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So I have this parent who is constantly threatening me to leave when I say no to things she wants. Now she wants to celebrate her dd bday and unfortunately I will not be possible to do it in the actual bday date due to religious conflicts with another dcg. The dcm called me today to ask me if I figured out a way to do the bday on the day she wanted and I said I have not been able to talk to the other dcm to see if she wants to switch days. the dcm told me that is not fair her dcg can not have the bday on her actual bday date and that if I was unable to figured out she will send me a 2 week notice. I said, that is not a problem you have the right to do so please send me an email so I can put it in the file. I already received the email but I don't know how to respond to it. Have anyone have this type of situation before Help please!!! She can leave that is perfectly fine but should I keep her for the 2 weeks or just terminate?
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You already discussed it, so if you respond I would just acknowledge that you received it and when the last day of care will be. Keep it short and professional. I wouldn't terminate immediately unless she does something else, but I don't know your complete history... she can always leave sooner and still pay you for the 2 weeks.
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I would simply acknowledge that you received her two week notice and confirm the final day of care and leave it at that. She is threatening you because she thinks it has leverage in forcing you to do what she wants you to do.
If you aren't going to cave and do as she is demanding, then don't pay any attention to her tantrum. Just tell her you received the notice and confirm the final day.
If you want her to leave immediately you could say care is terminated immediately for poor behavior on her part and not respecting you or your program and that you will waive the required two weeks attendance and payment. (IF you require notice and/or payment)
If child's birthday is within the final two weeks of care, I would do as you originally planned and just have the birthday when it works for your GROUP as a WHOLE but it needs to be your decision, not hers.Comment
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I would make it clear that you will not be doing any birthday celebration because it has become such a source of conflict.
What does daycare have to do with the kids birthday? Is the Mom planning on coming to your house to celebrate it? That's going to be very awkward.Comment
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Yeh, celebrating a dcks' birthday isn't really part of our job requirement. Dcm has a lot of gall to be so demanding. I'd do as the others have suggested, confirm receipt of her email, remind her she still needs to pay until she's done on such and such a date.Comment
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She sounds like a nightmare. Call her bluff. If she leaves, good riddance. You don't want someone constantly trying to run YOUR business.Comment
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I am glad you termed this mom. She sounds like a nightmare.
However, I am curious as to why, if you generally celebrate birthdays, what does the day you celebrate it on have to do or not to do with another child's religious beliefs?
In my mind I am guessing that attending a birthday party is against a second child's religious beliefs. If so, then I would tell that parent that any time you choose to celebrate a birthday you will let that parent know and let her decide whether to bring her child or not.
I mean in the future.
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She sounds like a real spoiled brat (and I ain't talking about DCG). If she wants her daughter to have a birthday party then that is her responsibility, not yours! She says "it's not fair", well it's not fair to the other DCF that they would have to either switch days or miss out on daycare and find alternative care because it's DCG's birthday. It's also not fair if you only celebrate this DCG's birthday but don't celebrate any of the other DCK's birthdays. What's going to happen when DCG goes to school? Would she expect the teachers to drop their whole curriculum that day just to celebrate DCG's birthday? NEWS FLASH: your child's birthday is not a national holiday! This is truly a blessing in disguise.
Personally, I think she was just being lazy and didn't want to plan, clean up or pay for a party. If you think about it, she's already paying you and it will be at your house so naturally you will be the one who would be stuck with the planning and cleaning.
I would say that if she decided to leave, it depends on you're contract. If it says she can still come to care for the remainder of the two weeks, then give her two weeks from the day she gave notice. But if the birthday is coming up I would stay firm and not throw a party and let her know that. And who knows, maybe she would just decide not to go that day.Comment
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The birthday falls between the two week's notice but I will not celebrated at all this lady is been threatening me many times and I have not terminated her because I love her dcg and she used to be really good dcm but she just have several tantrums over the last few weeks and I'm a preschool teacher not a mamisitter.
I used to celebrate all the dck bdays and schefule them around the days that yhe other dcg is not here so it does not interfere with her believes and I was going to do the same ghing for this dcg but her dcm is to much to handle. Sorry for the spelling my phone is not good in english at allComment
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Now I get the DCM’s agitation. It does not make her poor behavior acceptable. Like another poster mentioned. DCM should plan another birthday celebration somewhere else.Comment
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Did the other family know that you celebrate birthdays when they signed up? I don't personally do birthday parties here besides maybe a special snack, but if I had a family that doesn't celebrate holidays or birthdays then they would simply not attend on the days we're doing something.
With that said, I refuse to be bullied so this mom would get a quick "I received your termination notice via email. DCG's last day of care will be xx/xx/xxxx. Per our contracted agreement, payment is due regardless of attendance through this date. Thank you" and be done with her.Comment
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Not singling you out MissBeth, but this is similar to the thread about the allergies and birthday cake at school.
It seems the easy answer would be for the party with the issue to have to figure it out since it is their belief that is causing the "problem"...kwim?
But the consensus on the other thread is that if one person can't do something then no one should.
I know we are talking about private child care and not the public school system but for most of us, working towards inclusive care, this is a topic we should be prepared for...kwim?
Here is the other thread I was referencing
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