Dreading Today

[Angelsj]

How old is this child?

It doesn't sound like ADD/ADHD to me but more of a discipline issue. Sounds to me like there is no plan for behavioral management at home.

Kids under SA are suppose to be impulsive, not ready to sit and learn, not keep their hands to themselves and be wild and crazy if they think they aren't being supervised.

Most cases of ADD/ADHD can't be properly diagnosed until age 7 when the child has been in an environment that requires them to have some impulse control.

Like I said, it simply sounds like this family is a walking case of chaos. Something that needs to reining in but not something that requires a diagnosis or medication.

Poor kid.

Typically, I would agree with you, and they don't diagnose true AD/HD until school age, until I met my current 2.5 yo. Trust me when I say this child WILL be diagnosed true AD/HD. There are some discipline issues, but for the most part, he has excellent parents who care a great deal, do NOT push them off on others, spend a lot of time with the kids and have a wonderful discipline policy. He is still way over the top. He can be very sweet, but he just has such a hard time controlling himself and EVERYTHING riles him up, and he just cannot wind down without help.

They are using a therapist to help teach themselves how to better help him. That is quality parenting.
That said, I don't necessarily disagree with you. "A" may just be suffering from bad parenting. It is an epidemic.

[Blackcat31]

Typically, I would agree with you, and they don't diagnose true AD/HD until school age, until I met my current 2.5 yo. Trust me when I say this child WILL be diagnosed true AD/HD. There are some discipline issues, but for the most part, he has excellent parents who care a great deal, do NOT push them off on others, spend a lot of time with the kids and have a wonderful discipline policy. He is still way over the top. He can be very sweet, but he just has such a hard time controlling himself and EVERYTHING riles him up, and he just cannot wind down without help.

They are using a therapist to help teach themselves how to better help him. That is quality parenting.
That said, I don't necessarily disagree with you. "A" may just be suffering from bad parenting. It is an epidemic.

Perfect example of what I meant. He has all the other things going on....good parenting, involved doctor's and therapists, a plan for behavior.

When all that isn't enough, it's pretty safe to say he probably has ADD/ADHD.

The way the OP explained her situation, the child had NONE of those things and was simply being "labeled" as ADD/ADHD because of their behaviors.

I truly believe ALL else should be addressed BEFORE jumping to the letter bandwagon...kwim?

From her description of the child's home life, it just sounded like chaotic parenting with little or no routine, discipline and/or guidance.

So yes, I think we ARE agreeing. Just saying it differently.