"I Spilled Milk" = I Peed At The Lunch Table

[Starburst]

Saying she "spilled milk" instead of saying she peed/had an accident might be her idea of trying to cover it up so she doesn't get in trouble or embarrassed in front of the other kids.

or it could be that she heard her mom or someone else say something like "no use crying over spilt milk" when having an accident so she is trying to use it as an expression for peeing.

[cheerfuldom]

My oldest was day trained including naps well before 2. I put a little potty in her room at night and she would get up and pee and wipe herself off and tuck herself in at just over 2 years old. Some kids are just so independent about it. and then others, like my middle daughter, was having regular accidents till 4 years old. Even after that she will have an accident at least once every two weeks.

[daycare]

I have a 3.5 year old that screams at the drop of a hat when we transition.

IE today we were about to do a craft and I said after we sing some songs we are going to go to the art table. Instead of saying I am not interested or I would like to do something else, it's instant screaming.

I never could put my finger on it until I read BC response.The child is very part time, parents put a lot of pressure on the kid and expect a lot out of the kid from my program. The kid has never really gotten hang of our schedule and routines despite being here for 2.5 years.

every transition results in screaming. I termed the family 3 weeks ago, march 3 will be their last day here. I felt bad that the kid could not adapt after being here this long and felt that it was time to move on.

I agree could be just to much pressure and high expectations from the parents

[TheGoodLife]

Parents (DCM at least, don't know dad but he seems so nice from the 3 times we've seen eachother) are very supportive and I can't imagine them being very high pressure or demanding. Mom is the perfect mix of nice yet consistent/firm when needed. Best DCM I could have!

Today, however, I go in the bathroom to help her turn the water on to wash her hands and she had another accident, told me she didn't, and had taken the clothes off and put them back on (and they were SOAKED- not sure how she even got them on). So I told her that she's not in trouble for having an accident (again, I tell her each time) but that she had a time out for not telling me and then lying about it She's now in pull-ups until she goes w/o accidents for 2 weeks and I have to go with her to make sure she doesn't need help. Accidents are one thing, but I just can't have her peeing herself and not telling me so that I can clean it up properly and immediately. DCM said there's nothing different at home and we can't figure it out. But for now, that's where we'll sit I guess.

[daycarediva]

Parents (DCM at least, don't know dad but he seems so nice from the 3 times we've seen eachother) are very supportive and I can't imagine them being very high pressure or demanding. Mom is the perfect mix of nice yet consistent/firm when needed. Best DCM I could have!

Today, however, I go in the bathroom to help her turn the water on to wash her hands and she had another accident, told me she didn't, and had taken the clothes off and put them back on (and they were SOAKED- not sure how she even got them on). So I told her that she's not in trouble for having an accident (again, I tell her each time) but that she had a time out for not telling me and then lying about it She's now in pull-ups until she goes w/o accidents for 2 weeks and I have to go with her to make sure she doesn't need help. Accidents are one thing, but I just can't have her peeing herself and not telling me so that I can clean it up properly and immediately. DCM said there's nothing different at home and we can't figure it out. But for now, that's where we'll sit I guess.

If it's new and nothing is different, she may have a UTI. Just a thought.

[Starburst]

All my kids were PT by 2. Rarely do I get a DCK who is PT until they are 3. Did we try harder as parents or what?

I think it's because it takes a lot of time, patience and consistency to potty train a child. Most parents don't work at home and may just not have the time or patience to focus on that until the child is a little older. Also every child is different, and not every child is developmentally ready at 2. I used to babysit a 4 year old boy (almost 5) and was verbally delayed and had a difficult time potty training (also had issues with eating too). I would try to set regular potty check times every hour and he kept refusing (power struggle) and would wind up peeing his pants; his parents put him in underwear because he called pull ups/training pants "diapers" and would just use that instead of the toilet. After a while when I watched him regularly, he started getting the hang of it but when I didn't watch him for a while (went to a commercial DC center), he slipped a lot and was back in diapers.

Plus, on average, girls tend to potty train sooner than boys.