MOM FROM HELL-Do I Term?

[Crazy8]

I wouldn't term immediately at this point. They are leaving at the end of this week anyway.

Honestly, I get why everyone is saying you should term immediately but while many of the things you listed are what I would term for the fact is you didn't term when you found out about them or when they happened. At this point I would just be cordial for the week UNLESS she comes in complaining, etc. then I would term on the spot. But it just sounds petty to me to be terming now (esp on a weekend) when these things happened in the past and they are leaving this week.

[laceylmm]

She hasn't said all these in the past. The latest thing I've heard she has said was yesterday. She has nothing better to do so keeps repeating the same things to whomever will listen.

[laceylmm]

It started two months ago when her son told me his mom get mad I don't feed them enough. I confronted her immediately and she lied saying she never said that.

Then my friend neighbor told me what she said.

And her employee has also told me what she is saying. I couldn't confront her about those things because she would more than likely fire my other mom.

[lovemykidstoo]

I would term, no question about it. She has way too much power and I would nip it now. She's like a child. Why is she misbehaving? Because she can and is getting away with it without consequence. Give her the consequence of terming. Show her that she can't be a bully any longer. Give your licensing consultant a call on Monday and give her a heads up. She can always talk to your good neighbor for confirmation, but I'm sure your consultant has seen this type of thing before. Good luck!

[Babyluver21]

You can term any time. Doesn't matter the day. Giving her the weekend gives her a couple days to interview. I would NOT put up with the BS she's putting you through. Just because it's not in your contract or you didn't 'warn' her before does not mean it's ok for her to act the way she has been and you can't do anything about it.

If this were me, I'd've called her today and gotten rid of her ESPECIALLY since she was talking about you as late as Friday! She clearly has no respect for you, and she KNOWS it. She doesn't care and she will expect you to complete her last week and kiss her butt. NO WAY.
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I would tell her EXACTLY why you are terming too:

Something to the effect of:

After an incident that occurred on Friday, I am not able to continue watching (DCK). It is not working out. The badmouthing me is unacceptable, especially when I have gone above and beyond for your family even when it was not convenient for me. Because you feel I am not an adequate provider, though I have done nothing but provide excellent care for you and your family, it's obvious to me that you don't think you should be bringing your child back to me and for this reason, you won't be. We have to fully trust each other and be on the same page for this to be successful, and we are not and never have been. I wish you the best with finding new care, as I will not be keeping (the kid) this week. (You can decide here if you would refund, but I wouldn't based on the REASON you're terming). I would also add: "Additionally, even though I have taken you back time after time when you were in need, I will be unable to allow you to return to the daycare in the future."

And that will let her know why, let your licensor know what you said, and go from there. You don't deserve to be treated like trash and no one's life is more important than your (or anyone else's) and this sense of entitlement that this DCM has shouldn't make YOU feel like you are obligated to her.

[Blackcat31]

You can term any time. Doesn't matter the day. Giving her the weekend gives her a couple days to interview. I would NOT put up with the BS she's putting you through. Just because it's not in your contract or you didn't 'warn' her before does not mean it's ok for her to act the way she has been and you can't do anything about it.

If this were me, I'd've called her today and gotten rid of her ESPECIALLY since she was talking about you as late as Friday! She clearly has no respect for you, and she KNOWS it. She doesn't care and she will expect you to complete her last week and kiss her butt. NO WAY.
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I would tell her EXACTLY why you are terming too:

Something to the effect of:

After an incident that occurred on Friday, I am not able to continue watching (DCK). It is not working out. The badmouthing me is unacceptable, especially when I have gone above and beyond for your family even when it was not convenient for me. Because you feel I am not an adequate provider, though I have done nothing but provide excellent care for you and your family, it's obvious to me that you don't think you should be bringing your child back to me and for this reason, you won't be. We have to fully trust each other and be on the same page for this to be successful, and we are not and never have been. I wish you the best with finding new care, as I will not be keeping (the kid) this week. (You can decide here if you would refund, but I wouldn't based on the REASON you're terming). I would also add: "Additionally, even though I have taken you back time after time when you were in need, I will be unable to allow you to return to the daycare in the future."

And that will let her know why, let your licensor know what you said, and go from there. You don't deserve to be treated like trash and no one's life is more important than your (or anyone else's) and this sense of entitlement that this DCM has shouldn't make YOU feel like you are obligated to her.

I would also add that you have documented ALL of this and let your licensor know about it.

That way she know you are the one being proactive and letting your licensor know BEFORE she decides to call and report you for something.

[TheGoodLife]

I would also add that you have documented ALL of this and let your licensor know about it.

That way she know you are the one being proactive and letting your licensor know BEFORE she decides to call and report you for something.

[renodeb]

I would Run! She is a trouble maker for sure. But to be honest I would fell weird about not being up and ready for business in the morning. JMO!

[Cat Herder]

She is my neighbor.

I did not have to read any further for my answer to pop in my head....

Bye, bye.. (notice is already given, it seems)

Give your inspector a heads up, be ready for a visit.

Get it in the past so you can look forward to a nice summer. :hug:

[KIDZRMYBIZ]

Since she is a neighbor, and if our kids played together and were friends, I would **** it up and ride the week out. I just wouldn't want to make things worse for my daughter.

Terming with no notice would just be fuel for the fire, and give her at least one substantiated piece of evidence of bad business (although it is warranted, it still looks ugly). All the other stuff is her witchy, gossipy nonsense that everyone else sees right through, I'm sure.

Just think how GOOD Friday is going to feel. It will be that much sweeter on the high road!

[TaylorTots]

I would term effectively immediately. She's already talking trash and its causing you stress. She will keep talking trash whether you term immediately or you wait till the end of the week. I would mail her the term letter after a phone call informing her of such. It's not a tough call at all, esp. since she is on state pay so there's no refund to decide about.

You do not deserve this abuse.

[TheGoodLife]

What did you end up doing?

[coolconfidentme]

I think I'm just going to **** it up for the week...

And then when she asks to come back two months from now give her a big 'hell no!'

In the meantime send a quick email to your state consultant to CYA if she does hate on you.

[laceylmm]

Mom is gone. But now she is telling my neighbor that I'm giving her daughter dirty looks! This woman is insane. I'd like to confront her but feel like she will make me too angry.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Mom is gone. But now she is telling my neighbor that I'm giving her daughter dirty looks! This woman is insane. I'd like to confront her but feel like she will make me too angry.

Be overly friendly every time you see her precious snowflake. "GOOD AFTERNOON, Brittany!!!! I hope you had a GREAT day, precious! Have a nice afternoon with mommy!! happyface"

If I can make them REALLY eat their words then i do.