Do You Have Playdates?

[Kabob]

I had a former dcm text me saying former dcg was asking about my ds and so wanted to set up a play date.

Do you guys ever do play dates? I wouldn't do it here...that just would make it feel like I'm working...and also there's the awkward fact that I termed her.

I just don't know what to say...

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I would say that you keep your hours outside of work playdate free since you are around a group of children for 10-12 hours per day. I wouldn't feel badly at all!

[Laurel]

I would say that you keep your hours outside of work playdate free since you are around a group of children for 10-12 hours per day. I wouldn't feel badly at all!

[TwinKristi]

Yeah- she may just be looking for a free babysitter one day. LOL if she it at her house and hosted everything I may consider but I wouldn't just have an ex-DCK over to play, even if mom stays. That would be very uncomfortable!

[Kabob]

Oh no I would not allow a play date here...just too much of a liability and potential for misunderstandings plus...like I said, I would feel like I'm working even if ex-dcm was here.

This was just out of the blue after over a month of not hearing from her...very unexpected.

[cheerfuldom]

No way. I bet she is just needing a break from her daughter and was playing on dropping her off for free care under the guise of playdates with your child. Oldest trick in the book although a little surprising see as how this is coming from a termed parent.

You will be able to tell though if you offer to get together outside of your home and you both stay with the kids to visit. If she turns that down, she was definitely looking for you to provide free care at your home without her staying.

[Sunchimes]

I've done it and will do it again. These 3 dcgs were here together from 11 months to 2 years and were really close. Until recently, when I had an open day, I would invite one over for a couple of hours. I don't have any open days anymore, but we are trying to find a day when we can meet at the park.

[Second Home]

We used to have a neighborhood play group that I attended with my dck and my kids. All the dck kids had to have written permission from their parents and we would rotate whose house we would go to each month , each get together was for about 2 hours.
ALL parents were required to stay and watch their children .

[itlw8]

so she is inviting your child to HER house for a play date ?? would you trust her with your child. under school age I only did playdates with friends I enjoyed being with while our children played or that were god enough friend I trusted them with my child when I was not there.

so I would say sorry No I do not do playdates.

[Kabob]

No way. I bet she is just needing a break from her daughter and was playing on dropping her off for free care under the guise of playdates with your child. Oldest trick in the book although a little surprising see as how this is coming from a termed parent.

You will be able to tell though if you offer to get together outside of your home and you both stay with the kids to visit. If she turns that down, she was definitely looking for you to provide free care at your home without her staying.

Yep this turned out to be the case...I offered to meet at a neutral location and she never responded. I figured as much but I thought it would be polite to at least offer...