Parenting of Today

[sahm1225]

When I first started my daycare (and before I had a backbone ha ha!) I had a mom who would get here at 6:50am (start time was 7:00) and stay until about 7:10. She would pick up exactly at 5:30, i would practically kick them out the door at 5:45pm. Dd wAs about 8 months old (I also had my own 8 month old and a 2 year old). She once told me that dd went to bed at 6:45pm and woke up at 6:30am. So you figure by the time she got home, she basically changed dd diaper and put her to bed!

They ended up leaving my daycare and one of my favorite Dcd tells me that he didn't want to cause trouble but that he rode the same train to work with her every morning... At 8:24am! Unbelievable.

[Mom o Col]

Why have the second kid? That's what I'm not getting now.

When in our history have moms been able to one to one the second born child for months?

It's not THAT hard to take care of two kids. I swear all the parenting groups and mommy groups have convinced these moms that it is SO hard and that new baby needs their own adult. I'm rarely ever hearing about moms keeping the first kid home when the second one is born unless the first isn't in day care in the first place.

We need to GET A GRIP. It's not THAT hard. You have a roof over your head, food in your belly, a washer and dryer, electricity, running water, a microwave and a stove. You have a grocery store and a car. It's not like the mom has to chop wood, hand carry water, keep a wood stove lit, bake from scratch, tend a garden and raise meat.

What is SO hard about taking care of two little kids with all the conveniences we have now?

I totally agree!!!

[cheerfuldom]

Why have the second kid? That's what I'm not getting now.

When in our history have moms been able to one to one the second born child for months?

It's not THAT hard to take care of two kids. I swear all the parenting groups and mommy groups have convinced these moms that it is SO hard and that new baby needs their own adult. I'm rarely ever hearing about moms keeping the first kid home when the second one is born unless the first isn't in day care in the first place.

We need to GET A GRIP. It's not THAT hard. You have a roof over your head, food in your belly, a washer and dryer, electricity, running water, a microwave and a stove. You have a grocery store and a car. It's not like the mom has to chop wood, hand carry water, keep a wood stove lit, bake from scratch, tend a garden and raise meat.

What is SO hard about taking care of two little kids with all the conveniences we have now?

STRONGLY agree. After having my third, I was doing daycare part time within one week, full time within two weeks, 6 to 8 kids a day. I am not super mom or anyone that has all the answers or all this super human energy and patience.....my parents ****ed at parenting and I was on my own to learn everything. No one helped me after the 3rd and 4th babies were born and my husband works up to 80 hours a week at times! You **** it up and get the job done. You do whatever you have to do to rise to the occasion. Most people don't know how to parent multiple kids, I know I didn't but you get in there, learn fast and work hard.

Nowadays, parents can easily use daycare, nannies, housekeepers....you don't have to do anything if you have the money to pay someone else to do it. None of those things are bad but in excess, parents become lazy and clueless.