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  • Msdunny
    Daycare.com Member
    • Nov 2012
    • 442

    Daycare Diva

    I have one dcg is wants/seeks CONSTANT attention! She talks nonstop, narrates her every move to me, wants to include me in her play (even when friends are readily available), wants to show me every little move she can make or sing for me every song she can sing. If any other child tries to talk to me, she talks over them, and will interrupt them by being louder. She is in charge of all the play the other kids play, and is the sweetest boss you will ever meet! She is the youngest of 4, is 3.5, and I guess is used to constant interaction at home, probably to keep her from having a temper tantrum/meltdown - which I have put a stop to here.

    So anyway, I am typing this because if I am 'working' she will go off and play with the others and won't 'need' to tell me something. I am not really complaining about her - she is a doll, and is generally very sweet and is a good helper - but today I am just tired of constantly having to look at her, kwim?

    Thankfully, she is my oldest, so my others don't realize they have rights, too! And yes, unlike my others, she is here every.single.day.of.the.week. I know her parents want all the 'break' they can get!

    Ok...enough avoidance...back to the diva! happyface
  • NoMoreJuice!
    Daycare.com Member
    • Jan 2014
    • 715

    #2
    Lol

    I have a friend that also provides daycare, and I was complaining about this exact scenario to her a few weeks ago! I too have a major diva, who is also super sweet.

    My friend had the most helpful suggestion ever: just get her a tiara and yourself some earplugs. Thanks, friend.

    I have nothing to offer but commiseration.

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    • Kcole1075
      Daycare.com Member
      • Nov 2013
      • 141

      #3
      I have the same thing with a 4 year old dcb. I can't give praise or try to do anything with another child without him wanting it too. He even wants the potty training praise like the toddlers when he go to the bathroom.
      He is in my face about everything especially when I am trying to do some one on one time with another. He just needed the attention all the time.

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      • Msdunny
        Daycare.com Member
        • Nov 2012
        • 442

        #4
        Originally posted by Kcole1075
        I have the same thing with a 4 year old dcb. I can't give praise or try to do anything with another child without him wanting it too. He even wants the potty training praise like the toddlers when he go to the bathroom.
        He is in my face about everything especially when I am trying to do some one on one time with another. He just needed the attention all the time.
        Oh, yeah, heaven forbid I let any of the others sit in my lap for a story or quick cuddle! She will be right there, asking when is it her turn. Oh to be 3 years old again and rule the world! ::

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        • taylorw1210
          Daycare.com Member
          • Jan 2014
          • 487

          #5
          I had one of these - except she was not sweet all the time. My SO nicknamed her "other" personality - she was Maddie and Baddie. She moved on to preschool and thankfully none of the others have moved into her empty Diva spot!

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          • sharlan
            Daycare.com Member
            • May 2011
            • 6067

            #6
            That sounds like my 4 yo. I cannot have a conversation with anybody about anything without her coming to butt in. If the doorbell rings, she's the first one to the door and I have to move her out of the way to open the door. If the phone rings, she comes running to see who's on the phone - I don't tell her. The minute I say a single word, she's right there. It doesn't matter who I'm talking to. She's very content to play on her own as long as I don't speak.

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            • daycarediva
              Daycare.com Member
              • Jul 2012
              • 11698

              #7
              So thought this was directed at me.

              Actual advice-make her feel important. Give her jobs to do. My own personal diva is now a mini me, copies what I do, helps me (seriously DOES help, too) every step of the way. At breakfast she sets the table, at lunch she is the waitress and brings the plates out, asks the kids what they want and assists with serving, at snack she is in charge of clean up.

              The other kids have jobs, too but I found with her she needed to feel important/special/needed every minute so she constantly has something to do.

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              • Kcole1075
                Daycare.com Member
                • Nov 2013
                • 141

                #8
                Originally posted by Msdunny
                Oh, yeah, heaven forbid I let any of the others sit in my lap for a story or quick cuddle! She will be right there, asking when is it her turn. Oh to be 3 years old again and rule the world! ::
                Lol I have a two year old who likes to be rocked like a baby ( playing not like rocked to sleep and this happens very rarely now). If he even sees her come sit on my lap for a story he thinks its rock a bye baby time and as soon as she gets up to put the book away he is sitting on my lap asking to be rocked like a baby. Its really hard to rock a four year old like a baby!

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                • Kcole1075
                  Daycare.com Member
                  • Nov 2013
                  • 141

                  #9
                  Originally posted by daycarediva
                  So thought this was directed at me.

                  Actual advice-make her feel important. Give her jobs to do. My own personal diva is now a mini me, copies what I do, helps me (seriously DOES help, too) every step of the way. At breakfast she sets the table, at lunch she is the waitress and brings the plates out, asks the kids what they want and assists with serving, at snack she is in charge of clean up.

