Jewerly in Daycare

[BentleysBands]

have a question another provider friend is having problems with..one of her dck's wears a necklace everyday to daycare. i did ask was it a religious thing and she said no...

what are your thoughts on this?

Me personally , i would remove it. 1-it could choke child 2-could break

she said she has talked to the parents but they still send dck with it on. i suggested removing it. she said she did once and the parents freaked on her.

[SilverSabre25]

I think nothing of it unless the child is taking the necklace off and messing with it. As long as the child just leaves it on, who cares? Honestly, what is the chance that the necklace is going to somehow choke the child while she's going about her normal business, or even while she's napping? When was the last time you ever heard of that happening to an adult? Plenty of adults wear necklaces day and night. I've never heard of one choking someone. And as for it breaking? I doubt that's going to happen out of nowhere unless the child is messing with it, and if she wears it everyday, I doubt she is. Or I suppose another child could mess with it, which the provider needs to nip in the bud immediately...but I doubt it's going to happen. And if it does break for some reason...what's the big deal?

No offense, but I think both you and your friend need to quit being such worrywarts and just leave it be. So you wouldn't do it if it was your kid...oh well. It's not your kid, the necklace is NOT likely to kill the child, and the parents put it on her and obviously want her to wear it. If it really worries your friend, maybe she could make up some sort of "liability release" or permission slip stating that the parents release her of any reasonable blame should something happen as a result of the child wearing the necklace or if the necklace should happen to break.

And, some of you who worry too much about things might want to check out the Free Range Kids blog sometime...get some perspective.

[DancingQueen]

if they leave it on I'm fine with it.
I banned silly bands because I found one in a 2 year old's mouth and they are NOT easy to get out of their mouthes and kids were taking them off and leaving them around.

but if you keep them on I'm so OK with it.

[nannyde]

No hats, barrettes, jewelry, watches, belts, or clothing with strings attached

[BentleysBands]

No hats, barrettes, jewelry, watches, belts, or clothing with strings attached

this is my thought too, thanks!

on what a PP said: i jsut feel on a smaller child its not necessary IN daycare. i personally have my DS (6) wear his amber bead necklace but not to school. things happen and i just dont want to be responsible. esp. when outside playing...kids can grab, can get caught on something...anything...

[DancingQueen]

maybe I was picturing an older child... how old?

[BentleysBands]

i *think* she said the girl is 2 1/2 yrs and the sibling was under a year. Not totally sure but too young IMO.

she told me this morning that she is just removing when parents leave and in afternoons putting back on to avoid problems....imo, i wouldnt want to tip toe around like that and have the stress of putting back on real quick....but hope it works for her.

[DancingQueen]

I wouldn't tip toe either.
and at 2.5 I would't be comfortable with it either.

For those that say NO jewelry - are you OK with earrings?

[DCMom]

I personally wouldn't care. If the child was taking off or it was causing a problem in some other way, then I would put it in her cubby. I have kids who wear ponies, barrettes, belts, ties, earrings, etc. everyday. My 'banned' list would be a mile long if I started thinking about all the things that 'could' happen.

If it really bugs your friend that much and she has already spoken to the parent, she needs to remove it and put it away till pick up time. Then physically hand it to the parent and request that it not be worn at daycare; I wouldn't bother putting it back on, that's sneaky. If she feels that strongly about it, than stand your ground.

I just think there are bigger battles. Just my opinion.

[momofsix]

i have one that wears a necklace everyday, it is a medic-alert necklace for nut allergies. He always has to have it on. It drives me nuts because he''s always got it in his mouth, and he's now 6! He had it since he was 2 though.

[nannyde]

I wouldn't tip toe either.
and at 2.5 I would't be comfortable with it either.

For those that say NO jewelry - are you OK with earrings?

No earrings

[DancingQueen]

Wow to the no earrings. Especially when they get them pierced and they have to leave them in for a long time without removing them.

I'm super strict about the bringing things from home rule but I think the belts, earrings and hair ties might be even over the top for me.

[Unregistered]

We don't have any policies in place, other than to say we aren't responsible for broken or lost jewelry, barrettes, etc., if a child were to lose it. We do suggest they keep stuff like that home. And if a child were to constantly mouth or remove a piece of jewelry, we'd take it off (for safety reasons) and tell the parents why. I don't see the point in removing a belt - we have a toddler who wears one occasionally (he obviously wears an older siblings hand me down pants that are too big - w/o a belt his pants would fall down), and while it's a pain in the butt during diaper changing, it's not like he's going to hang himself or beat another child. Removing it is just overkill.

We also have a 2 & 3 year old who both wear religious items.... crucifixes - we have no problem with them either. They never bother with them and both necklaces remain beneath the clothes. If a toddler leaves it alone, I just wouldn't feel right telling a parent that their child wasn't allowed to wear a religious item.

[MyAngels]

I do this on a case-by-case basis. If the child is responsible with the jewelry, barrettes, earrings, etc., then ok. If it becomes a problem either for the child or the other children, then it gets put away, and I discuss the reasons with the parents at pick up. I do remind families periodically that I am not responsible if something gets lost or broken, but I've honestly never had a problem with that anyway. Well, except for the time that one of the parents got obsessed over a $2 calculator that disappeared here - that thing has not surfaced yet ::.

[momofsix]

Wow to the no earrings. Especially when they get them pierced and they have to leave them in for a long time without removing them.

I'm super strict about the bringing things from home rule but I think the belts, earrings and hair ties might be even over the top for me.

I agree. All of my baby girls have their ears pierced, and since they've "always" been pierced no one notices or messes with them. I also have African American children that NEED their hair done (you'd understand if you ever tried to comb their hair after it was "down" for a couple days) and also girls with very "fine" hair that need it up and away from their faces. I also have some SUPER skinny boys that need belts-even with slim pants that are on the tightest waist buttons they need belts (unless I want them to look like the high schooolers that walk down my street::