Dads are Funny

[SilverSabre25]

DCD is taking care of DCB this week as DCM is away on business. Yesterday, DCB arrived without a coat and DCD sent two things of applesauce for DCB to eat (I fed him one and gave him other foods around it). Today, DCB arrived in the same clothes I put him in yesterday, without having had a morning diaper change (DCD did tell us that he basically got DCB up and immediately stuck him in the car, so maybe DCB slept late or something...) and with cheerios (okay), raisins (whatever) and dried prunes for food. And another applesauce.

Now wait...dried prunes? Really? For a 13 month old? who has ONE tooth? Um...huh? That's also a food I've NEVER seen DCM send for him. It any form. Yeah...I'm just going to tuck those back in the diaper bag.

I'm amused, to say the least. This is a DCD who strikes me very much as the "absent-minded professor" type. He reminds me of my DH who used to forget to put DD's pants back on her after changing her diaper.

[MN Mom]

I'm sorry...I just have to laugh! It's reasons like HIM that I have a hard time leaving my husband with my kids for more than one day. Now that my oldest girl is 12, and can cook, clean and do laundry it's not so bad...but a few years back..yea right!

[SilverSabre25]

Don't apologize for laughing! I think it's hilarious, too. That's why I posted it.

[Lilbutterflie]

Well, maybe he thought he was doing good as long as it was healthy? LOL
Cute story. Is this something you think you could share and laugh with dcm about when she returns?::

[nannyde]

I don't find it amusing at all. I would be furious if one of my parents brought me a kid in that condition.

A child needs fresh clothing every day. A child needs TIME with their parents in the morning before going into the world. A child that age needs food he can actually digest. A child needs to be cleansed in the morning and have a fresh diaper on.

When you have a kid you don't get to behave like that. When you have a kid you HAVE to physically care for them. It's not a man thing or a dad thing... it's a LAZY unorganized parent who is behaving badly at your doorstep thing.

[kitkat]

I'm guessing he's a first time dad? If so, that's a good one and I hope dcm can laugh about it, too! Those first time dad's do try hard, but don't always get it right. I remember when I picked DS up from daycare (before I started child care). I immediately noticed his outfit was on backwards. Daycare left it that way so I could see how Daddy dressed him. I thought it was funny. DH wasn't normally in charge of getting DS ready in the morning. Hopefully tomorrow will go smoother for dcd

[SilverSabre25]

I don't find it amusing at all. I would be furious if one of my parents brought me a kid in that condition.

A child needs fresh clothing every day. A child needs TIME with their parents in the morning before going into the world. A child that age needs food he can actually digest. A child needs to be cleansed in the morning and have a fresh diaper on.

When you have a kid you don't get to behave like that. When you have a kid you HAVE to physically care for them. It's not a man thing or a dad thing... it's a LAZY unorganized parent who is behaving badly at your doorstep thing.

Aw, see, that's awfully harsh. Cut the poor guy some slack; relax and see the humor in it! Most dads just don't pay attention to details the way moms/women do. He's not used to being a full-time single dad and this is only day 2! I have clean clothes for him; he usually comes in jammies, that's not unusual--it's just amusing. He has clean diapers and food. I"m not giving him the prunes (duh, ) but am giving him plenty of stuff he CAN have. He's not the only kid I have that doesn't spend much time with parents in the morning...and honestly, how many do? I know that when I was going to University full-time, when I had early classes and had to drop DD off with my mom, I'd let her sleep until the last possible minute before I left because sleep is important.

Sure, if this was every day, it wouldn't be okay. But it's ONE DAY out of SEVEN MONTHS of my watching him!

[SilverSabre25]

I'm guessing he's a first time dad? If so, that's a good one and I hope dcm can laugh about it, too! Those first time dad's do try hard, but don't always get it right. I remember when I picked DS up from daycare (before I started child care). I immediately noticed his outfit was on backwards. Daycare left it that way so I could see how Daddy dressed him. I thought it was funny. DH wasn't normally in charge of getting DS ready in the morning. Hopefully tomorrow will go smoother for dcd

OH yeah, first-timer. And DCM hasn't been away on business since DCB was about 7.5-8 months old--not much in the way of solids yet at that point, mostly just bottles. DCM will certainly laugh too; she's a good one. In fact, she left me several extra outfits because she was pretty sure DCD would forget to send them and paid me a week early because she KNOWS her DH and knew he would forget.

LOL that's funny about your DS with the backwards clothes. My DH has done things like that. I remember one notable time when he managed to squeeze 9 mo DD into 0-3 month pants and a 3-6 month onesie. I have a picture of that one! It was funny. He STILL will manage to grab the ONE too-small pair of jammies hanging around--did that just the other night in fact. I laughed when DD came out of her room and DH couldn't see what was so funny.

