MOM FROM HELL-Do I Term?

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  • laceylmm
    New Daycare.com Member
    • Jan 2013
    • 227

    MOM FROM HELL-Do I Term?

    She is my neighbor. My other dcm is her employee. And I am good friends with my neighbor that she is also running her mouth to. Her benefits were cut and her last day is next Friday. I will try to keep it short and simple but over the last 2months she has said the following about me which I hear from other people

    1. I don't feed her kids (dcm2 almost pulled because she was telling her I wasn't feeding the kids)
    2. My husband and I fight all the time, horribly apparently (my GOOD neighbor told me this)
    3. I'm never awake on time (I honestly do sleep in once every two weeks, I jump out of bed the second I hear her knock. She drops off at 6:30am and works at 7am. she could walk to her work in less than two minutes. She has never waited longer than two minutes for me to answer the door.)
    4. I never turn on my porch light for her (I've told her it is broken)
    5. Complaining that I stopped offering her weekend care...only after finding out she was bitching about me and NEVER confronting me.

    In fact ONE of the people who told me that she was mad that I never feed her kids was her own son. I immediately addressed her about it and she denied EVERYTHING. Her poor son looked so confused as she stood there yelling at him for lying.

    Now she's telling everyone that I don't even care that she is leaving (along with all the other things I mentioned). Well hell no I don't care because I know you are talking **** about me.

    I have been opening for this women an hour earlier than I would like to start working for the past six months. She has left and come back three different times always without notice. And I take her daughter to play practice everyday before school that she has it.

    I think it basically comes down to her being a gossip with nothing else better in her life. And being pissed that I didn't offer her an extremely cheap rate when she lost her benefits. After she made several hints that she wouldn't pay more the $200 a month for her part time school ager, and full time preschooler. NOT GONNA HAPPEN!! So now she has to take her kids to their dad who has hardly ever helped her, and his non English speaking girlfriend is going to watch them.

    Okay, so do I term? Because all I really want to do is tell her to kiss my ass (in a professional way if that is possible). Or do I ride out the last week?? It makes me sick to keep seeing her dropping her kids off then hearing the things she is saying about me.

    This woman is extremely spiteful I've heard from another provider that she does this will all of her providers. I expect her to call state if I term.
  • Mister Sir Husband
    cook, cleaner, bug killer
    • May 2013
    • 306

    #2
    wow... I am not thinking if you should term or not, but more along the lines of why haven't you termed earlier...
    Chief cook, bottle washer & spider killer...

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    • laceylmm
      New Daycare.com Member
      • Jan 2013
      • 227

      #3
      I know...

      I think the past 30 days everything is just all of a sudden snow balling! I've never liked her much as person and knew she could be shady. But now its out of control. :/

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      • laceylmm
        New Daycare.com Member
        • Jan 2013
        • 227

        #4
        And probably just because I know she is spiteful. If she calls state I would probably have some horrible confrontation with her. Not because anything she says is warranted but I wouldn't be able to let it go. Our daughters are friends...and yes I have learned to never take another neighbor family.

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        • crazydaycarelady
          Not really crazy
          • Jul 2012
          • 1457

          #5
          If there is only one week left I would just ride it out and then do a happy dance next Friday when they leave FOR GOOD! And don't take them back again!

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          • laceylmm
            New Daycare.com Member
            • Jan 2013
            • 227

            #6
            I think I'm just going to **** it up for the week...

            And then when she asks to come back two months from now give her a big 'hell no!'

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            • EntropyControlSpecialist
              Embracing the chaos.
              • Mar 2012
              • 7466

              #7
              Originally posted by crazydaycarelady
              If there is only one week left I would just ride it out and then do a happy dance next Friday when they leave FOR GOOD! And don't take them back again!
              YES! happyface

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              • kitykids3
                Daycare.com Member
                • Jan 2012
                • 581

                #8
                Yeah, rather than give her more reason to talk about u, **** it up for the week, say good riddance and don't ever let back.
                lovethis daymommy to 7 kiddos - 5 girls and 2 boys

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                • Blackcat31
                  • Oct 2010
                  • 36124

                  #9
                  I'm sorry but even just to save face, there is NO WAY in HE77 I would consider just ****ing it up and dealing with this parent.

