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We offer to HELP dcp potty train their children. Notice that I say help because if they are not ready to do it at home, there is no sense in doing it here. But what do you do when one dcp is completely ready to potty train but the other dcp is reluctant about doing it? We have potty trained a few dck in this situation and it always takes longer if one of the dcp is not on board. We are getting ready to train 2 new ones and while dcm is excited at the idea, I am afraid dcd is going to be another reluctant one. Also, what do you do if your potty training methods do not mesh with that of the dcp? An example is many dcp like using pullups but we feel that pullups are just a glorified diaper and hinder the whole process. Last, at what age do you feel potty training is necessary? We have done it with dck under 2 if they are ready but usually wait until after they are 2 but certainly would prefer they be trained by or before 3.
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when the child is ready and shows signs of being ready
pull ups are a mess to clean up. They are great for kiddo's that can pull up and down and almost ready or as an introduction
I don't even try until the parents are serious about training. It starts at home. Parents are lazy. Why should I work my rear end off here and then have them go home and undo everything I am doing. No way. I will encourage, and I will help but it starts at home and I don't care what age the child is. Diapers until the child is able to pull pants up and down and verbally express the need to go and have control. I think BCat has a good potty training policy and I know a couple of others do too- The child wants to please the parents the most too! Unless a child before age two showed huge interest, understanding and control I wouldn't even attempt it- Boys are usually later then girls in my experience.
When you have two parents that are not together or together but not together, you have a sit down and talk about it. Explain it starts at home and both of you have to be doing the same thing in order for it to click, so you need to talk about this and figure out a plan, and a plan b,c,d,and e.....and one of those plans is going to bring you an awe moment. You have to give each plan a chance and stick to the same plan until both are ready to try something else and then you start again. After you have been serious about it at home for a few weeks, I will then jump on board with you. In the meantime I will continue to encourage but I will not nag or force your child.
you also want to tell them at daycare it is different then being home, home might be great and daycare not so much or the other way around- every child is different. The good news is most kids do figure out, you don't see very many adults not potty trained- so have hope, for some its easy and for others it takes forevvvvveeeeeerrrr and then an awwwwe moment happens and it clicks. Its like watching a baby bird fly-
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in my experience most of my boys it has been three or close to four before they were trained and had control. girls 3 or before 3 but some 3 and half. Every child is different.
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