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Spy Grandma
I have a very nice family that is been with me for couple of months now. Mom and Dad are really cool and they really understand everything if the child cries, falls, scratch and things like that. Now the grandma came in today to drop off the child and he/she was crying because he/she wanted grandma, she signed him/her in and left, (I thought she did so) but when my husband opened the door she was behind me preschool door listening. My husband did not really said anything but she said she was there until the child stop crying. I have terminated one parent in the past for doing this because he did it once and then it was a chronic. What should I tell the parents when the come today to pick up? Any advice will be appreciated.
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She might of just wanted to ease her mind that he would stop, since it sounds like she doesn't drop him off often? I wouldn't make too much of it unless she does the same thing again. Then I wld say something or offer to txt a photo when dck is calmer. I don't put up w spying, but once doesn't bother me much. -
I would address it with the parents and let them know that you need Grandma to drop off quickly and leave the premises. She isn't allowed to stand around on the property spying. You working relationship is with the parents only and if the parents have an issue with the child's care, it needs to be addressed between you and them.
Give Grandma the benefit of the doubt. She might have done it with good intentions but it is not acceptable.
If it becomes a problem, I would insist that Grandma is no longer allowed to pickup or drop off.Comment
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I wouldn't do anything. I have actually told dcps to stop by the door (where they aren't visible to the kids) and listen so they can hear that their kid stops crying the minute they are out of the room.Comment
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I wouldn't say anything. The Grammy wanted to make sure the little one was ok and be out of site so that she didn't further cause the little one to be upset by seeing her still there. It is not like she stayed all day or popped in and did this. She wanted to make herself feel better before carrying on with her day and make sure the little she loves with all her heart is ok.
If it became a problem then I would address it~Comment
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I can understand where you are coming from, feeling like she was listening outside, spying, and you felt like she should drop off and go. However, I know it can be difficult to drop a child off crying, and maybe she just wanted to hear that the child had stopped, or maybe she would have tried to console if she felt she was needed? I wouldn't be angry about it yet, unless it happens again. And even at that, I would gently explain that all children cry at times when they are dropped off, it's totally normal, and gma can just drop off and go.Comment
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