                  NO FLIPPING WAY!!!

                  I don't care if she calls Washington DC and the Federal Department of Families and Children. I would term her ON THE SPOT, face to face!!

                  I would document everything and turn it in to my licensor. I would let my licensor know I am terminating a woman who is a gossip and a drama mama and I am not going to provide services to someone who makes being professional impossible. I would also explain that I fully expect her to retaliate and call licensing on you.

                  I would make sure you have all your ducks in a row and expect a visit from them. If you are following all the rules, who cares if they come.

                  I would then term that mom IMMEDIATLEY and make sure she knows exactly why she is being termed.

                  I **** up a lot of things from time to time for the sale of professionalism but the behavior of this mom is atrocious and not something I would or would simply allow....even for week. Not even for a day.

                  Stand up for yourself, your business and stop this crazy woman from having anything more to do with you.

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                  • TheGoodLife
                    Home Daycare Provider
                    • Feb 2012
                    • 1372

                    #10
                    Originally posted by Blackcat31
                    I'm sorry but even just to save face, there is NO WAY in HE77 I would consider just ****ing it up and dealing with this parent.

                    NO FLIPPING WAY!!!

                    I don't care if she calls Washington DC and the Federal Department of Families and Children. I would term her ON THE SPOT, face to face!!

                    I would document everything and turn it in to my licensor. I would let my licensor know I am terminating a woman who is a gossip and a drama mama and I am not going to provide services to someone who makes being professional impossible. I would also explain that I fully expect her to retaliate and call licensing on you.

                    I would make sure you have all your ducks in a row and expect a visit from them. If you are following all the rules, who cares if they come.

                    I would then term that mom IMMEDIATLEY and make sure she knows exactly why she is being termed.

                    I **** up a lot of things from time to time for the sale of professionalism but the behavior of this mom is atrocious and not something I would or would simply allow....even for week. Not even for a day.

                    Stand up for yourself, your business and stop this crazy woman from having anything more to do with you.
                    Yes, this! I'm very lucky to not have encountered any DCPs like this yet, but I could NOT grin and bear it- you should not have to. She's already lying and trashing your name- I would not put up with it and let her get away with it. Contact her and let her know that due to disrespect you are terminating the contract effective immediately!

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                    • TheGoodLife
                      Home Daycare Provider
                      • Feb 2012
                      • 1372

                      #11
                      Originally posted by kitykids3
                      Yeah, rather than give her more reason to talk about u, **** it up for the week, say good riddance and don't ever let back.
                      She doesn't need reason, she's already talking about you. I say take pride in your self and your backbone, and TERM! happyface

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                      • BabyLuver21

                        #12
                        Term TODAY!
                        I would NOT let her come back> She's trash-talking ALREADY so that's not going to stop just because you finished out the week.

                        Call her and tell her that after you have heard more things about you from others, this is grounds for dismissal from your program without ANY refund. I would not put up with that abuse ONE DAY LONGER.

                        If you want, you can even write her a letter and mail it to her to follow-up the call. Drop it in nearest box TODAY. Tell her you are sending the official term letter, but you do not wish her to drop by or see you again. I would then call your licensor immediately and alert them to what you've done, why and that you are worried about further retaliation from this crazy mom

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                        • laceylmm
                          New Daycare.com Member
                          • Jan 2013
                          • 227

                          #13
                          Can I call them on the weekend? Or wait until Monday?

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                          • KidGrind
                            Daycare.com Member
                            • Sep 2013
                            • 1099

                            #14
                            I think you should do what you are most comfortable with. However, if you term immediately I’d provide a refund for any unused care.

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                            • laceylmm
                              New Daycare.com Member
                              • Jan 2013
                              • 227

                              #15
                              She is state and does not pay ahead.

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