Do You LIKE All Of Your Dck And Their Families?

[Live and Learn]

I LOVE three and tolerate one.
I feel bad that I don't love dc kid like the rest.
My whiny screamer. Do you just "keep on keeping on" even though you don't honestly love the child or do you cut your losses and look for a replacement?
I have been doing this for several years now and can honestly say this is the first dck I have felt this way about....the family is no better in my book (whiny too), tries to abuse sick policy, tries to be late with payments unless I hold their hands and remind them....super hovering, lingering at pick up. I just feel bad that I don't truly love her and worry she can sense this and that it adds to her whiny screamy temperament. Maybe I am just laying a guilt trip on myself.
Just call me "tired and exasperated!"

[SilverSabre25]

I like, even love, most of my dcks. But there is one right now that I just cannot stand. I can't stand her (she's very screamy and screeches this awful animal sound if another child comes near her/touches her/has a toy she wants/etc) and I can't stand her parents, who recently messed around with their payment and their attendance schedule and manipulated it all around to where they're paying me MUCH less than they oughta be for the hours the girl is here. I'm terming her as soon as I get a replacement.

[DCMomOf3]

Do you think that if the parents were better you would love the child more? I have had a family in the past that I wonder that about.

[Live and Learn]

OOOOOO! Quincy good question. honestly I think my feelings about the parents probably make an already difficult situation worse....I am just being brutally honest here. I don't like the sound of a whiny screeching toddler and knowing the parents as well as I do I can see why the child is this way. The child already has a "certain special type" of personality and then add the parents in the mix....I don't know.....I think I will keep my options open and if a full timer comes along.....

I do feel guilty though for not bonding with her though.

[BentleysBands]

good question and i love the honesty!

i pretty much like all my parents but a few of the kids i tolerate....mainly screamer baby and biter/hitter boy i have..

hard to get close to a child who has/does behaviors that make your skin crawl ::

[DancingQueen]

I LOVE one of my parents
I LIKE the rest
I borderline HATE one of my dkdads but I LIKE the mom so I tolerate him.

The kids? I LOVE one of them so much that if they paid me enough to just have him I would LOL
The rest are all good kids and I like them and am learning to love them

the boy I termed I didn't like at all - liked his parents but could see their part in his behavior. I think it was unfair of me to watch him as long as I did considering how I felt about him - I think he should be cared for by someone that wanted to be around him and that absolutely was not me

[AfterSchoolMom]

I LOVE two of mine, but GREATLY DISLIKE the parent.

I LOVE another, but TOLERATE the parent.

I TOLERATE one child, but LOVE the parent.


It's funny how that works out, isn't it? I guess you can't have it all...

[nannyde]

Yes I love my day care kids very much. All of them.

My daycare parents work their way into my affections over time. The ones who commit to the day care and stay have a very special place in my heart. I respect them for their choice and appreciate it.

So my affection towards them is almost always proportional to their commitment to the day care. That's only shown when they pay and stay.

[Crystal]

I second what Nannyde said. I feel the same way.

[laundryduchess@yahoo.com]

I love 12 families,.. love one kid but, have no respect for his parents. Guess who is being termed when one of my love families baby turns 8 weeks? I am too personally involved in their lives to not love them. truly as part of our family,.. this is the lying, hiding, secretive mom who smells.

[missnikki]

Well said, Nannyde.
That being said, I wish I had the option to term families. I can't since I am part of a school, so there would be too much red tape.
There are 2 girls (age 13) that I absolutely cannot stand. Sad part- it's not just 'that age', their parents, sisters and extended family are all horrible examples of human beings. It's sad, really.

[DanceMom]

Hhmmm...I wouldnt say that I LOVE my dck's - my love is for my kids and family and close friends only. Do I like them..of course. I still show them a lot of "love" and affection even tho I dont truly love love them

The parents..not so much. Really like one of the moms..and one of the dads...all the others - not my style. I would never chose them as friends outside of this job. Except the one mom..I could totally hang out with her..she is down to earth, easy going relaxed. The other moms are very uptight about everything...but I do love that they are all here and have been for 3 yrs now and I appreciate them.

[Unregistered]

I love all my day care kids too. For me, it usually takes about a month of caring for them for this to happen. Even the one who is more of a handful than the rest eventually manages to steal my heart. If you care, feed, talk with them every single day, they almost become like your adopted children. Eventually, they can't help but grow on you... at least they do to me.

[kidkair]

I fall deeply in love with most of my kids very quickly. I love about 1/2 the parents and like the other 1/2. I know I love them because I think about them constantly and would be heart broken if any of them left. I have a hard time when one is out sick because I want to be there for them in their pain too. I also have a hard time when they are out for fun with their families cause I miss them and want to share their day with them.

[Gurdy]

I have a dcg that I actually like now, but I have had her since she was 6 weeks old and for most of that time I really did not like her at all. From the time that she was 3mo to the time that she potty trained she would have a minimum of 3 bm diapers a day, really nasty ones too! From the time she was 9mos, when put down for a nap she would always strip all of her clothes off and pee and poop all over, then play in it. I would check on her and she would be sound asleep, 10 min later I would go to check on her and she would be naked and covered in pee/poop. Her mom would tell me that at home, at night, she would do this 2 or 3 times every night. It was like she never actually slept- I had to keep her at my side from the moment she walked in my door to the moment she left for the day, or she would be naked and peeing all over something. When other parents would come to pick up their kids and I would be distracted helping them leave, she would strip down. Every chance she got, she would be naked! Since she has been potty trained- all of that stopped. This child made me question my ability to care for children. She made me feel like I was a horrible person, because I REALLY did not like her. How could someone dislike a baby??????? I cried every night about this child. I thought about terming, but decided I couldn't- she was my biggest challenge and now I actually really like her.