Trying Very Hard Not To Be Bitter

[DuchessRavenwaves]

Okay, first of all, I just found this thread last night, and now that my kids are asleep? This is me:


As much as I would like to call her out on her insane and ungrateful behavior, I think Mrs.Michelle's response is probably the safest way to go. Not the most satisfying, perhaps, but the safest.

You should have seen my face when I got to your post about her asking for care again. I knew it was coming!

[SignMeUp]

I had a parent get angry with me when I closed because my parent died.

:confused::confused:
:confused::confused:

When she had a second child, she asked a friend of hers if she had "burned her bridges" with me.

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Seriously. What do you think?

[My3cents]

This is how the business or logical side of me feels too.
I also think you already know this.



^^This is how the human side of me feels. When this is all water under the bridge you will have learned from past behavior but for this moment in time, it just hurts and really ****s.

:hug: :hug:

I am right here with both of you!!! I don't like being made to feel like a hard A@@ when I am a true softy at heart and love to help others. I am sorry this has happened to you but agree with so many others, parents are looking out for what is best for them. The same as we would- We are a business to make money, when you start thinking more in that direction it will get a bit easier, but its never easy-

I have a parent that is doing the same thing with me, gave me tons of notice but is leaving me the week before my vacation. Dragging it out along the way because of indecisiveness of the transition to be made. I was taken back at first but it became a wake up call for me to be proactive and do what I need to do to flourish my business. I dislike that I can never become comfortable for very long because of the ever changes in the many facets of this job.

I would say that a babysitter gets paid better then I do. I am a provider and work much harder then a babysitter ever will- That would irritate me a bit, but then again babysitter is a common used term to describe a provider for some places. I would make sure that the clients new the difference- not that it would change their mind but it does make me feel better in how my job is perceived. I am a hard worker.

[CraftyMom]

Okay, first of all, I just found this thread last night, and now that my kids are asleep? This is me:



You should have seen my face when I got to your post about her asking for care again. I knew it was coming!

:::: I've felt this way about several threads on here! I think I'm just truly amazed at the nerve of some parents!

[My3cents]

I would just kill it with kindness and tell her you have no openings ever available for her- Then never reply again to her. You were used.

I enjoyed reading this thread because it showed me once again, how much love is on this forum and support from provider to provider-

[Tasha]

I had a parent get angry with me when I closed because my parent died.

:confused::confused:
:confused::confused:

When she had a second child, she asked a friend of hers if she had "burned her bridges" with me.

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Seriously. What do you think?

To me, this is so much worse than my situation, and I am very sorry it happened to you. My DCM has for sure burned her bridges with me, and I'm wondering how so many of you were certain that she'd be back? It just boggles my mind... It's almost like she's treating me as though i am not human and have no feelings. Plus, she is asking for SPECIAL again because she is well aware that I do not take on part-timers. Once I collect myself I will be replying, and probably will keep it pithy.

[Tasha]

I enjoyed reading this thread because it showed me once again, how much love is on this forum and support from provider to provider-

I agree, and thank you everyone. You have made it so much easier for me, and given me so much great advice and stiffened my resolve because I really had a hard time going through this.

[Tasha]

Good morning Mrs. Ingrate,

I received your inquiry concerning part-time. I am currently interviewing families requiring full-time care.

I am sure _______ and ________ are enjoying Grandma! Moving forward, I hope you find part-time care which meets your needs.

Good luck,

The Best D*mn Provider You’ll Ever Have

This DCM has way too much nerve. Other posters nailed it when they predicted it would NOT be Candy Land at Grandma’s!

I had to edit this post to add:

*&^% @#!

I know you are not going to do this but if it were me. I would say sure _______ and __________ can come back for part-time care. The part-time registration fee is $______ <-----( Would be the six months of income I sacrificed during their time of need.)

KidGrind, you are so funny and smart. I wish I had the nerve to send this email.

[Unregistered]

Dear MrsKarmaStinks DoesItNot:

Thank you for your interest in returning to xyz Daycare. I am currently interviewing for full time openings. If you are interested in full time positions for your children please set up a time to go over the new contract. After all interviews are held I will be contacting the families I believe to be the best fit for xyz Daycare. The first family to put down a two week deposit for each child enrolled, to be used for last two weeks in care, will be enrolled. My current rate for new enrolling families is _____(higher than before.)

I look forward t hearing from you soon!




She will not take you up on the offer, and you were nothing but polite and professional. Word of mouth is still the best advertising.

[KiddieCahoots]

Wow! Some people! If they don't have drama in their lives....they'll create it.
At least you have the satifaction of having the last laugh.

[SignMeUp]

To me, this is so much worse than my situation, and I am very sorry it happened to you. My DCM has for sure burned her bridges with me, and I'm wondering how so many of you were certain that she'd be back? It just boggles my mind... It's almost like she's treating me as though i am not human and have no feelings. Plus, she is asking for SPECIAL again because she is well aware that I do not take on part-timers. Once I collect myself I will be replying, and probably will keep it pithy.

Dcm left because of that:confused: But there's no better or worse. You nailed your situation right there. IF you feel you must respond, I hope you keep it short and do not respond when she tries to keep you engaged. Personally, I would not dignify her request with an answer

[KidGrind]

KidGrind, you are so funny and smart. I wish I had the nerve to send this email.

Thank you! Of course I would replace Ingrate with DCM’s last name and Best D*mn Provider You’ll Ever Have with your first & last name.

I am still reeling that DCM had the nerve to ask for part-time care.

I am having a rough week with a couple of parents.

[nothingwithoutjoy]

Oh, my goodness...I just stayed up way way past my bedtime because I got caught up in this saga. I can't believe she had the nerve to ask you to come back!!! And yet, I've had those parents. It shocks me every time--they're complete jerks, take advantage, and then think you love them and can't wait to get their kid back!

I love this:

*&^% @#!

I know you are not going to do this but if it were me. I would say sure _______ and __________ can come back for part-time care. The part-time registration fee is $______ <-----( Would be the six months of income I sacrificed during their time of need.)

and wish I had that nerve, but in reality, I'd probably just say "no, I'm sorry; I can't," and leave it at that. I worry about burning bridges in a way that might get around through ugly word of mouth.

I'm so sorry you got ripped off that way. Thanks for sharing the story; it helps to hear others' experiences.

[KidGrind]

I am wondering how DCM received your declining to take her back as a client.

[DuchessRavenwaves]

Yeah, what KidGrind said!