I Think I Offended a DCD

[Second Home]

Dcg lives with dcm & grandparents , Dcd lives a few miles away .

Dcg had a meltdown when grandma picked up dcb( her cousin who also lives with them ) and not her because her father was coming to get her .

I explained to dcd how she was upset & crying and it is hard for her to understand why she had to stay & wait for dcd . He mentioned that dcm had trouble over the weekend with dcg talking back and wanted to know if I had any problems . I told him no , but at this age it is common for kids to test and see what they can gat away with . They will play mom against dad, against daycare , against grandma , etc... He got a bit upset and said well I can help that situation .

I tried to explain all kids do this no matter what type of family arrangement there is . That my kids have done it to me .
He just looked at me then said time to go to dcg and left .

Now I feel bad . He seems like a nice guy and truly wants the best or his dd .

[Lucy]

I guess you had to be there, because I don't READ anything wrong with what you said or how he responded. Maybe he had a certain tone of voice or look that made you think he was miffed?? Hard to tell by just reading it. I think you did fine.

[Second Home]

I think he felt I was saying the living / custody arrangement is why her behavior is changing . Which is not at all what I meant .

His expression did change which is why I think he was upset .

[TwinKristi]

Well unfortunately kids DO have problems when parents don't live together just like what happened today. Sometimes it's hard to come to grips with the repercussion of dual homes, even if it's for the best in the long run!
Even if you didn't mean to offend him he may have just been upset about the situation being out of his control.