Ever term bc you just didn't like the kid?

[Christina72684]

We are full and have people calling all the time wanting to enroll here. I have one DCG who just annoys the crap out of me She doesn't listen most of the time, which then gets my daughter in trouble bc she follows along. She makes these faces when I tell her to do something she doesn't want to do that just get under my skin! I don't care for her mom either and wouldn't be sad if they just stopped showing up. In my contract I do state that we can terminate for different reasons, and we could probably say it's because she's mean to the other kids, doesn't listen, and some times mom picks up late without any notice. I just wondered if anyone else has ever done this.

[Naptime yet?]

I haven't, although I would like to (unfortunately the child I'd like to term is my own)

[MotherNature]

With my 1st family, I had so many issues, from late/no payments, to behavioural issues. I was convinced he was on the spectrum, but mom refused to see anything amiss.. still doesn't. Kid had so many red flags it was scary. He rapidly started regressing, drooling, extremely difficult to understand, and became increasingly violent. Mom laughed it off, allowed him to hit her, fed him crap, and let him watch literally whatever on the tv..violent video games,etc. She thought he was brilliant of course. I termed the 2nd he hit me, but I was looking forward to it actually b/c I was able to term instantly guilt free. It's scary to me mom is now a doula. Hope she matured a bit.

[CraftyMom]

I have not termed bc I didn't like a kid, but I've definitely wanted to!

If dcg is making your days too difficult you might do as you said and term for her behavior if you have others lined up. Maybe start interviewing to be sure you don't end up with a worse one

[cara041083]

I haven't, although I would like to (unfortunately the child I'd like to term is my own)

Same here LOL. I have no issues except for my 1.5 year old. I am having the hardest time with her!

[CraftyMom]

I haven't, although I would like to (unfortunately the child I'd like to term is my own)

There are days I've called my husband at work and told him "your son is kicked out of my daycare, come get him"

[Blackcat31]

I have termed because of a family's behavior and due to not following my policies but never because I simply didn't like a child.

My personal feelings about a child/family has nothing to do with my ability to provide quality care to someone.

Each child is treated the same and is expected to abide by the same rules as everyone else.

If you are wanting to term a family to fill the space, I would make sure it's because you either can't meet their needs or they aren't following your policies.

[TickleMonster]

Late pickups annoy the heck out of me! I (in a sense) termed a DCD from picking up his daughter because he was ALWAYS late. I love the dcg so I informed her mother that she is the only one allowed to pickup and dropoff if she didnt want to lose me. Cleared that problem right up. And yes I have also termed for bad behaviors. When it starts rubbing off on other kids who are normally good, its time to end it. Hopefully you can bring in new clients who are better.

[taylorw1210]

I haven't, although I would like to (unfortunately the child I'd like to term is my own)

There was a period where I wanted to term my kid, too! ::

[cheerfuldom]

You dont HAVE to keep anyone you don't want to keep. This is your business. If you are having trouble managing a child's behavior and have done what you could to address the behavior, then yes, it makes sense to me to let this family go and find a family that fits in better. I have termed for aggressive behavior and excessive crying. I had one term outside of those reasons. The child was crying but not horribly. Her social skills were poor and she didn't get along with any of the kids here. Again, not a horrible issue but definitely a struggle. The last straw was that although she was 4 years old, she would NOT play with any of the preschool or school age girls here (including my own daughters). It was really hard for the other girls to understand why one was continually ignoring them and rejecting them day after day. Maybe some providers would say that I should have stuck it out for the sake of this 4 year old....but I disagree. I let her go, not because her behaviors were unmanageable but because she did not fit in here and I would rather try with another family and get the chance to care for a child that fit in and was happy here. She ended up with a provider that had mostly kids under 2 and she did better there. Now her mom is holding her back from kinder for fear she wont get along with other kids her age so now 18 months down the road, it is a still an issue and I am glad I let them go instead of struggling with this child month after month. My thought is that there is some undiagnosed special needs but either way, letting them go was best for my group as whole. It may sound selfish but I do try and get the group that gets along with one another and that I enjoy being around. I want to enjoy my job and enjoy the children here and not be using my energy trying to get one child to fit in when the clearly dont.

[Unregistered]

Yes you can term if you truly do not like the child. Especially if filing the spot is not an issue. Why should you dread everyday because of one child. And it's not fair to the child either. Term and find a better fit.

Don't feel guilty. And yes, I've termed because I just did not like a particular child. Only happened once in my daycare career and I've never regretted it.

[mountainside13]

I haven't, although I would like to (unfortunately the child I'd like to term is my own)

I felt like that yesterday with my daughter! ::

There are days I've called my husband at work and told him "your son is kicked out of my daycare, come get him"

Ok, that is epic!!! ::::

[TaylorTots]

We are full and have people calling all the time wanting to enroll here. I have one DCG who just annoys the crap out of me She doesn't listen most of the time, which then gets my daughter in trouble bc she follows along. She makes these faces when I tell her to do something she doesn't want to do that just get under my skin! I don't care for her mom either and wouldn't be sad if they just stopped showing up. In my contract I do state that we can terminate for different reasons, and we could probably say it's because she's mean to the other kids, doesn't listen, and some times mom picks up late without any notice. I just wondered if anyone else has ever done this.

I just termed that exact child as I had a better fit waiting. Best decision ever. I told mom the not listening was too much of a problem and though she argued, that was that. Love not having to explain myself 10 times a day to a 4 year old

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I haven't. However, the children that I haven't been fond of have seemingly termed themselves OR were termed for another reason (like violence towards other children that couldn't be fixed).

I would never judge anyone for doing so, though, if it makes you dread going to work.