[Childminder]

I remember the first time I left my son with my father. First child he ever changed a diaper on. It was backwards - but at least he changed him!

[melskids]

i came home from work one day to see my son playing outside in a slushy mud puddle in february in a tshirt and his good school sneakers.

once my hubby went to pick my older son up at school for a dr. appt. and didnt know what grade he was in or who his teacher was (so the secretary knew which classroom to call)

i came home one night from a training to find out my kids ate string cheese and popcorn for dinner. leftovers were in the fridge, all he had to do was plate it up and microwave it....

recently, someone asked him how old his kids were. he said 13 and 10. (try 14 and 8...)

some men just cant get it together, and would wither away without us women to save them. but he tries hard and he is a good dad, and i wouldnt trade him for the world.

[nannyde]

I'm guessing he's a first time dad? If so, that's a good one and I hope dcm can laugh about it, too! Those first time dad's do try hard, but don't always get it right. I remember when I picked DS up from daycare (before I started child care). I immediately noticed his outfit was on backwards.

Nope

Not changing a childs night diaper. Leaving a baby in clothes from the day before... that's NOT THE SAME as putting on a pair of pants backwards. No comparison. One is so easy to do .... one is complete negligence.

That Dad has been a father for THIRTEEN months. That Dad has seen his baby be changed when he got out of bed HUNDREDS of times from nap sleeping and night sleeping. He's seen his clothes be changed hundreds upon hundreds of times.

NOPE... this is lazy and negligent. He knew he was supposed to change him and he just didn't want to do it. NO excuse. NONE... no matter how late he was ... no matter how much he was behind in the morning... there is NOTHING he was going to that was more important than cleaning his child into fresh clothes and a fresh diaper.

[MarinaVanessa]

This is too funny ... dads are awsome ::. The baby that I'm delivering this month is going to be my fiance's first child although I do have my own 5yo daughter that lives with us and we've already been together 4 years and she's lived with us the whole time. He also has 4 nephews that are ALWAYS here and have always been here visiting, staying the night etc. since they've been born. Well you would think with all of that experience he'd have it together ... nope .

Once he called me from a friends house because he was watching his 1yo nephew and he pooped his diaper. Well he forgot the diaper bag so I had to drive to the next city over to drop it off and realized that they had a small boy the same age that he could have borrowed a diaper from but didn't. Then he freaked out because it was poo and I did the changing .

On Monday I forgot to lay out my DD clothes out and my fiance picked out clothes for her. I had to send her back upstairs to change because she looked like a sesame street thug (brown tank top with a rhinestone pony, very baggy bright pink pants, yellow socks, light pink dress shoes, a baggy purple jacket, a purple beanie and gloves).

Men are just so wonderful aren't they? He's great with the kids and they're in good hands but sometimes you wonder don't you ::.

[JenNJ]

I'm with Nannyde here. An overnight diaper and dirty clothes is negligence. I bet that dad had time to use the bathroom, clean himself, and wear fresh clothes. A childs needs need to come FIRST. Its WRONG and I also would be furious for that child. I wouldn't accept that child into care bc clearly his basic needs were ignored and needed to be taken care of BEFORE coming to care. Who is to say that child ate at all? He wasn't cleaned or changed so I'd bet he wasn't fed either. Not funny - WRONG.

[QualiTcare]

Nope

Not changing a childs night diaper. Leaving a baby in clothes from the day before... that's NOT THE SAME as putting on a pair of pants backwards. No comparison. One is so easy to do .... one is complete negligence.

That Dad has been a father for THIRTEEN months. That Dad has seen his baby be changed when he got out of bed HUNDREDS of times from nap sleeping and night sleeping. He's seen his clothes be changed hundreds upon hundreds of times.

NOPE... this is lazy and negligent. He knew he was supposed to change him and he just didn't want to do it. NO excuse. NONE... no matter how late he was ... no matter how much he was behind in the morning... there is NOTHING he was going to that was more important than cleaning his child into fresh clothes and a fresh diaper.

i have to agree. i can see the humor in the food thing, but a dirty diaper/clothes.....i don't see it.

i don't think my husband had ever seen a diaper before i had my son - he couldn't even stand kids - and even he had enough sense to keep his diapers/clothes clean. it's instinct (not just motherly) to keep your own child clean and comfortable. even if he had the same clothes on - the diaper? no excuse.

[nannyde]

Cut the poor guy some slack; relax and see the humor in it!

Yes and THAT'S exactlly the way the Dad wants you to feel. He brought YOU that kid who hadn't even had his overnight diaper changed and was in the same clothes from the day before.

He wants you to think it's silly ole newbie rookie Dad. If you think THAT then he doesn't have to be organized, spend time with his kid, think thru what he needs to do, get up in time to do it, have the supplies on hand etc.

He got YOU to do it.

Yes... that's how it works.

You got got and you don't even know it.