DCM termed b/c I wont bend a policy.

[MCC]

The dreamfeeding post blew my mind and now this? parents never cease to amaze me! I can see wanting to be part of the first bday celebration, but sometimes it seems like new parents have to take a stand against their provider to establish themselves when its a partnership and you would think they would want to get along and realize that we have "rules" for a reason and that we might actually know what works best in our group! If you need individualized care... Hire a nanny! Ok phew! Pollyanna rant over ::

I think this is exactly what she is doing, it's like she is trying to prove to me that she is the mom. Lady- I get that, but I am the one who has 7 other children here during the day. I know what I have to do to make my day run smoothly, and you coming in at 10:30am with cupcakes, doesn't work for me.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Time to hire a nanny.

[TwinKristi]

I would tell her that her needs are that of someone who doesn't mesh well with group care and she needs to find a nanny who will cater to her needs. WE, as providers, know that some children are going to be a certain way regardless of where they are. This little baby is going to now go to another provider who will have to deal with her drama and bend over backwards to please her and just may do it. Good luck to her if she does because that mom will be all over it. If the other neighbor provider isn't someone you would normally talk to I wouldn't warn her. BUT he careful that DCM doesn't go talking trash about you!

[Play Care]

I have also been in the situation where it's a neighbor, plus, my town is very small... I would give her the number to you R&R Agency and wish her well. You don't need to be the one to "educate" her.

Then thank your lucky stars while doing the happy dancehappyfacehappyface

[julie]

R&R is probably the best course of action.

I would be tempted to look at her sideways and reply


"Dcm, I am confused as to why you are asking me this. Essentially you are leaving because your child is not a good fit for my program and you are upset you didn't get your way. The providers I associate with align closely to my beliefs. I would only send along potential families that I feel would be a success at the other daycare and would therefore respect my provider friends' policies and procedures. Setting you or them up in a situation that is destined to fail sounds like a really bad idea on both a professional or personal level. I am sure you can understand that. I wish you the best."

[spud912]

I have also been in the situation where it's a neighbor, plus, my town is very small... I would give her the number to you R&R Agency and wish her well. You don't need to be the one to "educate" her.

Then thank your lucky stars while doing the happy dancehappyfacehappyface

[MCC]

R&R is probably the best course of action.

I would be tempted to look at her sideways and reply


"Dcm, I am confused as to why you are asking me this. Essentially you are leaving because your child is not a good fit for my program and you are upset you didn't get your way. The providers I associate with align closely to my beliefs. I would only send along potential families that I feel would be a success at the other daycare and would therefore respect my provider friends' policies and procedures. Setting you or them up in a situation that is destined to fail sounds like a really bad idea on both a professional or personal level. I am sure you can understand that. I wish you the best."

This is very good.

[Kabob]

I would be glad she left.

Honestly I don't know why her unwillingness to host her child's birthday at her home was supposed to be your problem. If her child was that important to her then she would just have celebrated at home or taken the day off and celebrated there. You are not her captive audience to her relieving her guilt.

[BBDC]

I say good job staying with your rules! I would have probably given in so really good for you!happyface