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  • caregiver
    Daycare.com Member
    • Dec 2010
    • 256

    Parenting of Today

    I have been having a problem with one of my DCG, who is 2 yrs old. She has been hitting & Biting her brother, who I also have in my daycare. He is 4 and a half. I talked with their Mom this morning about her biting & hitting and if she does this at home also, which she does.
    My vent is not about the biting and hitting issue, but the realization that we providers spend more time with the kids then the parents do. Found out that this dcg's parents only spend 1 hour with her at night after picking her up from here. They feed her dinner and then she goes to bed at 7pm.

    It is like WOW! One hour they spend with both the kids at night! I guess I AM raising their kids! Parents don't seem to really take the time, or have the time to really spend with their kids these days. How sad is that!!
  • LadyPearl
    Daycare.com Member
    • Jan 2014
    • 145

    #2
    I recently had a brother and sister for about 4 9-hr days per week....perfectly reasonable. Well dcd is changing jobs and I was asked to take the kids for 5 days at 11-12hrs per day! Say what!! They switched to a daycare in the town that they both will be working which takes off about 1 1/2hrs of daycare per day. I was asked if I would take them back when dcg starts K in fall 2015. Not at those hours!!

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    • FCCarmyprovider
      FCC Army Provider
      • Mar 2014
      • 63

      #3
      In army fcc we have to watch kids from 6 am to 6 pm and every single parent mom ive had has dropped her kid off at 600 and picked up at 6pm or later..

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      • FCCarmyprovider
        FCC Army Provider
        • Mar 2014
        • 63

        #4
        and no most of these soldier moms do not work from 6 am to 6 pm they just want "me time"


        I have no idea what me time is anymore:confused:

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        • nanglgrl
          Daycare.com Member
          • Jul 2012
          • 1700

          #5
          I just turned down a client that wanted 12 hour days 5 days a week. She was going to be home with a newborn. She is having a second C section and feels that she won't be able to handle her other child who's also under a year old. I've never had a C section and can't imagine the pain or difficulty she would have handling 2 babies but 12 hour days is just too much for a child.

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          • nannyde
            All powerful, all knowing daycare whisperer
            • Mar 2010
            • 7320

            #6
            Originally posted by nanglgrl
            I just turned down a client that wanted 12 hour days 5 days a week. She was going to be home with a newborn. She is having a second C section and feels that she won't be able to handle her other child who's also under a year old. I've never had a C section and can't imagine the pain or difficulty she would have handling 2 babies but 12 hour days is just too much for a child.
            Why have the second kid? That's what I'm not getting now.

            When in our history have moms been able to one to one the second born child for months?

            It's not THAT hard to take care of two kids. I swear all the parenting groups and mommy groups have convinced these moms that it is SO hard and that new baby needs their own adult. I'm rarely ever hearing about moms keeping the first kid home when the second one is born unless the first isn't in day care in the first place.

            We need to GET A GRIP. It's not THAT hard. You have a roof over your head, food in your belly, a washer and dryer, electricity, running water, a microwave and a stove. You have a grocery store and a car. It's not like the mom has to chop wood, hand carry water, keep a wood stove lit, bake from scratch, tend a garden and raise meat.

            What is SO hard about taking care of two little kids with all the conveniences we have now?
            http://www.amazon.com/Daycare-Whispe...=doing+daycare

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            • LadyPearl
              Daycare.com Member
              • Jan 2014
              • 145

              #7
              Originally posted by FCCarmyprovider
              In army fcc we have to watch kids from 6 am to 6 pm and every single parent mom ive had has dropped her kid off at 600 and picked up at 6pm or later..
              Yikes! Must easily lead to provider burnout......

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              • Play Care
                Daycare.com Member
                • Dec 2012
                • 6642

                #8
                Originally posted by FCCarmyprovider
                In army fcc we have to watch kids from 6 am to 6 pm and every single parent mom ive had has dropped her kid off at 600 and picked up at 6pm or later..
                Say whaaaat?!

                I could never work those hours! And if they can dictate how long you have to be at work, I hope they also provide pension, health benefits, PTO,etc. cause otherwise you're getting hosed!

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                • Naptime yet?
                  Daycare.com Member
                  • Dec 2013
                  • 443

                  #9
                  Originally posted by nannyde
                  Why have the second kid? That's what I'm not getting now.

                  When in our history have moms been able to one to one the second born child for months?

                  It's not THAT hard to take care of two kids. I swear all the parenting groups and mommy groups have convinced these moms that it is SO hard and that new baby needs their own adult. I'm rarely ever hearing about moms keeping the first kid home when the second one is born unless the first isn't in day care in the first place.

                  We need to GET A GRIP. It's not THAT hard. You have a roof over your head, food in your belly, a washer and dryer, electricity, running water, a microwave and a stove. You have a grocery store and a car. It's not like the mom has to chop wood, hand carry water, keep a wood stove lit, bake from scratch, tend a garden and raise meat.

                  What is SO hard about taking care of two little kids with all the conveniences we have now?
                  Amen! Not to go off topic or commandeer this post, but I have a DCM who brought dcb2 to me throughout her maternity leave & makes comments about how hard it is to deal with 2 kids. I just smile and do my job.

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                  • Shell
                    Daycare.com Member
                    • Jul 2013
                    • 1765

                    #10
                    Originally posted by nannyde
                    Why have the second kid? That's what I'm not getting now.

                    When in our history have moms been able to one to one the second born child for months?

                    It's not THAT hard to take care of two kids. I swear all the parenting groups and mommy groups have convinced these moms that it is SO hard and that new baby needs their own adult. I'm rarely ever hearing about moms keeping the first kid home when the second one is born unless the first isn't in day care in the first place.