                  The other kids have jobs, too but I found with her she needed to feel important/special/needed every minute so she constantly has something to do.
                  I was thinking it was too and I was being super nosey when I opened it.

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                  • Msdunny
                    Daycare.com Member
                    • Nov 2012
                    • 442

                    #10
                    Originally posted by daycarediva
                    So thought this was directed at me.

                    Actual advice-make her feel important. Give her jobs to do. My own personal diva is now a mini me, copies what I do, helps me (seriously DOES help, too) every step of the way. At breakfast she sets the table, at lunch she is the waitress and brings the plates out, asks the kids what they want and assists with serving, at snack she is in charge of clean up.

                    The other kids have jobs, too but I found with her she needed to feel important/special/needed every minute so she constantly has something to do.
                    Haha! That must be why that title sounded so good to me! Sorry for the confusion!

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                    • melilley
                      Daycare.com Member
                      • Oct 2012
                      • 5155

                      #11
                      Originally posted by Kcole1075
                      I was thinking it was too and I was being super nosey when I opened it.
                      :: Me too!

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                      • My3cents
                        Daycare.com Member
                        • Jan 2012
                        • 3387

                        #12
                        Originally posted by Msdunny
                        I have one dcg is wants/seeks CONSTANT attention! She talks nonstop, narrates her every move to me, wants to include me in her play (even when friends are readily available), wants to show me every little move she can make or sing for me every song she can sing. If any other child tries to talk to me, she talks over them, and will interrupt them by being louder. She is in charge of all the play the other kids play, and is the sweetest boss you will ever meet! She is the youngest of 4, is 3.5, and I guess is used to constant interaction at home, probably to keep her from having a temper tantrum/meltdown - which I have put a stop to here.

                        So anyway, I am typing this because if I am 'working' she will go off and play with the others and won't 'need' to tell me something. I am not really complaining about her - she is a doll, and is generally very sweet and is a good helper - but today I am just tired of constantly having to look at her, kwim?

                        Thankfully, she is my oldest, so my others don't realize they have rights, too! And yes, unlike my others, she is here every.single.day.of.the.week. I know her parents want all the 'break' they can get!

                        Ok...enough avoidance...back to the diva! happyface
                        Wow I have one of these in boy form. He is the greatest kid! I love him to pieces but he is in everyone's business all day long. I have the boy version of this and was going to look for helps on this too, so I am hoping to get some good insight to this issue. Again, great kid, only child. Parents pride and joy as should be but overkill a bit if you could call it that- I call it love but just in my face all day. What is next. So and so did this. Little things. He does test and rev up the other kids, but has understanding. So glad you posted this and looking for helps myself. I will say I make him my helper and he can't get enough of this or let the other kids stand a chance. Smart so he blurts out the answers to everything- How do we up that attention span of being more then a second and asking for what is next all the time? No issues developmentally.

                        Any suggestions- advice etc....

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                        • My3cents
                          Daycare.com Member
                          • Jan 2012
                          • 3387

                          #13
                          Originally posted by Kcole1075
                          I have the same thing with a 4 year old dcb. I can't give praise or try to do anything with another child without him wanting it too. He even wants the potty training praise like the toddlers when he go to the bathroom.
                          He is in my face about everything especially when I am trying to do some one on one time with another. He just needed the attention all the time.
                          aghhh yes this is my kiddo too.

                          Giving more attention doesn't seem to work with this kid, because he still wants more. Making him my special helped leaves no room for anyone else because he wants this privilege all the time. I high five someone else, um Where is my high five, can I have a high five too- even if I gave him one already. He is the universe and I get that, and he should be but he driving me batty at times! His little mind is just running steps ahead of everything-

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                          • Msdunny
                            Daycare.com Member
                            • Nov 2012
                            • 442

                            #14
                            Originally posted by My3cents
                            aghhh yes this is my kiddo too.

                            Giving more attention doesn't seem to work with this kid, because he still wants more. Making him my special helped leaves no room for anyone else because he wants this privilege all the time. I high five someone else, um Where is my high five, can I have a high five too- even if I gave him one already. He is the universe and I get that, and he should be but he driving me batty at times! His little mind is just running steps ahead of everything-
                            YES! This! I can be having a conversation with my husband or daughter, and she will be stand there saying, "what?" And if i tell her I wasn't talking to her, she will say, "well, what did you say to him?" Again, never in a mean or bratty way, just hyper involved. And if I give her too many opportunities to help, since she is the oldest, I think she starts to view herself as an adult and not a child. I've had her 'help' many times with putting littles in time-out. I can always tell she is here in the morning by the conversation in my driveway. I just don't think she ever stops thinking and talking!

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                            • spud912
                              Trix are for kids
                              • Jan 2011
                              • 2398

                              #15
                              Originally posted by Kcole1075
                              I was thinking it was too and I was being super nosey when I opened it.
                              Haha ditto!

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