Just need to vent about a parent!!

[butterfly]

You're right.. and I'm going to do something about her habit of late payments. But I just don't understand how her child isn't a priority!! (when it comes to forgetting lunch, not having time for breakfast, etc.)

These aren't a priority because YOU aren't making it a priority. If you refuse the child at the door when they don't have the necessary items, it WOULD become a priority for DCM. If you want things to change, you need to stand up for yourself and tell DCM that it's unacceptable and it can't happen again.

:hug:

[Mom of 4]

The first several weeks I dropped my kids off for daycare (after doing it 10 years), I was HORRIBLY forgetful. I have a terrible memory, really bad, even to the point I can go somewhere with a specific purpose and not be able to remember that specific thing. I have lost important documents when I deliberately would put it somewhere I swore I'd remember, and I take hours and hours of time to try to find things. It's really hard being in this position. Now I just have a routine, so things with the kids are not forgotten. It's been 2 years now and it's gotten better as far as being meticulous re: daycare. It may not be that the parent doesn't see it as a priority or that she's being disrespectful or only cares for herself....she may simply have a very difficult time with certain things.

I will probably have to take medications and honestly I worry about early Alzheimer's or Dementia and hope my husband will take care of me because I seem to be forgetting more and more short-term things lately (Again, the routine helps with the kids, but it has become long-term). I wouldn't really fault her for it, but maybe ask her if everything's ok. Sometimes when things are going on, you tend to be forgetful too.


I would NOT forego your payment though. I would make sure that she goes and gets it today. I understand forgetting, but once you told her she forgot, she should take care of that immediately.

[Crazy8]

everyone forgets something once in a while but I agree with the others… your reaction to things is going to be what makes the difference.

I may have let the winter clothes slide the first day, but then next day with no lunch her AND child would have turned around to go back for lunch (or stop at a local store for it) and on day 3 when 5 min late I would have said the $5 late fee will be added to your bill tomorrow. If she then dared to be 10 min. late the next day I would have tacked on another $10 late fee. No payment this morning would have had her and child back out the door this morning to run down to the closest ATM and as they walked out the door I would have "reminded" them of that $15 in late fees they accrued this week. That's the only reminder they'd get from me!

[itlw8]

Here's just an example of this week.
MON: forgot to bring outside clothes for her daughter (snow pants, gloves, hat, etc.)… we still have snow and it's still cold outside!! I am sorry mom you need to go back and get the outside clothes We will be going outside to play.
TUES: forgot daughters lunch box… umm, your kid needs to eat lunch!Sorry dcm you need to take her with you and go get her lunch
WED: is 5 minutes past my closing time and DOES NOT SAY A THING ABOUT IT!! No acknowledging that she's late, no sorry, no nothing.You are 5 minutes late I need the $5cash now.
THURS: is 10 minutes past my closing time and, again, no apology. You are 10 minutes late d you have the $10 cash ?
FRI: forgot payment (I would have said something but I didn't realize this until after she left at drop off today, because I assumed that DCM would be picking up today… well, DCG said her aunt is picking her up today, so that means no check for me today). text dcm and remind her she forgot to send a check. If auntie is picking up she needs to send it with her. There will be a late fee of $10 a day if not paid today.

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Only you can enforce your policies you need to speak up and it yu do not have late fees put them enforce starting Monday . Post a notice on the door and hand everyone a copy as they pick up tonight or drop off Monday.