                    We need to GET A GRIP. It's not THAT hard. You have a roof over your head, food in your belly, a washer and dryer, electricity, running water, a microwave and a stove. You have a grocery store and a car. It's not like the mom has to chop wood, hand carry water, keep a wood stove lit, bake from scratch, tend a garden and raise meat.

                    What is SO hard about taking care of two little kids with all the conveniences we have now?
                    happyface So true

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                    • melilley
                      Daycare.com Member
                      • Oct 2012
                      • 5155

                      #11
                      Originally posted by Naptime yet?
                      Amen! Not to go off topic or commandeer this post, but I have a DCM who brought dcb2 to me throughout her maternity leave & makes comments about how hard it is to deal with 2 kids. I just smile and do my job.
                      Hah! My ds is 1.5 and I have 3 other dck's that are 1.5 and under, plus a 3 yo and 2 2.y yo. Not on the same days of course, but full time, I have 3 that are 1.5 and under and a rambunctious 2.5 yo...every day..wonder how I do it?..

                      I seriously think that there are some of us who are "made" (for lack of a better word) to do this line of work. I always hear "I don't know how you do it" from people. Others, they like the idea of having kids, but to do the work is a different story.

                      But, honestly, I would go insane if I had to sit behind a cubicle all day or I think I would cry if I went into the military..

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                      • Shell
                        Daycare.com Member
                        • Jul 2013
                        • 1765

                        #12
                        A little bit of a rant, but I was out to dinner with a good friend that I hadn't seen in several months. She asked my ds how his sister is doing (she has 3 young kids). My friend said, "wow, how does she do it with that many kids?" I angrily responded, "she doesn't do any of it...her kids are at daycare all day, you should ask her provider how SHE does it".
                        I know this parenting life style keeps some of us in business, so for that, I am grateful that there is a need for our profession. This is why I prefer part time kids the most-it's a great balance between both worlds.

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                        • Heidi
                          Daycare.com Member
                          • Sep 2011
                          • 7121

                          #13
                          Originally posted by nannyde
                          Why have the second kid? That's what I'm not getting now.

                          When in our history have moms been able to one to one the second born child for months?

                          It's not THAT hard to take care of two kids. I swear all the parenting groups and mommy groups have convinced these moms that it is SO hard and that new baby needs their own adult. I'm rarely ever hearing about moms keeping the first kid home when the second one is born unless the first isn't in day care in the first place.

                          We need to GET A GRIP. It's not THAT hard. You have a roof over your head, food in your belly, a washer and dryer, electricity, running water, a microwave and a stove. You have a grocery store and a car. It's not like the mom has to chop wood, hand carry water, keep a wood stove lit, bake from scratch, tend a garden and raise meat.

                          What is SO hard about taking care of two little kids with all the conveniences we have now?
                          Ha!

                          I had a mom last year who couldn't pump milk (kid wasn't hungry yet) for a later feeding because...gasp...Dadwasn't home to "take care of the baby" while she pumped. Seriously, one four month old baby, and you can't do ANYTHING else when you're home alone with her?:confused:

                          BTW: This baby was sleeping one the same schedule as all my other kids within a week of being here, she was easy-peasy. But, mom claimed she was sooo intense. I chose not to keep this family, because whatever going on at home (night waking) was now MY fault. whaaat?

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                          • Heidi
                            Daycare.com Member
                            • Sep 2011
                            • 7121

                            #14
                            Originally posted by melilley
                            Hah! My ds is 1.5 and I have 3 other dck's that are 1.5 and under, plus a 3 yo and 2 2.y yo. Not on the same days of course, but full time, I have 3 that are 1.5 and under and a rambunctious 2.5 yo...every day..wonder how I do it?..

                            I seriously think that there are some of us who are "made" (for lack of a better word) to do this line of work. I always hear "I don't know how you do it" from people. Others, they like the idea of having kids, but to do the work is a different story.

                            But, honestly, I would go insane if I had to sit behind a cubicle all day or I think I would cry if I went into the military..
                            Wierd...I could have written this. Same group I have full-time.

                            Oh, and working in a factory? I'd rather you pay me to just bang my head against the wall all day. ::

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                            • KidGrind
                              Daycare.com Member
                              • Sep 2013
                              • 1099

                              #15
                              Originally posted by FCCarmyprovider
                              In army fcc we have to watch kids from 6 am to 6 pm and every single parent mom ive had has dropped her kid off at 600 and picked up at 6pm or later..
                              Is that Germany’s requirement? I do NOT have to watch anyone’s kid from 6:00 AM to 6:00 PM. The AR 608-10 dictates that no child will be in care for more than 12 hours without command’s approval. It does not state you have to have children in care for 12 hours.

                              6–22. Operating hours
                              a. FCC providers will specify hours of service with each patron. Care will not exceed 12 hours of continuous care per day on a regular basis unless the FCC provider has obtained the special endorsement for extended care or long term care.


                              I do contracted hours. During the interviewing process, I have the parents fill out what their work hours are individually. Then I look at their schedules and suggest a drop off and pick up time. I respect single service members with children. However, their me time is their concern not mine.

                              Example:

                              Sponsor M-F 6:00 AM to 4:00 PM
                              Spouse M,W,Th,F,S 8:30 to 5:00 PM

                              The schedule I will offer them is M,W,Th,F 7:30 AM to 5:00 PM.

                              I’ll compromise with 7:00 AM to 5:00 PM.

                              We are independent contractors, not CDCs.
                              Last edited by KidGrind; 03-20-2014, 11:24 AM. Reason: Added the AR 608-10 instruction for clarification

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