No More Miss. Nice Daycare Lady

[Kcole1075]

I have had enough! ! My backbone is fully in I am not going to be walked on anymore.

I told dcm of a 4 year old yesterday that unless his behavior and listening improve then she will have to make other childcare arrangements. This child has flat out ignored or flung his arms and kicked screamed when asked to to something or asked not to do something

Today I am going to have a conversation with my mom who ignores my policies. And telling her these are not options or suggestions and she needs to follow them or I will have to terminate the contract. She has plenty of chances this morning was the last straw.



On a side note how do I word that I expect children over a certain to be able to do things for themselves like put on shoes pull up pants ect. Thst is my next issue to deal with

[Blackcat31]

I have had enough! ! My backbone is fully in I am not going to be walked on anymore.

I told dcm of a 4 year old yesterday that unless his behavior and listening improve then she will have to make other childcare arrangements. This child has flat out ignored or flung his arms and kicked screamed when asked to to something or asked not to do something

Today I am going to have a conversation with my mom who ignores my policies. And telling her these are not options or suggestions and she needs to follow them or I will have to terminate the contract. She has plenty of chances this morning was the last straw.



On a side note how do I word that I expect children over a certain to be able to do things for themselves like put on shoes pull up pants ect. Thst is my next issue to deal with

I love love love the Montessori approach and have the following quote printed in my handbook and on the wall in my entry way. It is also something that is an ongoing topic of conversation with my families.

"Never help a child with a task at which he feels he can succeed." ~ Maria Montessori

[Kcole1075]

I love love love the Montessori approach and have the following quote printed in my handbook and on the wall in my entry way. It is also something that is an ongoing topic of conversation with my families.

"Never help a child with a task at which he feels he can succeed." ~ Maria Montessori

I love that. I am so going to use it.

[grandmom]

Never help a child do something you know they can do. If you do, you are saying "you are incompetent." Do you want your child to believe he's incompetent?

Tell parents that often.

[Kcole1075]

That is kinda the problem now he thinks and says I can't but he is capable of pulling up his pants.

[daycare]

here is one thing that you can try. I got the idea from BC and it worked well with me.

i had a parent in the past that sounded just like yours, the kid too.

So when DCK was acting like an out of control fool for the 2nd time that day, I called DCM and she had to come pick up.

Since dcm was not doing anything to all of my request prior to that, she learned really quick to follow through, especially after I had to call her pick her DCK up on 3 different occasions for behavior.

As I was taught, put the problem back on her.

[Kcole1075]

[QUOTE=daycare;429909]here is one thing that you can try. I got the idea from BC and it worked well with me.

i had a parent in the past that sounded just like yours, the kid too.

So when DCK was acting like an out of control fool for the 2nd time that day, I called DCM and she had to come pick up.

Since dcm was not doing anything to all of my request prior to that, she learned really quick to follow through, especially after I had to call her pick her DCK up on 3 different occasions for behavior.

As I was taught, put the problem back on her.[/QUOTE



I want to try this but I worry it wont be as effective because mom actually runs a home buisness. She needed me because she had a lot of orders but now there isnt as much buisness but her and dcd decided it would be good for him to get socialized.


The behavior child is the same one who wont do things for himself anf mom has no problem doing it for him. I have to step In at pick up and tell him "dcb you can put on your shoes" or "show mom how well you put on your shoes" otherwise she will do it.