Does DH Ever Do This to You

[Kcole1075]

My hubby treats me like I am home so I have all the free time in the world. Yes I am home but I don't have time to drop what I am doing and deal with this stuff.

It happened one with the internet guy, twice with the cable guy and todqy with his co-workers picking up some furniture.

His coworker called 4 times when I was trying to make lunch. I am just expected to drop everything forget about the kids and help her get the stuff out of my garage.

He gets off in 30 minutes and can deal with this but nooooo its my job because I am home so why can't I do it.

[Jack Sprat]

At first he did. Then after about a week of seeing how things worked (he eats lunch with us). He figured out that I don't have a lot of "free" time.

[Kcole1075]

I started in september but he just isn't getting it.

I want to shake him! Yes right now is nap time but nit everyone naps everyday (mostly the 5 year old) and I have to watch an make sure they aren't waking others. I am not going to have cranky kids because of a love seat!!

[craftymissbeth]

Yep! Except my DH focuses on why things just don't get done around here. I have only done laundry a handful of times since before Christmas. And I only wash the clothes that we NEED. I keep everything generally uncluttered, but he doesn't understand that I just cannot find the time to do much deep/detail cleaning. During nap time I'm stuck sitting in the playroom on the laptop or ipad because 14 mo dcg will wake up screaming bloody murder if there is any type of sound.

[e.j.]

At first he did. Then after about a week of seeing how things worked (he eats lunch with us). He figured out that I don't have a lot of "free" time.

My husband comes home for lunch every day, too, so he sees how busy I am. He rarely treats me as though I have all the time in the world; he knows better! If anything, he's the one who gets treated that way since he goes to work early and is out early. We schedule appointments so he can meet with the service people and he does the errands that can't wait until after day care hours. I guess I owe him a great big hug!

[itlw8]

I guess I have trained him over the years. I set up any apt because they can NOT be here at nap time.... as far as his coworker I would have politely says after the first call. I am sorry I am working Dh will get home around ___ and he can call you then so he can help you. No I am sorry you may not come without him there to help.

[SilverSabre25]

He used to...then he was laid off his job and home ALL THE TIME for several months. I used the opportunity to foist most of the work off on him.

He no longer thinks I have any freedom or free time at all. He's very understanding. Most of the time. And when he forgets, all it takes is me asking him what, exactly, he did all day...(he has a phone job, and can play on the internet between calls/during long holds/etc) and then he remembers.::

[Annalee]

My hubby treats me like I am home so I have all the free time in the world. Yes I am home but I don't have time to drop what I am doing and deal with this stuff.

It happened one with the internet guy, twice with the cable guy and todqy with his co-workers picking up some furniture.

His coworker called 4 times when I was trying to make lunch. I am just expected to drop everything forget about the kids and help her get the stuff out of my garage.

He gets off in 30 minutes and can deal with this but nooooo its my job because I am home so why can't I do it.

It is not just my husband....my extended family as well. I was asked if I could watch a yard sale in front of the house once.

[originalkat]

YES!:confused::confused:

[Kcole1075]

I am so glad I am not the only one!! I texted co-worker saying sorry you will need you wait for him. I also texted him saying he needs to be herr before she can get it. After that she still called twice.

He is home now so if she calls me agian I am going to hand him the phone .

[Kabob]

Dh is helpful and understanding but his family thinks I have it easy. Once I asked dh to change ds for me while his brother was visiting. His brother rolled his eyes and asked why dh had to do it. I said because ds is his responsibility too and I just spent 10 hours changing diapers that day. His brother said "Well you got PAID to change diapers all day so quit complaining." I smiled and said "That's true but I changed his son's diapers for free."

[CraftyMom]

Glad I'm not the only one!

[sharlan]

My dh's philosophy has always been, "S will take care of it."

He got in a car accident, about 30 yrs ago. I get a call. "My name is So and So. Your dh hit my car this morning. He told me to call you to get his license and insurance info."

Something breaks down, oh, S will take care of it.

He has absolutely NO IDEA as to what bills we have, what credit cards we have, how many savings accounts we have, or how to pay ANYTHING! My eldest dd knows far more about our personal affairs than he does.

My dds have a running argument as to who has to take custody of him if anything happens to me. Not who gets him, but who has to take him.

[daycarediva]

I made dh my backup. AND I used him. He has not only never complained again, he is a tremendous help.

[Annalee]

My dh's philosophy has always been, "S will take care of it."

He got in a car accident, about 30 yrs ago. I get a call. "My name is So and So. Your dh hit my car this morning. He told me to call you to get his license and insurance info."

Something breaks down, oh, S will take care of it.

He has absolutely NO IDEA as to what bills we have, what credit cards we have, how many savings accounts we have, or how to pay ANYTHING! My eldest dd knows far more about our personal affairs than he does.

My dds have a running argument as to who has to take custody of him if anything happens to me. Not who gets him, but who has to take him.

That is funny but I can relate to that because my brother (our houses are beside each other) tells me all the time I cannot pass first because he cannot take care of my hubby...and my kids depended/needed me.