you to a cruise.
A road trip though would fun! Or just a convention somewhere.
Anything, anywhere that does not involve periodic diaper checks, continuous positive reinforcement and snot wiping sounds great to me!!!
Speaking of conventions, one time I did hear of a daycare provider one on a cruise ship. I don't think I'd want to think about daycare while on vacation though. Huh?
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This is the only cruise "ship" I plan on ever taking. :My friend cruises regularly. She's never had a problem on Royal Carribean. I wouldn't go on Carnival though. We took Royal Carribean. People don't 'fall' overboard most probably. They get stinking drunk and sit on the rails!! They must be dumber than doormats. We loved every minute of our cruise. Before we went on ours a lot of people told me about them as I wanted info. I didn't hear one bad thing. Of course, I did that when I went to Las Vegas too and everyone loves that place. I must be weird cause I have no desire to go back there again.
Speaking of conventions, one time I did hear of a daycare provider one on a cruise ship. I don't think I'd want to think about daycare while on vacation though. Huh?
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Last edited by Blackcat31; 10-12-2014, 07:54 AM.Comment
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Music. Listen to something you absolutely love. This snaps me out of short term grumpiness. Music has a wonderful healing capacity.
Hobby. Find something you love to do and set aside an evening to do it. Even if you have to put your own kids to bed first and stay up a little later. It free the mind to concentrate on a task.
OK this one will sound dumb, but really works for me. Clean and organize some small area in your home. Your desk, you're spice rack, your junk drawer. I enjoy the sense of accomplishment I get from cleaning or organizing
Exercise. Good for mind and body, 'nuff said.
Me personally.....well......I have a very fast motorcycle. This really blows the cobwebs out for me. Terrible advice, I know, but my Ninja is my baby. ::
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It sounds like caregiver never get turned off. You need to have things to look forward too. For me its the weekends with my family. We are active. We do things. A night out with a friend. The gym. Hobbies that you like. I think for many becoming a Mom means that you sink yourself into the ship of kids and leave nothing left for yourself. Wrong answer. Its good for our children to see us happy and living our lives. Yes when the child is sick and needs mom we should be there but not every single moment of life does it make you a better Mom to be always in Mom mode- Its not good for you and it is not good for your children. Taking care of other peoples children is taxing and then you pile that onto your own kiddo's. You have the possibility for a down hill spiral if you don't have some breathing time, self time, friends, time, hubby or partner time.I definitely think that the weather is playing a big part, as well as hormone fluctuations. It's been cold, snowy, or rainy since last October. We had a 2 day reprieve this last weekend, but its supposed to snow tomorrow
I was a very outdoorsy person. and being cooped up in the house with too many kids to leave for the past 7 months is about to have me knocking on the door of the insane asylum. Starting in May, I will have my Fridays completely off, which I think will help a lot, but I will still have my 3 kids 5 and under, so it isn't like its a big break.
I mostly need to figure out how to break the cycle of negativity in my own mind. I used to be so healthy and happy. I would walk in the sun and smile, with my wheatgrass shots and an apple, and have the most positive outlook on life. Who knows- maybe it is the lack of sunshine, but I have to figure out how to pull myself out of this bad place.
Hormones can be horrible- best advise on this is exercise and good diet and sleep
learn to let small stuff go.......tomorrow is another day. Do the important stuff but the little stuff unless its urgent to be done it can wait
get outside, fresh air does wonders
move something around, clean something out, get a fresh look on your surroundings.
Hang on and ride it out, it will get better. Do what you can do to make it better. You get one chance at life, why not make it the most it can be........way too much negativity in this world that I don't need to add to it. I try to remember this when needed and I am down in the dumps. I think of others that have it worse.
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First, hugs. :hug::hug::hug:
I know exactly how you feel, as I'm just now starting to come out of a slump myself. And having to take care of 3 little ones after the dck's go home....how well I understand.
In addition to what was mentioned above, I plan little excursions. I get online, look at Travelocity and other sites like that. I plan an alone getaway for the day or the weekend. And then....I don't take them. :: For some reason, just planning them out and "running away" in my imagination is enough to get me through.
But I agree about taking a Saturday or Sunday to yourself once in a while. Let Dad take care of the kiddos for the day, complete with way-too-much TV time and McD's happy meals.
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It`s not easy task when you have your own children 24 hours a day. But, my best advice is to stay away from negativity. Make drop offs and pick ups quick with your clients, writing your schedule and a quick note of the day activities will be one way of not to have them even to walk inside your house during pick up or drop offs. Remember parents can drain us with their problems. There`s no reason to let kids make you stressed, they need attention, but you also need time for yourself. Let them play on their own every 45 minutes for about 30 to 40 minutes while you make yourself comfortable on the couch with a fun, relaxing book which has nothing to do with children in it, like I do,I like flowers/plants/psychology, I read it all while I look over them playing with each other. Don`t answer phone calls, even from parents, setup a texting messages with parents if they need to reach you, that way it does not disturb the children, and the day will be much calmer. Also, as soon as you get up from bed say, " Beautiful Day, I Love My Job!".
Try it...I`m so calm since I adopted this technics from a friend.Comment
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To help with the negative thinking I highly recommend the book The Four Agreements. Time for yourself away from your kids is very important as well! I only have one kid so I can't imagine having 3 young ones. Hang in there, this like all things shall pass!Comment
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