Anyone Not Do Anything For Birthdays?

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  • Blackcat31
    • Oct 2010
    • 36124

    #16
    Originally posted by Unregistered
    What do you do if dcp's bring cupcakes? I generally only reward good behavior... I just can't reward a child who has been in a timeout with a cupcake the same day. Am I being mean?
    Send it home.

    ...and no, not mean at all.

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    • Gemma
      Childcare Provider
      • Mar 2015
      • 1277

      #17
      Originally posted by MotherNature
      I have a dcg who will be 2 tomorrow. I asked dcm last week if she wanted to make some banana bread or cupcakes or something a little special. She said no, just treat it like a normal day. That was odd to me. I'm just going to say Happy birthday at pick up. They probably either a. want it to be simple & don't want me making a big deal. (Wasn't planning on it..just a special snack.) or b. Don't want any attention on it b/c they want to do all the praise and birtjday stuff. My husband suggested that one b/c dcm is a bit helicopter-y and passive agressive. If it were my kid, I'd be touched that the provider was willing to do something a little special to honour my child. Is it just me?
      I don't do anything for the first 2 B-Days, (I feel the kid really doesn't understand the concept, and I don't need to do things just to impress the parents) I start celebrating from the 3rd B-Day on....we bake cupcakes and I buy something I know the B-Day child would love, then at snack tome we have a little party.

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      • Blackcat31
        • Oct 2010
        • 36124

        #18
        Originally posted by Gemma
        I don't do anything for the first 2 B-Days, (I feel the kid really doesn't understand the concept, and I don't need to do things just to impress the parents) I start celebrating from the 3rd B-Day on....we bake cupcakes and I buy something I know the B-Day child would love, then at snack tome we have a little party.
        Not a biggie as the info is always relevant but the person you quoted (the thread OP) posted over a year ago.

        ...just in case you were expecting a reply.

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        • Gemma
          Childcare Provider
          • Mar 2015
          • 1277

          #19
          Originally posted by Blackcat31
          Not a biggie as the info is always relevant but the person you quoted (the thread OP) posted over a year ago.

          ...just in case you were expecting a reply.
          Oh man I can't sneak one passed you, can I?::::
          and no I really never expect replies, unless I'm asking a question...I was just posting here and there while on break, I never really read the whole thread (or dates for that matter), just the Title

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          • Mom o Col
            Daycare.com Member
            • Jan 2014
            • 126

            #20
            I used to go all out for each kid's birthday (I never have more than four). Call me jaded but I've stopped doing more than maybe a little crown for them to color and darting happy birthday. The kids didn't seem to care and the parents never thanked me. I would have a special treat, favors, balloons, and a gift. Not worth the hassle and effort for me anymore.

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            • Annalee
              Daycare.com Member
              • Jul 2012
              • 5864

              #21
              Usually, the parent of birthday child will send extra treat for snack, but no gifts or decor are added. Some have birthday party on weekend and each daycare child will get an invitation as will I, but I avoid attending for fear of leaving someone out later.

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              • Thriftylady
                Daycare.com Member
                • Aug 2014
                • 5884

                #22
                Parents can send a special treat for snack time if they like for birthdays. I give an age appropriate book when they leave.

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                • Josiegirl
                  Daycare.com Member
                  • Jun 2013
                  • 10834

                  #23
                  Originally posted by Gemma
                  Oh man I can't sneak one passed you, can I?::::
                  and no I really never expect replies, unless I'm asking a question...I was just posting here and there while on break, I never really read the whole thread (or dates for that matter), just the Title
                  I'm glad this topic was resurrected because I've been wanting to change my policies to downsize the dcks' birthdays. I do balloons, special treat(either we make them or dcp brings them), sing HB at snack time and I buy them a gift. I really would like to back away from it, especially the balloon part and replacing the $20-25 gift I currently buy with stickers and a birthday crown. I really can't afford it anymore and My dog tries to eat the balloons. I can tell the only thing the dcks care about is 'what'd ya get me' type of attitude. But I wish I could think of some way to replace the gift-giving part with something that might hit home with them that they have more than enough already and are very lucky kids. KWIM?
                  Guess I'm just getting old and witchy in my ways these days.

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                  • laundrymom
                    Advanced Daycare.com Member
                    • Nov 2010
                    • 4177

                    #24
                    Here we sing happy birthday and birthday child gets chocolate milk w lunch. Easy peasy.

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                    • Annalee
                      Daycare.com Member
                      • Jul 2012
                      • 5864

                      #25
                      Originally posted by Josiegirl
                      I'm glad this topic was resurrected because I've been wanting to change my policies to downsize the dcks' birthdays. I do balloons, special treat(either we make them or dcp brings them), sing HB at snack time and I buy them a gift. I really would like to back away from it, especially the balloon part and replacing the $20-25 gift I currently buy with stickers and a birthday crown. I really can't afford it anymore and My dog tries to eat the balloons. I can tell the only thing the dcks care about is 'what'd ya get me' type of attitude. But I wish I could think of some way to replace the gift-giving part with something that might hit home with them that they have more than enough already and are very lucky kids. KWIM?
                      Guess I'm just getting old and witchy in my ways these days.
                      Buy something needed/wanted for child care explaining to the kids how at each birthday, ALL the kids will enjoy something together and forever as long as they are in your program....not necessarily something to play with, it could be a rug, curtains, chair, etc.

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                      • Thriftylady
                        Daycare.com Member
                        • Aug 2014
                        • 5884

                        #26
                        Originally posted by Annalee
                        Buy something needed/wanted for child care explaining to the kids how at each birthday, ALL the kids will enjoy something together and forever as long as they are in your program....not necessarily something to play with, it could be a rug, curtains, chair, etc.
                        LOVE this idea.

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                        • mommiebookworm
                          Daycare.com Member
                          • Mar 2015
                          • 347

                          #27
                          All I do, is make cupcakes or muffins. And we sing Happy Birthday. I do okay it with the parents first.

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                          • MsLisa
                            Daycare.com Member
                            • Jun 2014
                            • 288

                            #28
                            I nonchalantly ask my SA kids their favorite candy when I notice their birthday is coming up. I then get them a bigger than normal size box/bag of it (from the Dollar Store usually) and give it to them on their bday when they get picked up. Plus a good ol' hug.

                            If they bring in something like cupcakes or cookies I usually pass them out as the kids leave. Sugar them up and send them home!

                            I will also give them simple stuff like extra computer/Wii time or line leader for the gym that day.

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                            • Unregistered

                              #29
                              Originally posted by Blackcat31
                              Send it home.

                              ...and no, not mean at all.
                              Ok, good! I question it because I feel like the parents expect me to do it just because it's their birthday. Maybe it's all in my head! LOL If they want something special then do it after daycare huh

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                              • Unregistered

                                #30
                                Originally posted by MsLisa
                                I nonchalantly ask my SA kids their favorite candy when I notice their birthday is coming up. I then get them a bigger than normal size box/bag of it (from the Dollar Store usually) and give it to them on their bday when they get picked up. Plus a good ol' hug.

                                If they bring in something like cupcakes or cookies I usually pass them out as the kids leave. Sugar them up and send them home!

                                I will also give them simple stuff like extra computer/Wii time or line leader for the gym that day.
                                I like that! Candy present to take hom sounds perfect.
                                Cupcake out the door, nice!

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