Kissing At Daycare

[ihop]

I have two dcgs that have been hugging quite often. They always ask if its okay before they hug the other. Also, keep telling everyone they love them.Today im making lunch and I hear "dcg can I have a kiss" so I run in here and stop them and tell them we don't kiss our friends and its not for daycare. The love comments and hugging seem appropriate but kissing just doesn't sit right with me.

Opinions? How to handle it in the future? Tia

[Michael]

Some other threads on kissing kids: https://www.daycare.com/forum/tags.php?tag=kissing+kids

[cheerfuldom]

I tell my own kids, no kissing on the lips and teach them that they can ask if they want to kiss someone (their family members or siblings) and then it should be on the cheek only. I would not let my daycare kids to kiss one another at all. I would encourage them toward more suitable manners for daycare such as a quick hug after they ask the other person and the other person says yes or they can also hold hands, again ask first and the other person has to say yes.

[Play Care]

I have a no kissing at day care rule. You don't want to know why

[spinnymarie]

Yep, definitely have a no kissing rule - hugging is ok if both parties agree. Short hugs. And I agree, it's not my favorite story as to why

[lovemykidstoo]

I just tell them no kissing because it spreads germs.

[blandino]

Okay, so clearly I am the odd man out. My kids are allowed to kiss each other, they don't do it too often though. But I kiss my DCK ALL THE TIME. I mean, we joke if they had kiss meters on them, they would be through the roof by the end of the of the day. I rarely kiss them on the lips, because of germs - but I kiss them on their cheeks, heads, and necks, all the time.

[kendallina]

I tell them that we save kisses for moms and dads and we can hug our friends. If pressed further, I tell them it's because of germs. Truthfully, I know kindergartens here will get sent to the principal's office for kissing so I'm just trying to reinforce it here. If someone does give a kiss, they don't get in trouble or anything, I just repeat, "oh, kissing is for moms and dads, we give our friends hugs." I try not to make a big deal over it.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I don't kiss them and they cannot kiss each other. The GERMS freak me out a little too much.

[Michelle]

Oh wow, I kiss my babies on the cheek, arms. head, hands..I really feel it's part of care.. loving on them and making them feel secure.
I don't let them kiss each other but I smother my own dd in kisses and these kids miss their mommy and feel left out :confused:
I never would kiss them on their lips, I feel that it's totally inappropriate.

I let them hug each other but only while standing up.
I can tell by their actions that some of these kids probably watch very risky movies and I know what you mean by not letting them kiss on the lips or only short hugs.

[Play Care]

As a parent I would be livid if I found out my child's care giver was kissing them. Totally inappropriate, IMO. Hugs, high fives, a pat on the back, etc. are all ways in which a caregiver can make a child feel special and loved. Infants can be cuddled and spoken to in a loving manner. It's not necessarily about germs for me though I have had issues with children and cold sores (herpes virus) but I feel strongly that some things should be left for the parents.

[Imagination's Creations]

I allow kissing on the cheek only and they have to ask first! We're all like a big family anyways!

[Maria2013]

I have two dcgs that have been hugging quite often. They always ask if its okay before they hug the other. Also, keep telling everyone they love them.Today im making lunch and I hear "dcg can I have a kiss" so I run in here and stop them and tell them we don't kiss our friends and its not for daycare. The love comments and hugging seem appropriate but kissing just doesn't sit right with me.

Opinions? How to handle it in the future? Tia

I don't want the kids in my care to think that it's wrong to show someone you love them, but I also know from experience that what starts out harmless, can very quickly turn the other way, so as a rule they have to ask me first otherwise they know it's "hands off other kids" (and mouth, feet...)...that way no one gets knocked over, kissed without consent, inappropriately touched etc.

[Maria2013]

As a parent I would be livid if I found out my child's care giver was kissing them. Totally inappropriate, IMO.

I work with kids 4 and under, I hug and kiss every single one of them, and most of their parents too
I think the differences in people, is part of why the world is so interesting

[Michelle]

As a parent I would be livid if I found out my child's care giver was kissing them. Totally inappropriate, IMO. Hugs, high fives, a pat on the back, etc. are all ways in which a caregiver can make a child feel special and loved. Infants can be cuddled and spoken to in a loving manner. It's not necessarily about germs for me though I have had issues with children and cold sores (herpes virus) but I feel strongly that some things should be left for the parents.

Wow, I wouldn't be mad at all if someone loved my baby as their own while I was working.
I guess it is just do what you are comfortable with.
Just today, we were at the park and someone asked me which kids were mine, and I said " none of them" and she said she couldn't tell.
I took it as a compliment.
It's just what I believe family daycare means to me, but that's just my opinion.
Kids kissing each other... no way
By the way, I don't kiss anyone that doesn't want a kiss or older kids.
or dads...::::::